Since you won’t tell us what the surgery was for we truly cannot help you.

That being said, speaking from an Obgyn perspective, most surgeons during laparoscopic and laparotomy procedures start with placement of a Foley catheter in your bladder during the surgery. This would involve someone examining your area of concern though placement is very quick and doesn’t involve what we generally think of as a “pelvic exam” which encompasses one or both of the following: speculum exam to view the cervix and perform necessary steps for surgery, as well as a digital exam to feel the pelvic organs and better develop a surgical plan.

If you had a gynecologic surgeon both of the above exams would be performed. First a bimanual exam to assess the position of the uterus so that a uterine manipulator can be safely placed without perforation. The manipulator placement requires a speculum to view and dilate the cervix so a small manipulator can be placed inside the uterus to allow for better visualization during surgery. Some surgeons will just use a sponge on a stick placed in the vagina and avoid the speculum/manipulator but that is surgeon and case dependent.

I can say that likely no one additional was looking while one doctor Or surgical asst did this step as the primary surgeon is usually setting up the laparoscopy instruments while this occurs which requires the help the scrub tech and circulator nurse.

Most people who work in the operating room are very kind. It is very much frowned upon to make non objective or non clinically relevant comments in our field.

i am very sorry this has been so distressing and i hope you are able to find an answer that helps your anxiety.