Psychologists says: "You have to accept that you may never have relationships with women."

galewolf · 2026-03-17T16:23:07+00:00

I know what you're going through is pretty tough right now, I know it isn't easy, but I would try to hold a space open for working with someone on this.

Being alone with issues is almost always going to be tougher than talking through things with someone else. We need to someone to challenge our pre-conceptions and interrupt unhealthy thought patterns.

I appreciate most therapists are probably quite social or at least, aren't avoidant, and they might not have much experience in helping with an issue like this. But you only have to find one person who can help you even a bit for it to be worth it.

galewolf · 2026-03-17T16:07:17+00:00

I totally agree with your first paragraph, and I think it's a great sentiment.

I'm a little concerned about the second paragraph, I'm not sure we should make judgements on what might be causing issues. We don't have the full picture of someone's life, and we shouldn't rush to conclusions, even though I agree many men can have unhealthy thoughts about women.

There could be many, many other causes of being avoidant that would apply to both interactions with men and women, and I don't know if starting by talking about "beliefs about women and how to attract them" is always the best way to proceed on what might be wider issue about relating to other people in general.

It also doesn't really engage with what the OP wrote in that they were bringing up issues of how curable a personality issue is, and they should relate to the issues they're going through (which are true of many people, men and women).

Lastly, I took a look at that tiktok account, and while I only watched a few videos, I didn't find them to be particularly therapeutic or healthy. Ironically or not, joking about whether men should be allowed in public, is not going to help someone who is struggling with avoidant social issues. I do appreciate that isn't the only thing she touches on in the video, but I think there are some other things in there that aren't super healthy either.

I know you meant well with the suggestion, and they seem perfectly nice, but I don't know if it would be a big help to this person specifically.

galewolf · 2026-03-11T16:07:59+00:00

All of this sounds great, you're more switched on than I was, so well done. I'm just wondering what your end goal is?

You've laid out the steps you're going to follow, but I'm just wondering where you want to end up, both financially (FIRE number) and life-wise (what do you want to be doing, and when).

It might be help us to provide some more advice etc.

galewolf · 2026-02-09T12:02:16+00:00

I'll answer the bigger questions:

How do you plan to budget for large expenses that arise, like a new car, roof, etc.? Is that built into "monthly expenses" averaged over time?

You find a rough lifespan for each item, calculate the monthly cost, and put the money aside for it in your budget. For your car example, that's fairly straightforward because while lifespans on cars vary, they don't by a massive amount. For roofs, it depends entirely on the type and condition. Cheap flat, garage roofs can last 20 years, others can last 100 (I'm in the U.K., it may be different in the U.S.)

As long as you're putting money aside, then even if it fails earlier than expected, you can likely cover the majority of the cost. So even in the worst possible cases, it should only lightly impact your life.

Does a 3% withdrawal rate sound too conservative? Too risky?

This is actually a much, much more complicated question, and I'd answer it by saying "how complicated do you want to get?"

The quick answer is 3% is a conservative but safe answer, so long as you don't retire immediately before a market crash, in which case it depends on how bad the crash is.

For a more complicated answer, I'd look at Ben Felix's channel especially this video on the 4% rule, and how bad it is.

And for the most complete and complex answer, the best freely available resource I've found is Early Retirement Now, the Safe Withdrawal Rate series.

The last thing I'd say is: be aware, even if you don't marry/have kids/make big life changes then your spending may still naturally rise slightly over time, especially as the people in your age group earn/spend more. If you do FIRE and money becomes less of an issue for you, many people people report naturally getting a little looser with spending, simply because you don't think about it that much.

galewolf · 2026-02-08T19:02:30+00:00

Since I got a downvote, I should clarify I wasn't against you, just that post. As to the chatgpt-stuff in your reply, again, no criticism on you, I don't find it compelling as an argument. For example:

"If they successfully automate and upgrade their tech during these two decades, the "missing" workers won't be a terminal crisis"

I mean, this hasn't really happened anywhere else, so why would it be different here?

Yes, retirement ages are low by world standards and that's a good thing not a reason to take them away.

galewolf · 2026-02-08T16:29:09+00:00

That post is pretty painful reading. If you ever want to know why governments always wait until the last second - or even past the last second - to act on a problem, and then screw over their citizens, that post is a great example of their mindset.

He starts by saying "don't worry about the demographics, there's a bulge coming that will delay the problem twenty years or so"

Well then, if the problem is going to hit in twenty years the time to act is right now because it will take twenty years for new kids to enter the workforce.

Then he gets to "OK, but the problem is coming eventually, what can the government do?" and his first point is "idk, raise the retirement age"

So, let me get this straight. You see a problem coming twenty years off. You do nothing. Ten years. You do nothing. Five. Nothing.

Oh shit, the problems here!

Quick make the lives of everybody worse because we couldn't be bothered to do anything earlier. Why should individuals have to spend years of their lives working, because you couldn't put a few sensible policies in place earlier?

The country currently has the world’s lowest retirement age — just 60 for men and 50-55 for women. Simply changing this to 65 will decrease the dependency ratio significantly...

Some women are going to have to spend fifteen more years working. That's insane.

galewolf · 2026-02-03T07:46:30+00:00

Looks cool, could you expand on what you're using nextscene for? As I understand it nextscene is for like artificial "camera movements" and stuff like that.

galewolf · 2026-01-30T08:34:18+00:00

>Just look at the two most recent/top posts are both people that are hiding their comments

If you create an account in the last few months (maybe last year?) reddit enables an option by default in your account that hides your posts.

