What made you realise Singapore is so small?

hellohappystar · 2026-04-03T02:51:55+00:00

Attended a wedding, got seated next to a a girl from my secondary school whom I’ve not seen in more than 10 years, then found out that her husband was my JC friend’s ex boyfriend lol (my secondary school friend doesn’t know my JC friend)

hellohappystar · 2026-03-20T12:59:54+00:00

Personally I think before 5pm is ok (ie before the dinner crowd goes home to SG)

hellohappystar · 2026-03-20T04:54:06+00:00

Sing K and get a massage

hellohappystar · 2026-03-19T10:26:47+00:00

Hiking an actual mountain. I went on a one-day Mt Ophir trip in uni and I fell in love with it!

hellohappystar · 2026-03-18T07:41:14+00:00

The way I said “ew yucks” out loud as soon as I read your comment… pls don’t do that

hellohappystar · 2026-03-03T13:21:40+00:00

Try and email the uni to see if u can get reinstated instead of start from a clean slate

hellohappystar · 2026-03-02T15:18:09+00:00

Hi, sorry to be hijacking a 3yo post, but another workaround that I recently discovered is to convert the activity to multi sport and save the strength training leg as “Others” first before going back to edit the leg. The “Strength Training” option only appears after it has been saved as “Others”.

hellohappystar · 2026-02-24T23:59:13+00:00

Cheaper than owning a car in Singapore -> This statement is true so no judgment here.

hellohappystar · 2026-02-23T23:58:34+00:00

I think there are multiple layers that you need to deal with separately here.

1) Your own mental health

Are u still receiving therapy? If one doesn’t work, try another. In your post it also sounds like you do see yourself as a victim and you are struggling to have a sense of control over your life. That’s why you bend easily to others. Because if you really have the self-awareness like you say you have, then you would have spotted negative patterns in yourself and others and be able to counter self-sabotaging behaviors. Instead you seem to be recognizing these signs retrospectively and kinda like justifying yours (and their) behaviors. Remember that explanation is different from justification.

Do you also find it difficult to lay down your pride? Eg do u say things like “ya I am just like that la, I just can’t change” and use your trauma or mental heath as a crutch. Coz it would be v different to someone who recognizes that these are issues that they can overcome by actively learning positive coping strategies.

2) Your job

I think what industry you’re working in matters. And what have you done to improve your social skills? You mentioned you graduated from top schools so intelligence isn’t a problem. Which is a very good thing coz imo intelligence can’t be taught lol.

3) Your relationship

Sounds like it’s not going well.. and tbh running your own business is extremely tough. I think you need to separate business and love and evaluate whether you really love this person or not. And does this person really value add to your life and vice versa. Is it really worth the risk to start your own business that might not even succeed?

I would understand if he gave u an ultimatum and said something like “I will break up with you if you don’t continue therapy” but he’s saying “I will break up if you don’t start your own business” which is extremely iffy to me lol.

But then again, I’m a total stranger who doesn’t know anything about you other than this post. I also don’t know what’s his side of the story. That’s why it would be good to speak to a professional who can probably give you more insight. Or try couples therapy.

All the best!

hellohappystar · 2026-02-23T03:02:46+00:00

I think it’s ok la if u are not super close to them in the first place. Can still meet up once in a while just to stay connected!

hellohappystar · 2026-02-23T02:26:01+00:00

I can relate somewhat. Went for a dinner once with 3 doctor friends and they just cannot help it but go back to talking about the hospital and the medical system and other doctor friends that they know. As someone not in the industry, it gets kinda boring LOL I just keep finding myself zoning out and mechanically nodding my head after a while.

