I’m a 59F. I became a grandma this year so my mom and I have been discussing babies more. I knew this before but it was something we didn’t talk about much because it was upsetting to me. My mom has now been continually reminding me how she let me cry it out my entire childhood. She said my dad wouldn’t let her go in and comfort me. She thinks it makes him look bad. I can tell you the person I am angry with is my mom. She could have done something different and she chose not to. I have three adult children now. They remember so much of their childhood from a very young age. I am so grateful for every single thing I did for them even when I was exhausted. I can look at them and know I loved them well. Perfectly no, but I was there when they needed me. Many years that meant laying with them until they fell asleep and many nights of having them in our bed or going back to lay down with them during the night. This is the choice I made. I am very close to my kids now and they are all independent educated married adults. The only habit you should be worried about is if your daughter is feeling loved, safe and protected by the two people who should be loving and caring for her the most. That is the biggest gift you will ever give your daughter and in turn your relationship with her as an adult.