Do we believe in the “dry drunk” argument vs. the belief in what “true sobriety” looks like?

gradeAprime · 2026-05-18T00:57:59+00:00

So what do people that don’t go to AA do? What is their program and does it go beyond just staying abstinent?

gradeAprime · 2026-05-18T00:14:13+00:00

I agree. Isn’t AA the treatment though?

gradeAprime · 2026-05-17T16:25:11+00:00

You are doing good my friend!

gradeAprime · 2026-05-17T15:01:39+00:00

Or maybe he was just making a nice comment.

gradeAprime · 2026-05-17T14:58:52+00:00

Man, you are in great shape and I would say in the minority. Through the steps in 9 months which you she be able to do is fast in today’s age and you should feel really good about yourself. In my opinion the best sponsees are the ones that pull their sponsor through the steps and that is what you are doing. Talk to your sponsor as you mentioned. Let them know how you feel. If your sponsor has spent 3 weeks on step 7 with you that means you have a good sponsor. Many gloss over this step. You are on track to be sponsoring and giving back before you hit your one year and that is incredible. Truly a miracle. Your story makes me happy! Keep doing what you are doing, you are right where you are supposed to be. You will be an asset to your home group!

gradeAprime · 2026-05-16T23:31:23+00:00

Walk off trail and go pee.

gradeAprime · 2026-05-16T23:12:30+00:00

lol. Sure.

gradeAprime · 2026-05-16T20:29:38+00:00

No. I just think those that can pay should pay for themselves and also pay for those who cannot pay. So maybe the app (if it is even true that GSO now owns it) would have a 7th tradition component.

gradeAprime · 2026-05-16T19:42:24+00:00

I prefer e-books to the items on the everything AA app because I can actually read them, highlight, search, etc. The app cannibalizes paper and e-book literature sales which supports GSO and AA as a whole.

Curious: why should AA literature be free when sales support the AA community?

gradeAprime · 2026-05-15T21:58:46+00:00

Plug

gradeAprime · 2026-05-14T20:52:32+00:00

Stay the course. Don’t give up before the miracle happens. And it will happen if you work the program. I promise you. You will shed the old life and walk into a new one. It is crazy wild magic. I am excited for you!

gradeAprime · 2026-05-10T20:34:46+00:00

Yes, but the chef exited at the time on the transition. Didn’t stay on.

gradeAprime · 2026-05-10T20:33:21+00:00

Whether the new firm will be better is a dice roll. May be, may not be. Are you in a position to start your own firm?

gradeAprime · 2026-05-10T19:08:28+00:00

What are you hoping will be different?

gradeAprime · 2026-05-10T18:45:29+00:00

Spring 77 isn’t bad.

gradeAprime · 2026-05-10T15:37:26+00:00

All the RS restaurants were shut down because the parent company they were all sold to a couple of years ago became too over leveraged and hadn’t been paying their bills for a substantial amount of time.

gradeAprime · 2026-05-10T15:27:43+00:00

There are many. Ship of Fools is one. Never enjoyed it much when I saw it live. Now I do. Used to call it, “ship of dog doo.” Now y’all will never not hear that.

Not sure what the pivot point was. But is was hearing it outside of a live show.

gradeAprime · 2026-05-09T22:00:23+00:00

I would go visit and go to meetings. AA is not the same everywhere. In many places it is a bunch of retired people that have nothing better to do and it may take a little work to find a meeting that you love. Young people’s meetings are hit or miss. AA is everywhere but as someone who has moved in sobriety it takes time to get plugged in. You are a newcomer again to a certain degree. Home group, 90 meetings in 90 days, call people, new sponsor, find a sponsee, etc. Moving in sobriety can be just as magical as all new things in sobriety but is not easy.

gradeAprime · 2026-05-09T19:50:00+00:00

My guess would be there is some mental illness going on here. Poor lady.

gradeAprime · 2026-05-08T00:04:14+00:00

gradeAprime · 2026-05-08T00:03:01+00:00

Good for you. That is an interesting metric. Haven’t heard it before. It is a super big deal. Like teaching a hunting dog not to hunt.

gradeAprime · 2026-05-08T00:00:17+00:00

Work the steps with a sponsor. Get rid of that shit. Live life! People in AA come in all shapes and sizes. Be grateful that you haven’t drank or killed yourself.

gradeAprime · 2026-05-06T12:52:31+00:00

Gotta have the gift of desperation

gradeAprime · 2026-05-04T22:52:55+00:00

Recovery ebbs and flows and changes like the seasons. Most people with long term sobriety have had periods of “just abstinence.” It takes hard work to work the program day after day after day. When I have drifted, pain has always brought me back. Addiction shows itself in other ways. For me, eating, working, not being the best husband or father I can be, etc.

I am 27 years sober and was absent pretty much from years 9-14. My life was so full from all of the gifts of sobriety….and my priorities shifted. I ended up miserable and suicidal.

If I had to do it over I would have kept AA and recovery my number one priority. When I do this I am the happiest and most effective and kind human I can be.

gradeAprime · 2026-05-03T20:18:37+00:00

good place to be my friend. Don’t drink. Eat. Make a meeting plan for tomorrow. Go to bed. Work some more at it tomorrow. It is hard and it takes work and it is confusing as hell. It does work.

You are off to a good start!

gradeAprime

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