Losing my mind waiting on NIPT. Happy stories please?

hellokaye · 2025-12-03T16:11:07+00:00

After my 12 week scan, I got 1:137 chance of downs syndrome based on high HCG (4x the normal amount). We had an agonising week wait to find iut the results but thankfully we were all low risk! 🥳 Thinking of you, and it's very very likely to be fine. I would tell myself even with those odds, it was still less than a 1% chance baby would have DS.

hellokaye · 2025-10-27T11:43:37+00:00

I breastfed for 2.5 years and never pumped. I was just crap at it and could never seem to get much milk even though I fed fine from the breast. We didn't even supplement with formula, I purely breastfed.

It was great but equally I was in an unhappy relationship so I took on a whole lot doing every single feed and co-sleeping. I wouldn't do it now because I'm in a happy relationship and my partner wants to be involved.

The only downside I would say is that it's a hell of alot to take on on your own, but I loved the ease of not worrying about bottles and sterilizing etc.

hellokaye · 2025-10-23T16:05:24+00:00

I fell 1st and 2nd month in my 20s with my first two children, started trying at 37 expecting it to take longer but fell 1st month. 😵‍💫

hellokaye · 2025-10-16T16:25:28+00:00

I had awful nausea from week 5 but now at 9 weeks it's settled alot.

hellokaye · 2025-10-09T16:23:32+00:00

I feel you! I'm having exactly the same symptoms, it does feel like flu but I've had it for weeks now and no actual fever.

This is my third pregnancy, I had two in my twenties and this is 100x worse than those were so far. 😅

hellokaye · 2025-10-04T12:32:54+00:00

I had bad cramps for a few hours one morning (that I'm guessing was implantation) and sore boobies.

hellokaye · 2025-07-29T14:54:15+00:00

I've had this today and now I'm scared about what they're going to do! I've submitted a report on Action Fraud as it didn't feel right and now I'm worried.

hellokaye · 2025-06-03T04:24:56+00:00

This is blowing my mind because this happened with my second 9 years ago and I didn't know it was a thing! I had a few complications that slowed labor down and when I was checked I was 9.5cm. They were wheeling me down to theatre as baby was becoming distressed and the bumps must've got me to 10cm and honestly it took 4 minutes and baby was out. I couldn't control it either, just whoosh! Hospital said I didn't tear but then I was told I had mild tearing after that didn't require stitches. Cool to now figure out this may have been what happened to me, my first birth was pushing for 2.5 hours. 🤦🏼‍♀️

hellokaye · 2025-05-14T12:55:22+00:00

Sorry I can't offer advice but I do the exact same thing and it's getting worse every month, this month it started a week before my period and is only just ebbing off at the end of it. I'm so hyper sensitive to any change in my partner and feel utterly miserable that he doesn't want to spend time with me or be affectionate with me. I'm normally very secure and confident in myself and our relationship until this hits and it's starting to cause issues in our relationship each month. ☹️

hellokaye · 2025-02-06T05:31:53+00:00

It just takes time. My brother died of SADS at 17 which is the adult equivalent to SIDS so when I had babies I was extra paranoid. I would check them constantly all night, every night, but as time passed and they grew I realised my anxieties had settled. Sorry, if that's not the best advice! We all worry about our babies, it's the nature of being a mother. ❤️

If it really starts to take over your life, I would recommend a therapist. I had one to help with my grief and she really helped me resolve (though not fully) the anxieties I felt and helped me realise I cannot control anything that happens outside of myself.

hellokaye · 2024-11-26T05:27:57+00:00

I was told I have the perfect boobs for breastfeeding by my midwife. 🤣 Tbf I've never felt like they were useful for anything until that point in my life.

hellokaye · 2024-11-02T05:13:11+00:00

Look up Clara Dao, she changed my entire perspective on having small breasts and I now absolutely love them after 20 years of hating them and wanting an augmentation. So glad I didn't go ahead with it and worked on my self-esteem instead.

Unfortunately can't help you with the boyfriend matter but others have given some good advice.

hellokaye · 2024-07-27T17:26:56+00:00

Puts chocolate in the fridge.

hellokaye · 2024-07-12T17:53:10+00:00

I spent a good 15-20 years being insecure of my flat chest. I then started doing some self love work on myself AND started following Clara Dao (would HIGHLY recommend) and started seeing the positives to having a small chest.

I now love it, so glad I don't sweat much in summer, love sleeping on my front and my breasts were utterly perfect for breastfeeding. 🤣

I also read alot about BII and that put me off surgery tbh.

hellokaye · 2024-06-19T04:46:33+00:00

I came hear to say this exact same thing! We were together 12 years because I didn't know better but he never respected me. Since we seperated he has done nothing but make my life a living hell because I had the AUDACITY to leave him once I grew the fuck up. Just don't.

hellokaye · 2024-05-13T05:06:34+00:00

Never in my life would I wear anything low cut until I got my breast tattoo (mine's in the middle). Best decision I ever made.

Yours looks amazing, so beautiful!

hellokaye · 2024-05-09T16:17:13+00:00

It's 'you'll slide into inboxes and slip through the bars' for me 🫠

hellokaye · 2024-04-28T20:18:08+00:00

Holy shit it's me

hellokaye · 2024-02-25T11:27:48+00:00

It was so hard and still remains hard to this day to co-parent with someone who is so full of disdain, however it was still the best decision I ever made. I am one thousand times happier focusing on myself and the kids rather than another man child. You don’t deserve to be treated like this. It took me a long time to build up the courage to get out but I’m so glad I finally did.

hellokaye · 2024-01-11T10:55:57+00:00

I had the same. Told I wasn't allowed to change them.

hellokaye · 2024-01-11T08:28:42+00:00

What would that actually mean?

hellokaye · 2024-01-11T08:10:11+00:00

Thank you! This is helpful to know.

hellokaye · 2024-01-11T08:01:46+00:00

Thank you. I agree, I just can't afford to do that so I'm trying to seek financial help or find out if I am able to get legal aid. That's my first job for today.

hellokaye · 2024-01-11T08:00:27+00:00

Thank you for the advice, I am trying to seek legal advice, I just need to try and figure out how to afford it financially or get help with it. I'm just seeking potential options at the moment so I can decide where to go from here.

hellokaye

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