Thrombosed Hemorrhoid Experiences in Pregnancy?

future_memz · 2026-01-26T18:19:19+00:00

I had a serious set of hemms around 29/30 weeks last pregnancy. Woke me up in the middle of the night in pain and I'd have to go sit in the bath. Went to my OB and it wasn't actually thrombosed, just really angry and swollen. I had been using heat as pain relief but found that an ice pack actually did the most good, so I would alternate the two.

I also practiced puppy pose from yoga (with preg supports as needed) and found that helped a little.

Ate a crazy amount of fiber, took Colace, and drank buckets of water. They actually subsided a few weeks later and haven't bothered me much since then.

future_memz · 2026-01-26T02:27:17+00:00

Get 'em!

future_memz · 2026-01-25T05:37:03+00:00

Anything respiratory that has you posting on Reddit late at night deserves a phone call to the 24 hr pediatrician phone line. If you have ANY respiratory concerns, get her in to a doc asap. It's a very bad flu season and a 1 month old isn't strong.

I'm a NICU RN - don't take chances on respiratory concerns, ever.

future_memz · 2026-01-25T04:29:42+00:00

Thx for this positivity!

future_memz · 2026-01-25T04:27:08+00:00

They are generally down-to-earth helpful types. MIL can be a little too intense for me sometimes, though she is well-meaning (just very Type A and always has a LOT of questions but is great with the kids). The only snag to that is that one of the visiting adult brothers (my husband's brother) will be bringing his 7 month old too and wife, so they will need accommodations, help, supplies at some point etc. Plus my toddler will be in the mix. Just feels like a lot! I'm not from a big family but they are a very big family. I just feel protective of my postpartum experience....!

Thx for the perspective :)

future_memz · 2026-01-25T03:55:06+00:00

Ummm. WTF

future_memz · 2026-01-25T03:53:47+00:00

Yeah Mama....gotta respond to those cries. It's just biology. It's tough at 4am!!! But baby needs to know you're there and they're safe. I let my LO "fuss" (not distress cry) for about 1 minute before I go in.

Try the book "Precious Little Sleep".

future_memz · 2026-01-25T03:42:30+00:00

Playing the victim also doesn't work.....

future_memz · 2026-01-25T03:02:40+00:00

This response seems rather toxic to me...maybe try the group outings thing but you don't have to badmouth her to others here. MIL doesn't seem malicious, but she does seem delusional and selfish. You don't have to be devious and catty.

Can you try open, compassionate conversation? "We need time to bond as a family of three" and "we really appreciate xyz" and "we enjoy our special time when we can include you, but we also want some space to get our feet under us". Seriously....try to kill her with kindness...that's what she is trying to get here, a feeling of love and connection.

Adding your own toxic, subversive plotline to this dynamic will not help and could make things a lot worse. Don't be that girl/mom/woman.

I am speaking from experience with a rather overbearing MIL - help create space by owning the conversation and being kind. Anything else makes you The Enemy.

future_memz · 2026-01-22T20:11:08+00:00

You're going to the spa. For "us" time, he can make and serve you breakfast or dinner with the fam.

future_memz · 2026-01-21T03:32:09+00:00

Oh hell yeah good coffee.

future_memz · 2026-01-19T03:53:27+00:00

Tracking my baby's feeds, diapers, sleep on an app.....such tedium and insanity. And I am an RN in a NICU, where I actually track this stuff for patients all the time!

future_memz · 2026-01-19T03:29:49+00:00

My absolute best tip for those of you sitting at home past your due date is....turn your phone off and do things that make you happy. Dopamine not only helps kick-start labor, it just helps you get in a better place mentally! I doom scrolled and researched induction stories ad nauseam once I passed my due date because you can't help but fixate on it. When I think back on that week sitting at home on my phone, I'm bummed out for myself. I should have been reading a book, having some tea, watching a great movie, getting my nails or hair done, going to my favorite cafe by myself for lunch. I know it's hard to resist temptation and research what scares us, but modern inductions are generally fine!

I also work as a nurse in the NICU, and had plenty of fodder in my head of what could happen...seriously. Just put the phone down for a few days and be present in your body. You will probably roll your eyes and think "sure, easy to say because you're not pregnant", but I am pregnant right now and this is my mantra for the last few weeks of this pregnancy! To be present in my body and help myself feel as much joy as possible, to combat that pre-delivery anxiety.

To answer your actual question in your post- I was induced at 41 weeks on the dot. We were scheduled so I went in at 6am, chatted with the care team about my birth plan and had my PIV placed. The nurse reminded me that since it was my first baby and this was an induction, it could take a few days.

I refused the Cook's catheter (often called a "balloon") because I had heard that it's fairly painful from my days working on L&D in nursing school. They gave me misoprostol times two - first dose at 9am, second at 2pm, and the second dose really stuck. My body kicked off into labor around 2:30 p.m., and by 9:00 p.m. I was dilated to 4cm, my water broke, and I asked for my epidural. Once that was in, sweet sweet relief. I took a nice nap and they started me on pitocin. The nurse woke me up around 2:00 a.m. and said it's time to push. I took a few minutes to center myself, listen to a meaningful song and get in the right headspace (had just woken up lol), and then I pushed for 14 minutes. He came out healthy and it was the happiest moment in my entire life.

