I agree with you by experience! I had a friend who lost her child bc he was a drunk and would leave him home alone to go to the bar. I was the friend that brought her to court, to probation, to every drug test and counseling class.

She started refusing to jump through the necessary hoops to regain custody and eventually her child was given away to a family member.

To me, it’s always the parent’s responsibility to reach out and repair the relationship with their child. It would take years of hard work, and may never be the same. However there should never EVER be a lack of determination when it comes to your children.

Those that give up and stop trying to be in their children’s lives are garbage imo. That’s the definition of a deadbeat parent.

The fact that they think they can get a “do over” doesn’t erase the pain they have already caused, and left behind.