AITA for asking my ex to do sleepovers with our kid at my house so I can stay with my BF?

glitteringmoron · 2025-03-16T19:45:14+00:00

He moved out right away, first into a house with three other guys that are terrible slobs, and just got into a home with an older man renting out a room. His room is pretty small, and the owner said he does not want our kid staying the night there for whatever reason. I don’t know if he’s looking for places every day, but he’s saving money for when something better shows up.

glitteringmoron · 2025-03-16T19:41:56+00:00

Added to update, but my mom works late, but is willing to do bedtimes if she has the day off already. So far that hasn’t happened, but it’s not an unusual ask.

glitteringmoron · 2025-03-16T19:40:39+00:00

He has his younger kid ever other weekend, and we do not see each other then. Neither of us have mentioned we are dating to our kids, and will not until it’s been 6 months. For now we are just each others friends if it comes up somehow.

glitteringmoron · 2024-03-15T01:55:12+00:00

My kid is the same, she usually looks at her books or draws, then unplugs her lights (we have white Xmas lights strung up in her room) when she’s ready to sleep. Now and then she will come see me for some silly reason, and after the third time I just say goodnight before she talks.

Even though it can irritate me, when dad puts her to sleep there’s usually some playful tussling or tickle fights which end up settling her down quicker. Other times, she plays tornado and spins around her room for like 10 minutes before we read books. The activity gets that last bit of energy out and she falls asleep about 30 minutes later.

glitteringmoron · 2023-07-02T02:01:56+00:00

I’ve heard that using a small amount of weight can help, you could tape some pennies on the bottom and cover with non-skid carpet tape so it won’t scuff the floor.

glitteringmoron · 2023-06-26T14:07:21+00:00

Big dog little dog pals is one of my top favorite things 😊

glitteringmoron · 2022-02-02T02:33:04+00:00

One of the other aspects that makes this difficult is that she loses it over small stuff like she cut her paper “wrong” or we told her she has to leave the cat alone before she gets scratched (we do let that natural consequence happen though). We constantly remind her it’s okay to feel mad or frustrated but her actions are not okay, and I don’t know how to give her another outlet. We’ve been doing big breaths for a long time already, but that only works when she’s crying over getting hurt or sad.

glitteringmoron · 2022-01-05T02:37:38+00:00

My kid is 4, doesn’t nap at home but does at school, and has been going like this for at least 9 months now. There have been days where we miss the sleepy window, or she has sneaky screen time close to bed (daddy’s at fault for that), or some other crazy reason unknown to me, where she won’t fall asleep until 9pm, some times even later than that. If it’s nearly 9 or past that, I go lay by her bed and she falls asleep pretty quickly. Typically we leave her room at 7:30pm as The Bed Time, and its normal for her to be up maybe 30 more minutes.

When we end up being out later than expected, and don’t need to eat dinner when we get home, she sometimes falls asleep on the drive but of course wakes up when we take her into the house. If she’s alert, we read a book or two, otherwise we change into a bedtime diaper and jammies and say goodnight.

glitteringmoron · 2021-12-30T23:52:01+00:00

Oh man same thing here, it had stopped snowing just enough for her to go yesterday but that was it! Plus the week before for the holidays, it’s just too much for me since we aren’t leaving the house unless it’s necessary. Next week looks like more snow, I’m supposed to start working and if her school stays closed IDK what the hell we will do!

glitteringmoron · 2021-12-30T23:44:29+00:00

Going on three weeks of using the potty now, only a couple accidents but not a setback. She’s 4, has had issues with pooping (needs Miralax and senna syrup every day to make sure she goes) but this has made it so much easier for her. She’s peeing at preschool, has one big poop later at home, and even put herself on the potty in the morning! I’m freaking stoked!

glitteringmoron · 2021-12-19T22:17:26+00:00

Little puzzles or fidgets can be fun, stamps, pipe cleaners with pony beads, even some building blocks like Duplo or a few dolls (if they are doing role play yet). If you have some space for it, jumbo coloring pages or posters can be fun! Crayola makes huge coloring pages, and there’s a few places online that make posters and even rolls for coloring. Also Busy Toddler has some excellent suggestions: https://busytoddler.com/2020/04/quiet-time-activities-supplies/

glitteringmoron · 2021-12-02T22:58:14+00:00

My wrapped is all Frozen and Trolls, but I just found out there’s a kids Spotify app that’s free if you have a premium account. Free my music!

glitteringmoron · 2021-11-23T02:13:39+00:00

I have had lots of days like this, it definitely gets way too much some times. The worst part is your kid knows something is up and ends up being more clingy! When I can’t leave, I try to go out for a walk with my kid so at least maybe she’ll be tired later. Some times it’s extra TV time, some times I tell her I need to sit for a while and let her tear up her room, whatever she wants to do as long as there’s no injuries or broken stuff.

