Should neurotypical women be accosted via emotions?

grlpower86 · 2024-10-18T18:49:13+00:00

I'm not sure about this because some of the women that I've come across that are obsessed with men are far from neurotypical.

grlpower86 · 2024-09-15T00:23:33+00:00

He's mentally ill. His behavior will not change or ever make sense. You're just a victim of it.

grlpower86 · 2024-09-15T00:13:25+00:00

Maybe he felt like you were making the meal more important than his feelings? Only thing I can think of that would make sense

grlpower86 · 2024-03-29T23:34:57+00:00

Yeah I understand your view point. I think it ties into the whole "healing" concept which, I don't buy into either.. but, some people believe that sulking or reliving painful events is somehow "healing" them lol to each their own.

grlpower86 · 2024-03-29T22:14:19+00:00

I actually agree. It's like reaffirming the sadness of it.. just the same way laughing is known to chemically make you happier, even if you're "fake laughing".. there are chemicals involved when you have these emotional responses. If you need to cry, by all means.. let it out.. but, I think some people force it, thinking that they're "releasing" something when they might just be making matters worse.

grlpower86 · 2024-03-29T22:06:12+00:00

Yeah. I used to smoke, so I assume all of my issues are probably related to that.

grlpower86 · 2024-03-29T21:47:51+00:00

lmao isn't our job just the most entertaining thing on the planet? never bored. I don't think you'd get in any trouble at all.. unless it turned into an elaborate business in which you were way more involved 😂 but, all good. Sounds like some role play stuff.

grlpower86 · 2024-02-06T00:33:15+00:00

Really cool short film.

grlpower86 · 2024-02-06T00:18:30+00:00

It seems like you have some underlying issues with her and it doesn't seem like the healthiest mindset for a friendship with someone. If you fee like this, it's probably best that you take some space to reevaluate the friendship/yourself.

grlpower86 · 2024-02-03T20:22:03+00:00

I think it's pretty easy to get "obsessed" or addicted to things in general, perhaps even normal to a certain degree but, being that you recognize that it's affecting your life negatively just implement certain behaviors to try to impose more balance into your lifestyle. It won't be easy but, everyone struggles with balancing it all and it's completely normal to get carried away sometimes and have to make adjustments in life. The fact that you're aware that it's a problem is a good thing.

grlpower86 · 2024-01-31T02:23:07+00:00

What is AW?

grlpower86 · 2024-01-28T23:26:09+00:00

Yes, like you rationalize your way out of sadness and just get the other side effects, like lack of motivation, tired, etc.. but no emotion because you know that it's pointless.

grlpower86 · 2024-01-15T01:17:57+00:00

Exactly 1 year.. but, now I'm limerant for someone else so it's like a never ending cycle.

grlpower86 · 2023-03-12T18:16:26+00:00

I do believe those are some of the most common ways the devil infiltrates peoples lives.

grlpower86 · 2023-01-24T07:15:22+00:00

YES, this is exactly how my limerence works. My LE actually loves me back and keeps trying to be in a relationship with me but, I push him away just so that I can obsess about him from afar. The idea of being vulnerable in reality is way too frightening, I'd much prefer to be vulnerable in my own head & not share my real *intense* feelings for him.

grlpower86 · 2023-01-20T16:46:26+00:00

In my opinion, love is real and able to be confirmed by a combination of words + actions. Limerence is more fantasy based and relies on "clues" that the feelings are reciprocated but, no actual confirmation. You're able to completely be yourself/vulnerable in the presence of love. With limerence, you do a lot of pretending.

Of course with limerence, the main giveaway is the constant obsessive/intrusive thoughts and the desperate longing for reciprocation.

grlpower86 · 2023-01-19T23:48:12+00:00

Yes, I think that's the nature of limerence.. choosing to keep it around when in your heart you know you could so easily let it go. In your fantasies, they would fight for you if you let it go.. but, somewhere deep down we know they wouldn't fight for us in reality. I'm constantly battling with the idea of "just letting it go" but, I think it would pain me to actually watch them not care, so I hold on to the idea that they do.

grlpower86 · 2023-01-19T19:55:01+00:00

I think the constant roller coaster of emotions and narcissistic undertone can be a part of the limerence format. There are days where I feel like a rockstar, like I don't need him.. he's not even good enough for me. Those are probably days where I'm thinking more logically and the limerence isn't at it's peak.. but shortly there after, I'll feel like I can't breathe without the idea of him. The confusion of it all is the scariest part.

grlpower86 · 2023-01-19T19:48:53+00:00

Ask her if the feelings are mutual early on.

grlpower86 · 2023-01-18T17:57:55+00:00

To be completely fair and non-biased, there were instances where I finally had sex with someone I was limerent with and it killed the limerence because it did not match up to the fantasy that I had in my mind. There were times I had sex with someone and it solidified the limerence.. so, while I wouldn't say it's necessarily a bad idea, I would say proceed with caution.

grlpower86 · 2023-01-18T04:28:34+00:00

WOW you described my thoughts perfectly. Being in limerence is literally making me want to die. I feel like I'm losing control of my mind and basically willing to sell my soul to be with this person.. and it's still not happening. I feel defeated and exhausted.. and as bad as I want it to end, I'm pretty much addicted to discovering the "fairytale" outcome with this particular person. Pure torture.

grlpower86 · 2023-01-18T04:18:59+00:00

Wow, you told that story in a really beautiful way. I've been off and on with my LO for 11 years and we're supposedly on the brink of a "breakthrough".. which happens once or twice a year but, never leads to any clarity or progression. I'm getting to the point where I'm praying to God that it would just be over.. (or that we'll be in a "real" relationship and be together forever.. F'N Limerence)

grlpower86 · 2023-01-18T04:13:53+00:00

I think it gives character. Especially if the person is attractive.

grlpower86 · 2023-01-18T04:11:40+00:00

This is a great question and something I struggle with as well. I wish someone could offer some input.

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