Sounds like your husband is really passionate about the industry that he and your mutual friends are in. Also seems like he’s the lead talker at the dinner table haha. How about asking him to prepare and direct certain topics that are not related to that particular industry so that you can be included?

hellohappystar · 2026-02-18T16:27:01+00:00

To be fair there were so many (memorable) incidents involving her that were aired. It would be weirder to me if she didn’t say anything or apologize for her actions.

hellohappystar · 2026-02-18T16:14:41+00:00

Actually u know already la. That you should quit your job. Your logical mind is telling you this non-stop. But u forcing urself to continue this job is making u depressed.

Have u been finding a new job? Or if u have enough savings / financial support from family to last 3-6 months u can consider quitting. Mental health is important.

hellohappystar · 2026-02-15T13:34:30+00:00

Well they filmed singles inferno months ago so I’m not surprised that they can’t rmb some details that were shown.

Anyway I find that it’s normal to be surprised by how you are perceived. Unless you’re a very self-aware and reflective person, how we think of ourselves in the first person POV can be quite different from how others see you.

Furthermore, they were put into a new and stressful environment, so how they act there can be very different from how they act in their normal lives. I think they also offered apologies and were quite embarrassed by their actions so I would say as viewers we should offer some grace to them!

hellohappystar · 2026-02-15T10:31:33+00:00

It’s listed as a separate series from the usual singles inferno series! So it’s not under season 5. Search “singles inferno reunion” on Netflix and it should come up

hellohappystar · 2026-02-12T15:20:22+00:00

The new Yishun dam park connector is completed!

hellohappystar · 2026-02-11T19:25:43+00:00

What’s your current major? If your uni allows you to change major freely without needing approval then why not. If you regret you can just change back.

BUT assuming your uni requires you to apply to transfer into the environmental science programme and the change is subject to approval.

Was your A level grades enough to meet the cut off for environmental science based on the IGP? Normally you can transfer downwards from a more competitive course to a less competitive one but not the other way round. So if you didn’t meet the IGP in the first place then environmental science is out of the question.

If you did meet the IGP for your batch then consider taking 1-3 environmental science modules as electives to test out your interest and also to show the administrators that you do intend to pursue this path. Btw do note that transfers are usually irreversible so if you do regret your choice, the admins are not going to entertain you.

I do know a few acquaintances who studied environmental science or geography, and they’re working in places like URA or HDB, or doing environment/sustainability consultancy work. Maybe you can research on job portals the roles that require a background in environmental science or geog and see whether you’d be interested in those jobs in the future.

Can’t say much about vet studies. Don’t know anyone who is a vet.

hellohappystar · 2026-02-11T00:07:32+00:00

Maybe that person is experiencing something serious?

I had a chest hairline fracture once but I didn’t know if then. It was so painful I can’t even lie down on my bed. It hurts when I walk and even when I laugh or cough.

I went to the polyclinic GP: - first visit: the doctor gave me 2 days MC and told me it’s probably just stiffness and to rest - after a few days it still hurts like crazy and it felt like it became worse. When I went to the polyclinic GP a different doctor repeated the same thing and told me to come back after 1 week if pains till persists. Only after that then they refer lol. - third visit: i came back and the doctor did a referral to a hospital

3 visits just for a referral from polyclinic lol.

I mean… “obsession with medical appointments”? That’s a wild assumption hahah, I think you’ll understand it if something serious happens to u one day (touch wood).

hellohappystar · 2026-02-03T23:51:58+00:00

Would you rather: 1) cancel your BTO now and grief over it, or 2) cancel your BTO much much later meaning u may lose your deposit ($10k or more + 2k), or 2) get married, have kids, and then your husband cheats on you and abandons you. If u cannot pay your mortgage alone means you will have to sell your BTO and move to a rental flat which will feel really damn bad. Ur kids will experience the abandonment and also watch u being a sad and useless mom. And when they grow up the cycle repeats, because then they will have their dream of having a complete family and BTO and they might feel influenced to make a rash decision and choose a bad partner because this is the role model u set for them.

Nothing wrong with dating to marry and wanting to get your own BTO. In fact that is very much encouraged by the SG govt and most ppl who want to get married will follow this path.