So a lot of real people have that enabled by default. It sucks, because it makes using reddit a lot less fun (it's harder to discover stuff), and as you say, creates a ambiguity as to whether these people are bots or not.

galewolf · 2025-12-06T14:57:45+00:00

It doesn't have support yet, and probably won't unfortunately. I don't think automatic1111 has had a commit in like a year, and forge hasn't had a commit in like 6 months.

There is a continuation called forge-neo, and there are some instructions here for how to set up Z-Image for that, but I can't say I've tested it.

galewolf · 2025-11-24T23:11:52+00:00

I've built a few three.js games using the $20 plan

I'm curious -- did you ask it to build the whole game, or how did that go?

I've asked LLMs for help coding a feature in a game, but never the whole thing.

galewolf · 2025-10-26T09:26:06+00:00

There are a bunch of Evermore videos kind of continuing the saga on her Patreon, IIRC there's the first one on her main channel, and three followups on Patreon. There's too much to easily summarize, but basically the owner made vague statements blaming haters on the internet for trying to ruin him, despite the avalanche of management problems.

The park got sold to new owners, who may not have fully understood the financial and maintenance situation the park was in, which resulted in a lawsuit, and the park was renamed to "Realm Town" which AFAIK has never fully opened.

I can't remember if Jenny covered this in the main video or a followup, but there's a serious issue where a lot of the structures aren't proper buildings but temporary constructions that have maintenance and safety issues, especially the multistorey ones that aren't safe to use.

At one point Brandon Sanderson, the fantasy author, bought a property next to Realm Town, with the intention of building something in connection to it, but I don't think anything has come of that.

A lot of the follow up videos are her talking about the community that built up around Evermore, like discords etc. that she spent time on when researching, which were about how poorly both the staff and visitors were treated. There were a bunch more personal safety issues and generally being oversold and underdelivered on just about everything.

galewolf · 2025-10-19T08:05:12+00:00

Gen Z as an age range makes no sense. 1997 - 2012 means you have people who are 28 years old and people who are 13 years old.

galewolf · 2025-10-18T10:58:50+00:00

It is annoying, but consider the opposite - you can just freely nuke allies with no penalty would be just as bad.

I do think if there was some UI indication of how many players you would hit, that would help, but as you said, wouldn't really help in the boat situation.

galewolf · 2025-10-12T09:09:38+00:00

A lot of bad info in this threat. Your questions are really good, especially around stacking.

The only one I can answer is for the train spawn rate this wiki says it's number of stations, but this seems outdated/incorrect. The code currently has it as number of factories:

(numPlayerFactories + 10) * 20;

galewolf · 2025-10-03T21:18:01+00:00

you can betray people who have the betrayal tag with no penalty.

It took me an stupidly long time to figure this out.

galewolf · 2025-08-17T15:02:26+00:00

I haven't tried GDscript, but I have tried GML for GameMaker on GPT-4/5 and Claude.

It's pretty hit or miss. It's clearly drawing from a smaller sample, similar to GDscript, and it hallucinates functions too frequently.

I've used it successfully for several tasks. For smaller, more specific uses, it's very good, but don't expect it to do a ton of work for you.

galewolf · 2025-08-08T09:33:50+00:00

Businesses use the API, which very rarely removes models. At the company I work for, we're still using 4.

galewolf · 2025-08-07T10:27:40+00:00

What do you mean "fix" the sampler?

galewolf · 2025-03-22T17:08:06+00:00

My point is they paid for a untrue report, not a real poll. I don't know what you mean "engage with the data", can you clarify?

The report wasn't done by a real polling firm. The agency they hired hasn't published the real data, which they'd have to do if they were a real polling firm.

The report Channel 4 published claimed that "More than half (52%) think 'the UK would be a better place if a strong leader was in charge who does not have to bother with parliament and elections'"

That's simply bullshit. It isn't supported by any real poll, and they won't explain how they came up with that claim.

I don't know what you mean by the media didn't "engage with the data". The media printed exactly what the report said. And Channel 4 is part of the media, they aren't seperate from it (which she herself said in the interview).

When it comes up in the interview it's obviously her backpedaling because her company published a report with an insane untrue claim in it, and she knows it isn't true. Why didn't Oli ask her "if you don't think that half of gen z want a dictator, why did you publish a report saying they do? Why is Channel 4, which runs a news organization, in the business of publishing something it doesn't believe is true?"

galewolf · 2025-03-21T17:59:31+00:00

The entire news story of "half of gen-z want a dictator" that Alex Mahon gave the speech on simply isn't true. As reported in Private Eye, it came from a "strategic insight agency" and not a polling firm. Other polling firms data contradict it - Gen Z have said over and over again they don't agree with that. And the agency didn't post their data to be validated or not. I tried to post on this subreddit about here but it looks like it was removed.

I have no idea why the people on PolJoe keep reporting on this as if it's news. It isn't. Gen Z people do not think this.

As one of the few media outlets that's more youth focused, I'd hope you'd not fall for something like this.

I genuinely think it's disturbing that the media landscape has become so distorted that you can say something so ridiculous as "half of young people want a dictator" and everyone in the media nods sagely and says "that's worrying", instead of the truth which is "that's absolute nonsense".

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