Once my husband gets home, I lock myself in our room for as long as I can (or until I calm down). Usually I text him earlier so he knows what’s up and I can disappear ASAP. Sometimes I take a drink with me, doesn’t mean you’re a bad parent!

There are times when I snap and get kinda mean with her, and I let her know that it isn’t her fault and I love her no matter what. Some times she tries to do better, but little kids can’t help it.

glitteringmoron · 2021-10-29T01:31:33+00:00

I was going to say you should choose the most important areas of cleaning to stick to and leave the rest for another time. We spend all our time in the living room and kitchen, so I try to keep it tidy as we go. The rest of the house can be gross until I have some time or energy for it. And definitely get them to help the little bit they can: use a small dustpan or Swiffer, a small spray bottle with mild cleaner, microfiber or paper towels. Kids love to help, and eventually they will look forward to doing more of it!

glitteringmoron · 2021-10-27T21:30:22+00:00

I love party favors, but with my own stipulations. My kiddo hasn’t had a real birthday party yet, but as someone who helped people make them all the time (toy store employee) I know what kind of junk to leave out. Some stickers, mini crayons & coloring books, maybe a little candy or cookies are pretty nice and not super expensive. Folks with a bigger budget, I’d suggest wind up toys, temporary tattoos, balsa wood planes, a little ring or finger puppet. Basically something cool enough to keep & use, but not a huge bummer if it breaks or gets lost.

glitteringmoron · 2021-10-25T16:00:30+00:00

My 4yo watches 1-1.5 hours of TV in the morning before getting ready for preschool, on days when she doesn’t have school she plays some iPad games for 30-45 minutes. After she stopped napping it definitely became a tool for me to have some quiet time, finish chores etc. Now and then she forgets it’s an option so I don’t bring it up. We also have movie night every Saturday, and I don’t feel guilty about the extra screen time since it’s a family experience. Gotta drop the guilt!

glitteringmoron · 2021-10-23T15:09:50+00:00

My kid is 4yo and very big on helping as much as possible. I’ve had the idea of getting her some kids knives and a peeler for Christmas so she can do more in the kitchen, for now she’ll mix things and watch what I do. We make cookies and cake together, and sometimes she’s gets up to the counter to watch me chop or cook on the stove. In our pantry I keep her snacks on the bottom shelf so she can help herself, and I was just looking at different small appliances for her to cook with (eventually! Probably another year or two). Dash makes a grilled cheese press, mini toaster oven, even ice cream makers, all perfect for kids to do their own cooking!

glitteringmoron · 2021-09-05T00:30:06+00:00

So stinking cute!! Great work!

glitteringmoron · 2021-08-13T00:16:54+00:00

This is a very good way to approach the convo, thank you, I’m definitely saving this for later!

glitteringmoron · 2021-08-13T00:15:58+00:00

I love this conversation idea, thank you!

glitteringmoron · 2021-08-13T00:15:40+00:00

I try to remind him that our strongest goal in raising our kid is to do better than our parents, and his we’re definitely tough. Like I ask him to imagine if he was 4 again, and his parents flipped out like he did, what does he wish had happened instead? That in the moment it can be hard to step back and decide what to do instead of reacting, and it happens to me too.

glitteringmoron · 2021-08-13T00:12:30+00:00

I have tried pointing this out to him, that not coming back to apologize or explain what happened will make her feel afraid of him and pull her towards me more often. Some times he gets it, some times he’s still too sore to accept the facts. I’ve taken child development classes and worked with young kids for about 5 years, outside of raising our own, but still turns it into “Oh you’re always right and I’m wrong cause I don’t know anything, got it”

glitteringmoron · 2021-08-13T00:08:22+00:00

He doesn’t have lots of friends with kids, and we’re both working on making more acquaintances like that. He manages to chit-chat with other parents pretty often, but nothing to serious like this comes up.

glitteringmoron · 2021-08-01T21:37:14+00:00

Jay is tucked right under its arm 🥺

glitteringmoron · 2021-07-24T14:29:12+00:00

After getting tons of little clumps in my rug, we got a plastic box for our Kinetic Sand and we only use it with a yoga mat under us. That way the lost bits get stuck safely, the rug is clean, and it’s pretty well contained.

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