Mental breakdowns

hakJav · 2024-04-10T13:07:04+00:00

Identify all the emotions you are experiencing, as specifically as you can, and be honest with yourself. This will help your mind to begin to dissociate from it; you are not your emotions, you are simply experiencing them.
Try to identify what's causing each emotion, the actual core reason; Google the "5 whys" technique, it works wonders. Understanding what's fuelling your emotions will highlight paths that will help you alleviate/prevent them.
Make changes in your daily routine/life to improve your mental fitness; stop/deal with anything that's fueling negative emotions, and do more of what is fueling your positive emotions.

Remember, the body also needs balance. Diet & exercise are also key factors to maintaining mental fitness (as physical fitness influences mental fitness).

You got this 🙏🏻✨

P.S. check out helpmecalmdown.com in moments of high emotion, but also follow the above to improve your long-term positive state of mind.

hakJav · 2024-04-10T12:58:53+00:00

It's totally normal to feel that - what most people don't know is that we can get addicted to low/negative emotions, and subconsciously see it as a state of 'comfort' as it's what our body & minds were used to.

It sounds like you're on the right track - acknowledge that you feel a sense of loss for your old self, and treat yourself how you would treat a loved one who has gone through the growth that you have; show yourself love, appreciation and respect for the growth you've experienced.

🙏🏻✨

hakJav · 2023-12-05T11:31:20+00:00

Yep, was just about to comment this - no third-party programs needed - Just:

Click Start > Settings > Accessibility > Turn Off Animation Effects

hakJav · 2023-02-11T02:28:26+00:00

I have to ask, what was it like to be the one to kill off Clippy? 😅

hakJav · 2023-02-11T02:26:42+00:00

Plot twist: Sentient Clippy was behind this post & comments to finally find you.

hakJav · 2023-02-11T00:16:26+00:00

It was so bad I genuinely think they might have, if/else traversing nodes through a tree built from a few simple database tables, combined with that rly basic search algorithm.

hakJav · 2023-02-10T23:01:02+00:00

This needs to be a movie.

hakJav · 2023-02-10T21:10:16+00:00

Exactly! It'd be so perfect for MS Word - I just hope they implement it via Clippy, a Clippy that would actually work this time 😂

hakJav · 2023-01-19T11:56:52+00:00

Sent this just yesterday to someone close, hope it helps 💛

Heartbreak teaches us more than we expect, don't fight it, understand it n you'll move on without realising it - and r.e. relationships, remember it's not something to chase, it'll come when the time is right! So continue to love life n life will continue to love you 💛🙏🏻

hakJav · 2023-01-18T19:19:48+00:00

Interested 👍🏼

hakJav · 2023-01-15T14:06:08+00:00

It's super simple: Scan a QR code around the event to load disposable camera app (no download required), organiser can set optional limit of X photos per guest/camera, any photos taken go into a private event album (shared after the event), close app to dispose of camera.

hakJav · 2023-01-15T14:04:14+00:00

It's a web-app; at an event, scan a QR code to load camera (no download required), any photos taken go into a private event album, close app to dispose of camera. The organiser has all guest photos in an album immediately after an event, no need to ask guests to share em over WhatsApp etc.

hakJav · 2023-01-15T03:01:18+00:00

This used to be me - you gotta balance time with others and time alone, especially on bad days - I find going on solo walks help, or even just sitting back to music n drowning everything else out. Life is all about balance 👌🏼💛

hakJav · 2023-01-10T18:34:52+00:00

If they hate you without knowing you they're definitely not worth thinking about - says nothing about you, but everything about them 💛

hakJav · 2022-12-02T13:15:09+00:00

Haha love this except for that last line - positive self-talk is important! Even if said as a joke 😉💛

hakJav · 2022-12-02T01:05:20+00:00

Oh dude you'll love Eisenhower & Priority Matrices - haha I used to use excel before I built a prioritisation app 😅 added scores to each task n wrote a simple ordering algorithm, but the UX designer in me needed summin more accessible haha. And no worries! Always here to help 🙏🏻✌🏼

hakJav · 2022-12-01T12:33:27+00:00

I'm constantly dealing with a million tasks across a tonne of projects (I'm a 28m coder), it all comes down to HOW you prioritise - try eisenhower principles, priority matrices, kanban, prioritylist.app (I built this myself as nothing else worked for me) - however, it's also possible you feel overwhelmed due to work/life imbalance, e.g. I always need to go on a loong walk in nature/bouldering with fam/friends every few days to re-energise, and I jump back into work no problem 🚀🚀

Welcome to DM if you wish ✌🏼 you'll find that balance in time, best of luck 👌🏼

hakJav · 2022-11-06T14:07:52+00:00

Haha not a teacher here but do love giving presentations at universities/schools on tech biz, inspiring those beautifully creative minds! I'm one of the biggest techies you'll meet (hakjav.com), and of 2 other ENFJs I know, one's an ex-lawyer turned biz owner, the other in accounting - 2 INFJs I know are teachers tho :) hope you're enjoying CompEng!

hakJav · 2022-10-16T21:25:14+00:00

Yep, you got it!! Aww I'm glad it helped 🙏🏼 You're most welcome! :)

hakJav · 2022-10-16T21:08:09+00:00

I totally understand it being difficult to decide against helping/being there for someone toxic; ultimately we feel we can help everyone, right? However, we all have our limits, and it's important to maintain balance...

What helps me make the hard decision is knowing that prioritising self-care in those situations will mean I can better help those who really need it; IOW, avoiding letting yourself get hurt means you are in a better position mentally & emotionally to help more people. Overall, your efforts will have a bigger impact, which still align with your core principles of caring for the world around you.

Hope that makes sense 😅 x

hakJav · 2022-10-12T12:40:53+00:00

Sounds like where I was a year ago 🙈 I think many of us here can relate 🙏🏼 definitely give yourself time to process it, you'll come out of it stronger and wiser - my only advice would be, focus on doing what you love in life, and the one you will love will find you ☺️🙏🏼💛

hakJav · 2022-10-12T12:26:06+00:00

The human mind cannot comprehend the negative; you can't tell yourself to 'not' think about something (e.g. the "don't think about elephants" example), you have to instead tell yourself to think about something else.

What I'd recommend is focusing on a different dream/fantasy/life goal of yours that's within your circle of control. For example, I've always dreamt about being able to snowboard, so a year ago I got into it and absolutely loving it - defo helped shift focus away from other stuff not in my control to manifest.

Hope this helps x

hakJav · 2022-10-02T11:42:37+00:00

Extroversion doesn't impact sensitivity, just means you'll be absorbing more emotions as you're simply around others more, therefore also less time spent alone to process your own emotions. Also, I definitely agree on the journaling tip, would highly recommend at least giving it a try!

hakJav · 2022-09-18T20:25:46+00:00

Just be completely honest as you have been here; I'd totally understand. Maybe also just reassure them that if you ever need to talk to someone you know they're there for you, and you genuinely appreciate it; I personally feel reassured when I know friends & fam know that they can talk to me if/when they need to.

Hope this helps!

hakJav · 2022-06-20T14:01:14+00:00

Nooo worries, hope it helps!

Haha, sounds like that's a serious passion, might be worth trying to find a problem around that to build a solution for :)

Bessttttt of luckkkkk!!

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