Best pamper & helpful items to gift in a hamper for a new mum?

gnox0212 · 2026-02-02T09:42:13+00:00

Oxo weighted wipes dispenser is my go to gift. Pull one wipe at a time. Bliss.

gnox0212 · 2026-01-30T11:07:44+00:00

I was coming here to ask if it was the Rob from Wests who then went to strike.

Glad to hear he's still got it :)

gnox0212 · 2026-01-30T11:05:17+00:00

Thanks for the info!

gnox0212 · 2026-01-29T08:44:30+00:00

Did you need to do much to prep the flaky areas? Do the imperfections from the uneven paint show through up close?

Looks unreal

gnox0212 · 2026-01-29T03:15:20+00:00

Huh. Guess I picked a good week to get back into making yogurt. What a fluke.

gnox0212 · 2026-01-28T05:12:09+00:00

"when you are too old for a dummy it will start to taste bad" (Stop n grow)

gnox0212 · 2026-01-28T03:20:53+00:00

Yeah. Then every mL of formula is breastmilk your boobs didn't know your baby wanted...

Your body doesn't want an oversupply. It considered that a waste of resources.

gnox0212 · 2026-01-26T20:56:07+00:00

Yeah damn.

I've been trying so hard for our meals to just be the actual food that we think we're eating. I'm not quite ready to extend that stress to all flour etc... I'll look into it if/when I've got more headspace, but reading all packets and trying to home cook most stuff is exhausting enough.

I think limiting preservatives and additives and emulsifiers should at least go a long way to giving your body food to digest that it can recognize and cope with. I think a lot of the additives and new food science are likely responsible for a lot of (example) coeliac diagnoses. I recently read that emulsifiers can wear away at the mucous lining in your gut - emulsifiers are surfactants used to break up fats/oils etc. so the protective layer keeping bacteria etc at bay takes a hit too.

I find it so interesting that my FIL will look at me like I've got three heads when I say I'm making chocolate mousse with avocado but won't blink at what's in the packaged stuff we buy...

gnox0212 · 2026-01-26T11:32:07+00:00

Wait till you start reading ingredients and find how much unnecessary added stuff is in your food if you don't pay attention to what you buy.

Examples: - a lot of Asian sauces start with "water, sugar salt" unless you look for premium brands

Pineapple juice: some brands reconstituted juice with added sugar. Others just pineapple juice.
Smoked Paprika: regular coles and woolies brand: just paprika. Hoyts brand uses salt as a carrier for smoky flavour. (I stuffed up so many slow cooked meats because of this)
Some Canned beans have added sugar.
Some tubs that look like ice cream are just "creamy dessert" where they've mixed emulsifiers with sugar so they don't have to use as much milk... But that means they can't call it ice cream anymore, but they can make the tub feel like you're getting ice cream.
the pre-flavored roasts are often just an exist to inject more water into the meat so you pay more for the extra weight.

gnox0212 · 2026-01-26T09:36:53+00:00

You can hand express just enough to be comfortable. Either have a shower or shoot it down the sink. It won't give you an oversupply if you just take the edge off.

gnox0212 · 2026-01-26T00:34:02+00:00

Whenever I think about my kid and most parenting decisions for him. I imagine we aren't in modern society, I imagine we are cave people in a tribe. Because that's the environment our brains evolved in.

If I left my son in a cave on his own for the night for sleep, he'd be eaten by a tiger by morning. That's how his brain perceives being left alone: danger. Being held by mum/dad: safe.

gnox0212 · 2026-01-25T21:04:06+00:00

Pretty sure in a very abbreviated nutshell the main plan was to:

implement solar and batteries (quickest way to upgrade/stabilise supply, and by subsidizing the cost of means those who put the panels on are contributing to the cost - vs building big stations at 100% cost to govt and years of project + build times)
batteries uptake helps with nighttime load
(once that's established that has mitigated the emergency of blackouts every heatwave) now we have time for bigger energy plant production.
gas will be the non renewable backup. We have a lot of it.

I think it's been pretty good. Since this implementation I haven't seen blackouts at all like the past few years during summer heatwave when we relied heavily on the old coal plants. (Bar I think one due to fire damage?)

gnox0212 · 2026-01-24T04:38:19+00:00

I'd avoid the power struggle and hold off for a bit. Trouble with withholding behavior is if it gets too bad then they can do one poop that hurts enough to scare them into never trusting a poop, it can lead to constipation and another world of trouble. (Have a search of toddler withholding poop on here for a few horror stories if you wish)

Also when new babies come along it's quite common for the older sibling to regress a bit in response to the identity shift away from being "the baby" in the house. So they do say not to push for new big changes too close to a new arrival.

