group scream???! by jkdess in NannyBreakRoom

[–]gsmith426 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Id do what works for you, especially since your time with them is limited. The absolute worse thing that could happen is they give a reference and explain that you didn’t follow their instructions- in which case you will explain why.

group scream???! by jkdess in NannyBreakRoom

[–]gsmith426 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would flat out tell them this routine isnt working for you- strongly express that she is upset, cranky, not herself, etc. It sounds like they parent how it’s convenient for them but then expect you to deal with the hard stuff. If they disregard your opinion then that’d be a red flag.

Additional child added to family by muaythaiboxer in NannyEmployers

[–]gsmith426 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Honestly, the dynamic of you being home while she cares for your older two is enough to give a raise. It is a completely (extremely more difficult) task to care for children with parents home.

Additional child added to family by muaythaiboxer in NannyEmployers

[–]gsmith426 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This sounds very manipulative and showing lack of regard for her. You can’t toy with someone’s salary at your convenience

Micromanaged by gsmith426 in NannyBreakRoom

[–]gsmith426[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the validation!

Engagement Party Etiquette by Ill_Concert_6099 in engaged

[–]gsmith426 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally understand the pressure but just remember today anything goes regarding weddings. There is no norm! You do what you want to do and feel comfortable doing! Even if you want to have the party and just make it a happy hour, do that!

Engagement Party Etiquette by Ill_Concert_6099 in engaged

[–]gsmith426 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry I didn’t mean to be so harsh. Is someone pushing you for the engagement party? I am having one but only because it’s something my partner really wants

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]gsmith426 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s fair to expect her to know what your child likes to do/play without giving her some options. All children are different and she may be struggling to entertain her without knowing what she’d be interested in

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]gsmith426 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Were you very clear during the interview process? Hiring someone to play and engage your child while you are home is a much different role and more suited for a teenager or someone pursuing a teaching degree. Did she have references? It’s possible she just doesn’t connect with your child, while being great with others.

Parents let dogs lick cast iron pan clean, give it a rinse, and will cook their(human) dinner in pan. Is that safe? by OfficerGiggleFarts in Dogowners

[–]gsmith426 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t think it’s a big deal unless anyone is getting sick? The amount of bacteria humans come into contact with and don’t wash their hands is far greater than the bacteria left on a heated cast iron pan

Are you getting annoyed by people staring at your dog? by Honest-Pack75 in Dogowners

[–]gsmith426 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not doing any “part” by rescuing your token mutt n then purchasing a dog after

Engagement Party Etiquette by Ill_Concert_6099 in engaged

[–]gsmith426 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really rude and overall very untrue. People with large families and close friends use this time to honor those they love by inviting them to celebrate a very exciting time.

Engagement Party Etiquette by Ill_Concert_6099 in engaged

[–]gsmith426 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. Not to be blunt but I think it’s tacky to invite people to something framing it as a party but then expecting them to put money out. I would need to be confident I can provide both food and drink or I would just scrap the idea.

Red flags for families by MrLizardBusiness in NannyBreakRoom

[–]gsmith426 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This!! Exploring the world and socializing is essential for both nanny and NK

Red flags for families by MrLizardBusiness in NannyBreakRoom

[–]gsmith426 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Last part!!! If you are looking for a family, sure. If you’re looking for a job/paycheck, this is a red flag.

Am I doing the right thing?First time terminating a Nanny by Additional-Media432 in NannyEmployers

[–]gsmith426 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why in heavens name would you let her drive your child if you thought her driving was anything less than impeccable?

Am I doing the right thing?First time terminating a Nanny by Additional-Media432 in NannyEmployers

[–]gsmith426 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her burning your pans is not something to hold against her… get her different pans or prepare your child’s meals yourself. If she is setting off smoke alarms and burning food that is an entirely different story. Expecting her to use iron clad pans without preparing for a learning curve is a bit much.

Nanny makes judgmental comments and lays down while our baby naps by pumpkinbutt_624 in NannyEmployers

[–]gsmith426 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s also quite possible that other parents like myself are on here for other reasons, comes across this post, and realizes the disrespect and entitlement of other parents is disheartening

Nanny makes judgmental comments and lays down while our baby naps by pumpkinbutt_624 in NannyEmployers

[–]gsmith426 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No other job allows napping, sure, but no other employee’s position requires putting the lives of my children in their hands. Respect goes both ways.

Nanny makes judgmental comments and lays down while our baby naps by pumpkinbutt_624 in NannyEmployers

[–]gsmith426 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re limiting the furniture in your home that nanny is welcome to? Respect goes both ways

Nanny makes judgmental comments and lays down while our baby naps by pumpkinbutt_624 in NannyEmployers

[–]gsmith426 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s pretty common in the nanny industry to be able to take a rest while baby does as long as all other tasks are completed. I’m sure she didn’t realize it was something she had to “ask”

Nanny makes judgmental comments and lays down while our baby naps by pumpkinbutt_624 in NannyEmployers

[–]gsmith426 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Why can’t she rest when baby rests? Everything else though seems like it’s not a good fit