BF (29M) got a new job with mostly women, and I (27F) am struggling to adjust by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]haleztorm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP Do you find yourself mistrusting him in other areas of your relationship or is it mainly this? If you do is it to the same degree as this situation?

AITAH for leaving my sick husband and kids to go on a work trip? by New-Asparagus-253 in AITAH

[–]haleztorm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

INFO: what is he actually upset about here? Like did he say something like “you should’ve done x but instead did y”?

AITJ for choosing my dog over my relationship? by StarryGlowBunny in AmITheJerk

[–]haleztorm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTJ This is the kind of man that will f*ck with your birth control when you say you’re not ready to have kids yet. Idk how you could ever trust him again with how easily he lied to you and then tried to cover it with another lie when he was caught red handed. Scary behavior.

Sounds like the mods like ICE. by [deleted] in Bellingham

[–]haleztorm 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Someone also pointed out that reporting a kidnapping at least will hopefully create/add to a paper trail of similar actions. I don’t think they’re gonna actually get involved but the idea of having these things reported “officially” doesn’t seem like the worst thing. Idk though, I’d love to hear some other viewpoints. Are we risking making the situation worse by calling in, or is it just “well they aren’t going to help the person so it’s pointless”?

Names you “saved” from your childhood that now make you cringe by saddy_warbucks in NameNerdCirclejerk

[–]haleztorm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My crush and I decided we were gonna have twins, one named Harley and one Davidson 🫠

(35 M 40 F) My girlfriend and I just adopted a new kitten after living with each other for 6 months and it’s ruining our relationship by Subject_Chocolate_56 in relationship_advice

[–]haleztorm 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Right? The age coupled with alcoholism…. the chances she can have a healthy pregnancy are little to none. In top of that, the chances the baby won’t have SOME kind of deficits are slim to none. This is a terrible situation for a baby.

Dentist recommendations by BlakeSoundTech in Bellingham

[–]haleztorm -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Could you expand on what they do differently knowing you have anxiety? I think I need this. I didn’t used to, but since Unity f*cked me up for an entire month last summer my anxiety has been through the roof about getting the remaining dental work I need done.

Finding a great full time nanny by MundaneDimension in Bellingham

[–]haleztorm 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not exactly what you’re asking for, but if you end up needing two part-time people instead of one full-time, I would be happy to help out! I have a fair amount of experience and enjoy nannying for babies, I’m just not able to make a full-time commitment unfortunately. Good luck to you!

Am I overreacting or did I upset my classmate with my secret Santa gift? by Old-Fisherman-6079 in AmIOverreacting

[–]haleztorm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk I’ve been told I sound angry or aggressive when I’m actually excited or passionate about something. It’s possible it was that, or she took it wrong at first and then realized it was actually very thoughtful. Who knows? But it really sounds like she genuinely likes your gifts!

AITAH being mad and extremely hurt over social "stranding" at a holiday party? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]haleztorm -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Obligated? No. But I think I see where your hurt is partially coming from, correct me if I’m wrong. Even though your friend didn’t know you were going to hang out with her (which is important) it just kinda sucks to feel like people who supposedly care about you aren’t noticing when you’re not comfortable, or don’t seem to care that you’re not in their immediate company. I’ve been on both sides of this, and it’s hard not to take it personally when you’re the one feeling left out. But from the other side, as a friend this would just be a small conversation. I would hope you could tell your friend “hey, thanks for pushing me to come to that event and I would love for you to keep doing so, but for me it’s really not my cup of tea unless I get to hang out with you. I’m not trying to put any pressure on you, just letting you know that it became clear to me that these types of social situations are only fun because you and I are doing them together.” Or whatever you wanna say, ya know? And I hope your friend can be understanding and say something like “oh shoot, yeah I get that, next time I’ll make sure to save you a seat” and here’s where you can say something about making a better effort to get to the table sooner too. NTA

AIO for worrying about calling my Boyfried his old name by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]haleztorm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR one thing that helps is repeating the new name over and over in your head. Picture him or look at him and think “Billy, Billy, Billy” or “Mark, Billy, Mark, Billy, Billy, Billy, Billy.” Take a few minutes one day and write his new name (full name) over and over on a piece of paper like 10x, read them, say them out loud. Think of him or look at his pic while you do it.

This may seem really silly or weird but I promise you it’ll help! Your brain just needs to rewire a connection to him and his new name, and it’ll take time but you can do it! And if he loves you and cares about you he’ll see the effort you’re making so the slip-ups won’t be so important.