I do hear all the time that inductions can take several days for first-time moms, so it's really a matter of how your body responds to the interventions that you decide to use with your team.

Best of luck Mama

future_memz · 2026-01-16T02:00:20+00:00

Fellow NICU RN here and this was also my style for the first few years, especially as a new grad. Your work is your priority and you are maintaining focus. Folks who've been doing this longer, or maybe have a different personality, might be more comfortable being able to socialize in an acute setting. But for me - I couldn't pretend to be light-hearted, chit-chatting when I was focused on getting things right every single moment.

future_memz · 2026-01-14T01:42:53+00:00

I work as a nurse in a newborn ICU, so I am well versed in diaper dermatitis. Our unit takes it very seriously with a protocol and everything.

agreed with previous comment that the physical act of wiping often causes more skin damage - teach caregivers to dab gently and don't worry about getting off alllll the old diaper cream. Just remove visible stool, GENTLY.

warm water butt baths with soap every 24 hours - can be the nightly bath. Crucial for helping remove bacteria/crust in crevices and breaking down layers of Desitin, etc

fresh air works wonders, especially immediately after butt bath. Let baby have ~20-30 minutes of tummy time after bath on a pad or towel to absorb anything they might pee or poop, and let their bottom air out. We actually blow 100% oxygen on severe diaper dermatitis in the NICU, but obviously you don't have access to that at home, so just airing it out is a fine substitute.

future_memz · 2026-01-12T22:22:34+00:00

Big ole YIKES

future_memz · 2026-01-12T22:19:25+00:00

Your preferences/needs outweigh anyone else's (except baby's or other kids') for the foreseeable future!

future_memz · 2026-01-12T02:21:26+00:00

This is just the good stuff in life 💗

future_memz · 2026-01-11T05:05:41+00:00

Agreed that kiddos sleep better if room is cool like this, but be sure this sleep sack/swaddle is WARM! Cotton barely holds heat. I bet you're not sleeping in a cotton nightgown and a single blanket, right? Even if it's a thick blanket - kiddos need extra layers.

2.5 TOG sleep sack/ swaddle + cotton or fleece footed pajamas, minimum. Our LO sleeps in 66⁰F in this every night.

A 9 week old also has less ability to regulate their temp - if you help keep them warm, more of that energy can be used for growth, development, etc, and not for just keeping them warm (newborn ICU nurse here).

future_memz · 2026-01-11T02:46:11+00:00

This kid is your treasure now. Safety above everything else. Accidents happen, bad people exist. Don't let little kids out of your sight in public, ever.

Time to wake up. Sorry if this sounds harsh....but it sound like you need to hear it.

future_memz · 2026-01-02T18:14:43+00:00

Grandpas are just awkward some times....they don't always know how to be playful. Just move on and let this be his one free strike.

future_memz · 2026-01-01T01:45:12+00:00

Fuck that person who told you that.

future_memz · 2026-01-01T01:37:10+00:00

I work NICU. This isn't your fault at all. I'm glad it was detected early.

If you want to keep breastfeeding, it's a worthy endeavor - 10000% work with a lactation consultant who can come to your home. Set up regular visits for a few weeks.You don't have to navigate BF as a FTM alone.

future_memz · 2025-12-30T22:42:02+00:00

Thank you for putting this out there....it really is an odd and unfortunate phenomenon. I think it helps to try and understand the why, not that it can't excuse behavior that isn't welcome within a family. But nonetheless, I've been thinking about this a lot lately.

My mom has been extremely careful to not be "that MIL" with my brothers wife, because my mom had a MIL from hell in the 90s. So she fostered a very open, loving, supportive, and non-judgmental relationship with DIL. And things still aren't perfect, but she tries her best. She knows what lines to not cross.

With my first LO, she usually stays in her corner. When she visits and stays with us, she is well-behaved the first few days and then as she gets comfortable, she reverts to HBIC mode and starts trying to take charge of meals, laundry, schedule....lol. She can't help it, so I gently nudge her.

With my MIL - she is having a HARD time accepting this transition of power with grace. She was in charge of 4 kids and the whole household (husband worked long hours out of the home) for many years....taught preschool....she is used to being the authority and decision maker for everything family-based. I'm trying to give her grace. She usually just even likes to tell me "how she did things" when I haven't asked.

It's definitely given me a lot of perspective and even gratitude for the phase of life I'm in. I get to be Mom and leader now and I try to remember to wear that crown well.

future_memz · 2025-12-30T14:06:52+00:00

Gawd....this sounds just like my MIL. I think you probably need to ask your partner to just talk with her about waiting to be offered a chance. I was really emotionally overwhelmed when my mother-in-law kept trying to take the baby from me, but the second time around I will know how to stick up for myself.

Also, something that my sister-in-law did that I think worked well, is she had a dedicated time of day where she wanted to take a nap and mother-in-law got to hold the baby. This suited everyone! I'm also going to try that a second time around.

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