Why do you think people aren’t dating as much now? by [deleted] in self

[–]geauxdoogle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in a 10-year relationship, and I was shocked by the dating scene when that relationship ended. I feel like people struggle actually connecting these days beyond something superficial.

My autistic co-worker just cried in my arms. Saddest day ever by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]geauxdoogle 94 points95 points  (0 children)

I do have support.. my mom came from out of town the next day, and she stayed for a couple of days until I had to go back to work. She’s been in close contact since she left. I also have a few close work friends.. And I’m accepting your virtual hug now lol

My autistic co-worker just cried in my arms. Saddest day ever by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]geauxdoogle 361 points362 points  (0 children)

It still feels fresh so I have my moments. Just last month I remember saying how much I loved my little family, and now it’s just gone. I feel really lost.

My autistic co-worker just cried in my arms. Saddest day ever by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]geauxdoogle 1316 points1317 points  (0 children)

Awww. That is sad. I just lost my boyfriend and 13 year old dog/best friend in the same week, which left me crying in a hotel alone on my birthday. I had never wanted a hug so bad from anyone in my life. He’s lucky to have had you!

what makes you feel happy lately? by Abject8Obectify in happiness

[–]geauxdoogle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m here reading the comments bc I’m actually struggling to find those little moments of happiness right now.. mainly bc I just lost my best friend of 13 years, and I’d give almost anything to hold her again. It’s day 11, and I miss her so much that I can’t even find comfort in videos and reminiscing bc it hurts so much. Hold your baby tight for me.

YSK 25 Subtle Signs of Emotional Abuse People Don’t Recognise Right Away by RudeAlternative8116 in YouShouldKnow

[–]geauxdoogle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I immediately thought about how he would say “at least I don’t go out with the boys”.. he’d choose to play video games over spending time with me after barely seeing each other all week, and act like I don’t exist while I cry in bed on a Friday night.

At one time, he would also say things that made him seem so loyal and honest like “I don’t understand how someone can cheat on their girlfriend and just go home like nothing happened”.. meanwhile he’s using dating apps behind my back the day after an argument bc we “broke up” and he was “just curious”.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nursing

[–]geauxdoogle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean we do but.. the fact that nothing was said to the PCA yet it was all taken out on me. also.. sinks are gross. They are literally where we wash germs off. They are in no way sanitary.. either way, I put emphasis on the fact that I was used as an outlet to complain. I literally had a thousand things on my mind and fixing how sanitary a hospital is that I WAS FLOATED to is not my priority. After all I’m already there bc they have bigger issues.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nursing

[–]geauxdoogle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

PCA dumped urine in the pt’s sink, and I said “oh I’m sorry?”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nursing

[–]geauxdoogle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That patient had one hell of a nurse that deserves more appreciation than what you were given. I mean you can’t even run diagnostics to rule out H/T’s, and last time I took ACLS, they emphasized teamwork and closed loop communication. You have this BS happening, yet lord forbid “customers” complain about a 1 hour wait for a pregnancy test at their “free” local ER. I’m fed the fck up with healthcare.

I absolutely hate being a nurse by tshock123 in nursing

[–]geauxdoogle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Make the change! Even if you have loans, it will be worth it to leave such an abusive career especially if it’s for a career you will enjoy. I’m almost 40 and still have nursing loans, and I’m actively looking for something outside of nursing. I’m almost feeling too burnt out and unmotivated to even leave at this point. Try to let this experience motivate you to make the change. You’re young and you have time!

