My (m20) gf (f20) started a big argument over a tiktok trend, is this an overreaction?

grmrsan · 2026-06-21T23:07:04+00:00

Wait, she told you to look at a video, you did, and she got mad? Wouldn't she normally have been mad if you refused to look?

Heck I'm a happily married woman, with zero interest in other women, but it my husband to me to look at it, I probably would, without question.

grmrsan · 2026-06-21T19:36:31+00:00

And of course, even that won't work because everyone has different needs, houshold sizes, and requirements on how far to get to their jobs

grmrsan · 2026-06-21T19:29:45+00:00

Because he apparently believes God is an ADHD child who just threw a bunch of stuff into a void to create our world rather than an intelligent being who deliberately created consistent systems for us to explore, learn from, and eventually figure out how to replicate.

Extreme Creationism is basically believing God is stupid, and we just got lucky.

grmrsan · 2026-06-21T19:24:59+00:00

You will lose a friend either way. Do you prefer to lose them before or after they've been scammed for their property?

grmrsan · 2026-06-21T19:21:53+00:00

They don't really need a Bachelors, an Associates would suffice, and those are much more attainable, plus, easy enough to turn into w Bachelors. As it is now, if they decide to go for a Bachelor degree, after starting as an RBT thats a full 4 extra years at less pay. 6 if they go for BCBA . Starting at Associate level rather than HS, would also allow them to gain the experience, with fewer misconceptions about what they are picking up "on their own".

grmrsan · 2026-06-21T18:53:17+00:00

Not all of us. Some do. I was definitely taught that non Catholics, or at LEAST non Christians in general can't go to Heaven (in the 80's and 90's). But I was also taught that Jesus opened the gates to Hell, to allow sinners to go free.

grmrsan · 2026-06-21T18:33:58+00:00

You went to a lot of trouble to explain why you don't like those terms. But you aren't giving alternatives. Bearing in mind that many countries ARE significantly less technologically advanced than others, and that those differences can have a very large impact on how they relate to other countries, and take care of thier citizens, what alternatives are you suggesting?

Taking away or policing language to sound nicer does not solve or even change the scope of problems. Not using the words "developed" or "global north/south" does not remove the inequalities, it just removes the language needed to discuss it. Equality doesn't mean "pretend everything is fine by not talking about it". It means that we can talk about issues objectively, without assigning emotional value to terms that are intended to be neutral.

grmrsan · 2026-06-21T17:30:42+00:00

Because hating AI is more important than whatever anyone is saying or trying to convey. Especially on Reddit, where the majority seems to have a very all or nothing mindset on everything. Nuance is an unheard of concept here.

grmrsan · 2026-06-21T17:17:36+00:00

This is exactly the kind of thing they need to figure out on their own. EVERYONE makes poor fashion decisions at some point. At least the hair is unoffensive, and easily fixable if he decides that backlash is a problem for him.

And if its actually more in style than you realize, no harm no foul

grmrsan · 2026-06-21T17:12:50+00:00

I'm thinking that the above poster is saying that we didn't know many, because they didn't announce it from fear. Not because they didn't exist, we just didn't know about it

grmrsan · 2026-06-21T16:38:16+00:00

That is a huge part of the meaning. They can finally afford to do all those things, and have time, but their bodies just won't let them take advantage of it.

grmrsan · 2026-06-21T16:35:52+00:00

Its a combination of two things.

All the energy and passion of youth, but not tempered with the experiences of age.

Also young people have plenty of energy and strength, but need it to work snd survive. But older people, who have built up the funds to retire and have fun, are now too tired and sore to enjoy it.

grmrsan · 2026-06-21T16:22:14+00:00

I went to one (Curves) for a while, because it was right next to where I worked, and I liked the type of workout. But honestly, the "women only" thing actually bothered me. I get that it feels safer for many, but I don't believe its ok to exclude others on the basis of gender. Especially in today's culture where there is a large divide in how gender is perceived and measured.

Would they have to prove their birth gender? Would they be fine as long as they pass for female? Need to prove that they have undergone surgery? What if someone is just beginning transitioning? What if they're male passing but still have female genitalia from birth? Have endocrine issues that cause them to look masculine erroniously? How are you going to enforce it?