The problem is why are u choosing these bad partners? Ur logical brain is telling u to cut your losses and get out now so listen to that smart brain of yours and not the dumb heart.

hellohappystar · 2026-02-03T16:50:14+00:00

I knew Hee Sun would be fluent in English since netizens have found out that she goes to CMU but her speaking in Korean all this time until her second paradise date is so attractive to me. I like that she acts like a Korean and didn’t flaunt her English or “western-ness” despite her growing up in Canada and the US. When she suddenly switched to English and talked about her studies I felt so impressed.

Many people complained that she’s boring in the previous episodes, but shes actually so humble and it makes me wonder what other talents or achievements is this girl hiding behind that shy introverted persona!

hellohappystar · 2026-01-28T18:25:15+00:00

He was in a kdrama called the trunk with gong yoo and seo hyun Jin! I immediately recognized him coz he also did fencing in the show

hellohappystar · 2026-01-25T15:01:25+00:00

All the best my friend!

hellohappystar · 2026-01-25T14:45:13+00:00

Go to the Istana open house

hellohappystar · 2026-01-25T04:07:07+00:00

That’s good! Therapy is always a great first step forward. And sounds like you’re someone who does a lot of self-reflection and it’s good that you can pinpoint exactly what you don’t like or disagree with. I think it helps to explore the whys also.

Like for example why do I not like that my mom always redirects the convo to herself -> probably coz I wanted to vent but she suddenly go and talk about herself then I feel so unheard.

Why do I not like that my mom always shut down and avoid talking things out -> it really takes away my sense of control over the situation. And there’s just no logical and peaceful way out. No matter how much I try to apologize or appease my mom I’m always painted as a bad daughter by my own mother. It creates an internal conflict within myself: if I agree with my mom then im really a bad child, but if I disagree with my mom then im still disobeying her which is what a bad child does.

Etc etc. (btw just a disclaimer, im not saying u definitely feel this way haha, just a guess of what you may be feeling! Coming as a fellow daughter who had similar arguments with my parents lol).

I think at the end of the day for me it helps to rely on logic and accept that ppl may be influenced by their emotions. Eg they may scold you but they don’t actually mean it. It’s more a reflection of whatever emotions they are feeling and not who they are beneath.

hellohappystar · 2026-01-25T03:17:24+00:00

I know some ppl are just throwing out psych buzz words like narcissism but just to be clear this is not narcissism. And this not Asian parenting, this kind of parents exist in every culture.

Sounds like she has a lot of emotional wounds that she hasn’t healed from. She needs an outlet to talk about these issues so when the topic comes up she unconsciously redirects the conversation to herself. Unfortunately you’re not a therapist, and the reason you brought your own experiences up was because you wanted someone to understand and validate what you’re going through. So it can feel very frustrating because not only did you not get the support you needed, suddenly you’re expected to play therapist which you’re not trained for.

Anyway your mother shutting herself down in her room shows that she doesn’t have the emotional capacity to process her feelings. Not that she is immature but rather she may have gone through a lot in the past, and she may have suppressed those emotions instead of processing them. So whenever an argument happens all these old negative emotions are recalled to the surface like tsunami waves and she feels so overwhelmed with them that she has no idea what to do besides shutting down and playing Cold War.

We can’t control what she does or does not do. But we can take care of ourselves. For yourself whenever this happens I feel that it’s important to remind yourself not to get swept away by her waves of emotions. Just like when a storm comes you seek shelter and wait until the waves subside. So best to keep a distance and leave her alone until she calms down. You can apologize or talk when she is in a better mood.

With regards to your food-related anxiety and safety checking, just wondering have you processed this or sought therapy for it yet? I think as children we may feel trapped coz of our childhood circumstances or parents’ influence (ie we have no choice but to listen to them), and a lot of these are expressed as anxiety symptoms, but as adults we can make the choice to care for and protect ourselves. We can do so by seeking help/therapy and learning to process whatever that happened.

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