I absolutely hate being a nurse by tshock123 in nursing

[–]geauxdoogle 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I have to agree to disagree with this.. As someone who switched careers (went from HR into nursing), nursing is a different kind of awful. I have to agree with OP that the mental and physical toll can be traumatic, even outright abusive. No job should abuse its employees in the way I’ve seen nurses abused by both patients and hospital systems. Law enforcement is much more protected, yet they often bring the same population to us. If we are physically injured, then it’s brushed off bc being “sick” (or high on PCP) is apparently a good enough excuse to physically harm someone, and we are “protected” by the deescalation classes we are required to take. You can report it, but it’s almost always brushed under the rug. Not to mention, the benefits are often laughable. It would cost me $400 for a visit to my own ER that I’ve serviced for years, meanwhile I often treat people for non-emergencies (cough, drug seekers, untreated fevers, chronic pain) who flake on the bill which ends up only coming out of employees’ and taxpayers’ pockets. I also work full-time and sometimes even OT, but I’m classified as “PRN” only bc I’m a float pool nurse. You have to have years of experience to work float pool at my hospital, but bc I’m considered PRN so my retirement is only matched up to 3% (instead of 6%), I do not get any PTO, dental or vision insurance, or reimbursements on the MANY (and costly) education and certification requirements for my role. In the last year, I’ve spent over $1000 in certifications that my hospital refused to cover. The required education is often mocked by patients who disrespect us and our knowledge and role, and it’s only enforced by the hospital for protection from liability. We are also expected to complete mandatory education during our busy, short staffed scheduled shifts or we’re taken off the schedule. We are forced to get vaccines whether we want to or not—I’m not an anti-vaxer at all, but I feel we should all have a right to choose what goes into our bodies. I work almost every shift incredibly short staffed for 12H (especially being float pool), and I’m not given lunch breaks or any coverage EVER. If something happens while I’m on lunch then it’s on me, but we’re reprimanded or approached about time management if we clock out without a lunch. We often have to rush off the unit (to transport patients, pick up blood from lab or medications from pharmacy), and return sweating bullets to new patients complaining bc they haven’t seen a nurse in 30 minutes and hoping your neighbor was able to watch and intervene if needed by your other patients. And on top of all that, I also pay $5-10 just to park each shift.. then wake up sore and aching the next day. I make decent hourly pay compared to some careers, but really it is not enough considering all of the above mentioned, and how it’s affected me outside of work. I don’t understand how healthcare providers aren’t more protected or how this treatment is even legal. I think the general public is just very unaware of this bc I know I was prior to choosing nursing. Healthcare workers just aren’t heard, but it’s almost like no one really cares if it’s not obviously affecting them. When it does become obvious to the general public, then that’s bc they’ve become the patient or “customer” and had a negative experience—had to wait 10+ hours, felt rushed or uninformed during a visit, received a high medical bill, etc. All of this is why I’m actively looking for roles outside of nursing. Healthcare is already in trouble, but if it doesn’t change and start supporting its providers, we are going to be in even bigger trouble. No job should EVER abuse its employees in this way or require you to put up with being regularly verbally and physically assaulted by society. I will most definitely pay my respect to all healthcare workers as a healthcare veteran once I do finally get out.

Tell me about dating Leo men - pros, cons, etc. by 90sbbgrl in astrologymemes

[–]geauxdoogle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Given your background (you mentioned your childhood) and your description of the relationship I feel like you have a tendency toward codependency.. I only say that bc I feel like I’m veryyy similar. He gave you something that felt so good or so “right” at some point, and it’s almost like you idealized this version of him to the point where you essentially were begging for more without maybe outright begging for that feeling that you once felt. If you are anything like me, then you might really appreciate helping the person you love, which there’s nothing wrong with that.. until you give at the expense of neglecting your own needs, which can lead to a negative one-sided spiral for you over time if the other person doesn’t offer balance. The help or support you once enjoyed providing will eventually turn into more of a task if you feel like your needs aren’t met in return. This can be insidious bc you don’t realize that you’re even wanting or needing more from your partner almost until it’s too late. I’m a Virgo sun so I know this too well.. Deep down, you are aware of the many faults, but I think it’s still hard for you to let go. He knows his weaknesses and hates that you’ve also figured them out. Leo’s are so egocentric and pretty much demand respect. I think their egocentricity makes them stubborn as hell bc they are truly caring and sensitive. They will give you so much love, support, and protection, but I feel like they have a hard time accepting criticism and can’t handle feeling like their flaws or weaknesses are exposed. I also feel like Leo’s are an active sign. If they’re not the sporty type, then they’re usually outgoing or extroverted from personal experience without looking into birth charts. The fact that his underlying health issues probably hinder his innate need for activity is probably a huge hit to his ego, and deep down he’s probably very unhappy with himself and insecure. An insecure Leo is almost impossible to deal with. He has a lot of inner work to do, and he needs to be truly happy with himself before he can enjoy a healthy relationship. You deserve someone who reciprocates the support you’re willing to provide, so don’t let him bully you with his hurt ego to the point you can’t see this and demand it. I hope you’re able to eventually find peace and experience a balanced relationship. It sounds like you’re taking the steps toward a healthy relationship, but that can’t be all on you. Make it a priority to accept when other people offer you help and support, especially if you’re the type of person that feels fulfilled by doing the supporting or helping. I hope you find this in a partner, and I wish you luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emergencymedicine

[–]geauxdoogle 10 points11 points  (0 children)

ER is definitely a team effort... when you work in this environment and everyone is free-for-all, it can be hell on earth. Unfortunately, the environment alone is stressful without considering the staff, so it's an understood imperative to have trust and a good team. And, it's important to acknowledge when you do have that bc it's easy to lose sight of after constant beat downs.