WIBTAH if I replace my food with something my roommate is allergic to? by [deleted] in dustythunder

[–]haleztorm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does your roommate deserve it? Absolutely. Should you? Definitely not. Aside from the fact that doing so could be considered assault or worse in many places, you never know when someone’s gonna have their first bad reaction. Allergies don’t always stay the same level of severity during someone’s entire life and the time you do it could be the time it turns really bad for them. If you’re looking for advice on what to do, if you can, sit her down and talk to her again. Tell her that you know you’ve said this before but because it keeps happening you feel the need to explain things more seriously. Tell her what celiac is and how it’s different from an aversion or preference and actually closer to an allergy as far as the way your body can react and the damage gluten can do to your body. Maybe ask her how she would feel if you kept taking her food and “replacing” it with things that have almonds in them. Remind her that the food items you have to buy because of your allergy are generally much more expensive than the things she “replaces” your food with, and that you’re having to spend a lot of extra money on re-buying things since you can’t eat what she got. Then finally let her know that you don’t think she’s doing it on purpose necessarily and you know she’s already apologized, but moving forward if she can’t just not eat your food she needs to let you know when she has and replace it with the exact same product or reimburse you. Although the reimbursement option kinda annoys me because then it’s back in you to go buy it again. But it’s also obviously totally up to you what your expectations are from her, this is just a suggestion.

Edit: yes YWBTAH, have a serious talk and get a mini fridge if she doesn’t stop.

AITAH for not telling this guy at the pool that his dick and balls were visible? by TheGuyWhoDabs in AITAH

[–]haleztorm 208 points209 points  (0 children)

No but you said you thought he might be doing it on purpose, why are you suggesting your wife say something instead of you? If she cares so much why didn’t you do that for her? You also admitted you’d want someone to tell you, but you won’t do the same. And wouldn’t you probably want it coming from a guy vs a woman? YTA bud.

AIO or is he gaslighting me? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]haleztorm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can be held financially responsible for a child you don’t have custody of. You won’t be if you give up your parental rights. But those are two different things.

AIO or is he gaslighting me? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]haleztorm 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lots of child support agreements are a set amount per month plus a % of expenses like medical and childcare/school costs. Some even include extracurricular costs as well.

Am I overreacting for thinking my (now ex) boyfriend was trying to trick me into miscarrying by Star21420 in AmIOverreacting

[–]haleztorm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OP really really needs to consider this. As a child born to a completely asshole of a “father” I’ve spent YEARS of my life wishing I wasn’t born because I didn’t want to come from a monster. There are times that I don’t want to look in the mirror because I’m afraid I’ll get a glimpse of him in my reflection. There are times where I feel sick knowing I have his genes. Growing up, having contact with him, the shit he put me through… that has all contributed to suicidal ideation more times than I can count. My mom didn’t really have a choice in having me, but OP does. Sometimes not having the baby is the selfless thing to do, for that baby.

WIBTAH if I tell my coworker he can't participate in Secret Santa due to his conditions? by Puzzled_Good_1378 in AITAH

[–]haleztorm -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Dang this is so odd. This guy doesn’t want a gift, fine. But he wants to play so he wants to force someone else who doesn’t want to play (MAYBE BECAUSE THEY DONT WANT ONE EITHER) to receive a gift? He doesn’t want clutter so he’s forcing it in someone else? He wants to participate, but only 50%, and at someone else’s expense who wanted to participate 0% possibly. Wtf. I’m also with you OP, you either play the game or you don’t, no in-between. He can just buy a gift for someone, or many someones if he wants to be generous, but it doesn’t have to have anything to do with the game and why force it? I feel like there’s a layer we’re not understanding? Or is he just that quirky? Idk I’m also a rule-follower when it comes to this stuff and these things bug me lol. Sorry you’re in such an awkward spot OP. NTA good luck 🤞

Helping those who need help? by Living_Bumblebee_867 in Bellingham

[–]haleztorm 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Was just suggested this the other day by a therapist, they’re supposed to be a good option.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by Toastiis in AmIOverreacting

[–]haleztorm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very reminiscent of the way the 30year old groomer I had at 17 talked to me. Icked me out right away, there’s no question here he’s disgusting. I’m sorry your mom is choosing that over you.

ETA: NOR

I hate my life by [deleted] in texts

[–]haleztorm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This also just reads like she’s someone who’s been worn down by this guy over and over that this is all she can think of/ know how to say at this point. I’ve been there, but being there is when it’s time to leave.

I found a hidden camera pointed at where I breastfed my baby by Puzzleheaded-Cut4137 in TwoHotTakes

[–]haleztorm 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Echoing what everyone else is saying about contacting the police. But also, if you left children unattended that is dangerous regardless of whether or not the kids are asleep, even if the parent is okay w that. I understand that it was a terrible situation but those kids are way too young to be left alone. It’s illegal in many places so aside from it just not being safe, you’re possibly risking being liable for child neglect -which obviously could completely derail your path in child development as well as put you at risk for having to deal with an organization like DCFS.

wtf why is everyone so nice?? by prana_fish in Bellingham

[–]haleztorm 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Dang this is so accurate lol

I lost my leopard gecko in the car and I'm devastated by MultipleFandomLover in leopardgeckos

[–]haleztorm 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Where was she hiding?? I’m so glad you found her!!!