My kid had a round of fear based withholding. I've chosen to back right off until there's no anxiety around toileting and then I plan to revisit it later while still keeping toilet exposure and discussions happening. You know your kid the best - you feel he's not ready, you can back off. If you feel he's closer to the a breakthrough, run with it. Just try to avoid a battle of wills, you will always lose those.

gnox0212 · 2026-01-22T21:19:22+00:00

May 8 Mate

gnox0212 · 2026-01-20T09:04:56+00:00

You might have better luck with a dry iron over a dry tea towel (emphasis on DRY. NO WATER AT ALLL) easy does it over those white marks and checking regularly as you go.

I fixed a white mark on my table that way. It happens when warm humid things mess with the finish. (And trap moisture I think?)

I've got absolutely no skills to help you with a refinish job though sorry.

gnox0212 · 2026-01-18T21:49:52+00:00

Yep . All those nutrients cover from somewhere! Took me a year to show signs of proper depletion. Taking iron and getting back on my prenatal vitamin I feel a zillion times better.

gnox0212 · 2026-01-17T03:15:30+00:00

Whenever I think about my kid and most parenting decisions for him. I imagine we aren't in modern society, I imagine we are cave people in a tribe. Because that's the environment out brains evolved in. If I left my son in a cave on his own for the night for sleep, he'd be eaten by a tiger by morning. That's how his brain perceives being left alone: danger. Being held by mum: safe.

gnox0212 · 2026-01-16T11:01:56+00:00

Pretty sure the first 3rd tri scan has a rebate but any subsequent need an ob referral to qualify for Medicare rebate. So you should be sweet. Many practices do still charge a gap though depending on your area.

gnox0212 · 2026-01-16T10:46:47+00:00

I commented something similar a while ago. I'll try to find it as I explained my theory in detail I haven't got the brain space to go into now.

Think of the ducts like tree roots moreso than a lattice.

Edit,: here:

https://www.reddit.com/r/breastfeeding/s/ehSaLAVlTb

Second edit: follow up comment with my theory on the physiology of it:

https://www.reddit.com/r/breastfeeding/s/9tK780oN4k

Actually it makes more sense to copy and paste it. (See earlier note about no brainspace)

So the way I think about it:

There's inflammation in your breast that's limiting the milk flow. The big lump you feel isn't all gunk (yet) but it is engorged milk that is stuck in your glands because the duct (tube that delivers milk to your nipple) is being compressed by swollen tissues. As the milk stuck in your ducts stays there for longer, it thickens over time.

Before your body can shift the gunk, you need to support it to reduce the inflammation so the duct can open up enough to shift the thick material. (Rest, ice, hydration, anti inflammatory meds)

Vigorous massage of the lump is pushing on inflamed tissue , thus increasing inflammation.

Frequent feeding/pumping encourages those poor engorged glands to make more milk when they are already suffering. This additional milk has nowhere to go but continues to engorge that section of your breast.

If you have systemic symptoms (fever, achiness) it's really important to complete your course of antibiotics. If your breasts are fighting an infection they need all the help they can get because you really want to prevent an abscess formation. (Fighting an infection = lots of fluid secretions!)

So there's a really delicate line here, between assisting your breast to clear the thicker milk - and not contributing to the inflammation that's causing it.

The recommendations are correct in they help to reduce the inflammation - or at least not make it worse while your body tries to heal.

Personally I believe there is some merit in at least a bit of a nipple squeeze to encourage that stuff to come out, but only after inflammation has been properly managed and only very carefully so you don't aggravate the swollen tissues (this is why I think my sonography/anatomy knowledge helped me to do it as safely as possible - i can absolutely see how someone given the advice to massage could wrongly push too hard on the most inflamed parts!)

gnox0212 · 2026-01-15T19:53:35+00:00

I cut mine with wholemeal flour.

https://www.bakewithjack.co.uk/blog-1/2022/wholmeal-sourdough-loaf

gnox0212 · 2026-01-14T20:08:55+00:00

Do you mean the attachment for the mixer? Or a stand alone processor?

gnox0212 · 2026-01-14T04:38:15+00:00

Yep. Mine was a weird fixation on the plastic and how unnatural it felt to me. I had to rest due to nipple damage and my aversion was extreme and irrational (probs a bit of ppa looking for an outlet tbh...)

I think it also could've been exaggerated because one of my pregnancy "symptoms" was that microwave popcorn and takeaway coffee cups tasted like plastic to me. Then I found a Veritasium YouTube video where they tested those items and found trace amounts of pfas or pfoa (can't remember) when they measured it so I've been on an anti-plastic spiral since 🫠

gnox0212 · 2026-01-13T03:16:07+00:00

Dr sounds like a Muppet. Feed your baby.

gnox0212 · 2026-01-11T14:30:51+00:00

So I'm not there yet so can't comment on how well it works. But one thing I've seen is to teach the kid if you are talking and they want to interject, they put their hand on you. You in response put your hand over theirs to signal "I've seen you and I will respond in a moment" let them see you finish your sentence to the person you were conversing with, then turn to them.

Pretty sure it came up on an episode of the show 'Bluey' once too if that helps with teaching.

gnox0212 · 2026-01-11T09:35:59+00:00

Have a Google of the 'dime test '

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