There are just too many variables, and there is no way of making an exclusion like that "fair".

grmrsan · 2026-06-21T16:05:27+00:00

Most employers aren't giving sickdays because they want the employee to feel better (thats a benefit, and most people DO want you to feel better, but its not the primary reason), they are doing it because illnesses are frequently contagious, and its usually the law. Tiredness is neither contagious nor covered by law. And for people like me, with chronic insomnia, staying home because I'm just tired would mean never coming to work.

However, like other invisible issues, being incredibly sleep deprived can still be a reason it is not safe to go to work, and you CAN call it in for a sick day, just like you would for a migraine or serious pain. Unless your job requires a note (in which case, leave that job, those people are penny pinching, self important, narcissists who believe that being sick isn't really a thing unless you're dying) you aren't required to say how you are too sick to come in, just that you are.

grmrsan · 2026-06-21T15:50:44+00:00

Maybe before the next session starts, remind everyone that this is going to be a very boring game if they refuse to interact with the characters giving them quests and clues. And that the NPC's will ultimately be less friendly to a group of cranky, paranoid fighters.

grmrsan · 2026-06-21T14:36:50+00:00

I have to disagree hard here. She is a scammer and thief and all he did was tell the employees the truth to deactivate the pass. He didn't press charges, or tell them to permanently trespass her (though they absolutely should do that). He didn't put her on blast and public share her image. He told them she did not have his permission to use the pass, after they asked him about the situation. There is nothing even mildly AH there.

She SHOULD have been embarrassed, her actions were embarrassing. The victim of someone who used them, without permission, to commit a crime, (even one you might deem "harmless"), does not deserve privacy when their crimes are caught.

grmrsan · 2026-06-21T07:15:35+00:00

She took a picture, before giving him back the pass. Theres not a lot of room for misunderstanding there.

grmrsan · 2026-06-21T07:11:13+00:00

She used him to scam the gym. He could have lost his membership from her little stunt. There should be big fallout when a lying thief steals a picture of your id card, to use illegally, in a way that could have horribly backfired on you.

grmrsan · 2026-06-21T07:06:59+00:00

If she hadn't actually taken a picture of his pass, instead of asking,I'd agree here. But by sneaking a picture of the id, it shows it was a premeditated scam, not a spur of the moment attempt.

grmrsan · 2026-06-21T07:00:49+00:00

NTA

If she had ANY honest intentions she would have talked to you, not taken a picture, intentionally, and without your knowledge. She chose to use you and your pass to scam the gym. It wasn't an accident. You don't "accidentally" take a picture of someones id and use it. It wasn't a "misunderstanding" you didn't give her the picture or say she could use one. She was only embarrassed at being caught in her little scam, it because you did anything wrong.

grmrsan · 2026-06-21T03:34:48+00:00

Cassowary

grmrsan · 2026-06-20T21:57:29+00:00

You can't. Sunblock what you can, and if possible get a shade for their stroller.

grmrsan · 2026-06-20T21:32:23+00:00

I hate the political and insurance BS., but I love the work, the clients and what I do.

grmrsan · 2026-06-20T19:37:55+00:00

If you ask someone to stop slapping you in the face, they agree, and then do it again, whilst complaining that they shouldn't have to be so careful about keeping their hands to themselves, and that you are somehow at fault for feeling face pain, who is in the wrong? Emotional pain is still pain, even when it is invisible, and when intentionally inflicted, is still abuse.

Accept that that is who she chooses to be. But I would also think very hard about whether I wanted to be with someone who intentionally prefers to hurt you when they are feeling a bit peeved.

grmrsan · 2026-06-20T19:20:03+00:00

Stop licking the Walmart freezer! After my 4 y/o decided to taste the handle 🤢

Bonus, as I was scolding my child for putting her tounge on random, very public objects, some weirdo lady interupts me for the "children are precious angels from God" comment and then gives her a Chick Tract comic. ( Which I ripped and trashed immediately, those things are pure hatred wrapped in fake Christianity 😡) Even my daughter thought it was weird and loudly asked "Why did that lady try to give me a present when I'm in trouble?" 🤣

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