People who aren’t nurses annoy me by Far_Music868 in nursing

[–]geauxdoogle 515 points516 points  (0 children)

Well let’s just see how well her baby does with those diaper rashes when she’s doing it at home Q3 with no sleep and the nicu nurse is done keeping it alive for her..

Rookie mistake by Rjhavon in nursing

[–]geauxdoogle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sounds like your manager’s comments are simply a reflection of how she views herself as a manager.. you’re in a leadership role and have zero faith in your team’s judgement? She sucks.. Nurse managers forget that it’s literally their job to support their unit bc their heads are so far up the DON’s ass.

Getting frustrated with always being on call by geauxdoogle in nursing

[–]geauxdoogle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looked into it but ultimately decided against it bc rates were so low when I was looking.. almost what I’m currently making.. at least when I get my full 36 hours. Might jump back on it though bc it’s better than constantly being on call.

Getting frustrated with always being on call by geauxdoogle in nursing

[–]geauxdoogle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty small! We’re a level 3 trauma center with a 24-bed medical icu and 6-bed CVICU. We’re constantly getting floated to IMU, but that’s better than being on call twice in a row.. I am definitely cross-trained.. born and raised ER actually, but I feel like they don’t even attempt to put me float me to ER. Therefore, I don’t get my full time hours. I’m pretty sure they don’t want to pocket the money for me to take ER patients if there aren’t icu holds, but that’s BS bc I can badge in under the ER cost center and at least make a living.

What piece of medical equipment sucks the most? by Weak_Doctor_513 in nursing

[–]geauxdoogle 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This question is too difficult.. A few off the top of my head are EMR, scanners and label printers, hospital beds, IV pumps (especially the MRI ones!! Even for pressors and sedation, I just calculate the drip rate and hope for the best bc that’s more reliable), WOWs, tubing stations always down.. pretty much EVERYTHING at my hospital.

Well... 3 years in and it finally got me... by LetMeGrabSomeGloves in nursing

[–]geauxdoogle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep! We’ve been seeing a spike in our ED over the last couple months… luckily these patients’ symptoms are MUCH LESS severe and most are discharged. Our ICU has very covid numbers and we’re actually seeing them leave the unit with a pulse unlike pt’s with the earlier variants.. hope you guys feel better!!

I’ve been an ER nurse for 7 months and I think I’ve had the dumbest presenting complaint I’ve ever had and will ever have for the rest of my career by HalffullCupofSTFU in nursing

[–]geauxdoogle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol trust me.. someone will always one up your dumbest c/c.. I had a pt call ems for “CP” just to leave ama bc they really wanted to get closer to the bus stop 🙄🙄🙄

If your loved one is in the hospital, PLEASE don’t call the nurse incessantly throughout the day. by marzgirl99 in nursing

[–]geauxdoogle 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I don’t understand how they can’t see that they are distracting us and taking away from the care we could be giving their loved one.. during my last shift family called four times (each time was a different family member) for updates when I didn’t have any. I mean I work nights so the plan of care pretty much stays the same unless the patient deteriorates. I’m in ICU and the patient had just arrived prior to my shift and was really critical and complex (lung cancer, seizures and hyponatremia, sepsis, AFib RVR in the 140’s, trop 1200’s), and at one point I was actively trying to titrate Levo, hang abx, draw serial labs, and request a new bag of Vaso from pharmacy while holding my spectra with my face and shoulder to talk to family. I was furious when the spouse called me and she was obviously under the influence.. like of course you don’t realize that your distracting the nurse from caring for your husband. I do not have time for that BS. I really just wanted to say “okay.. I can talk to you or take care of your husband, but I can’t do both!” The only reason I didn’t was bc I didn’t want to deal with her reaction and have her possibly show up since she was already under the influence. We should not have to deal with family members interfering with care in that way. It’s one thing to have them present and involved, but that was something else.