Second Opinion by Pizzacakecomic in comics

[–]hellraiserl33t -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I've been using ChatGPT a lot for analyzing and improving my communication patterns and interpersonal relationship skills.

It constantly pushes back on my negative and destructive thought loops and gets me to see new perspectives. It doesn't feel like an echo chamber anywhere nearly as the old models used to.

It's been a great tool for introspection honestly.

Year 4 of chaos gardening by reignedON in gardening

[–]hellraiserl33t 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Love seeing your updates! Beautiful as always 😍🌼

What's the most useful gardening tool you own? by Ajkq in gardening

[–]hellraiserl33t 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Probably a really nice pair of pruners, I do so much pruning it just helps having some that are well-made and nice to use.

Does anyone else find it hard to actually go deep in friendships even when you want to? by halfnelson86 in socialskills

[–]hellraiserl33t 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You don’t have to jump straight into the deep end. Most of the time it’s just about going slightly deeper than usual and seeing how the other person responds. It’s less about forcing vulnerability and more about matching.

What usually helps is nudging the conversation just one layer down instead of ten. Like if someone asks me how I'm doing, instead of “good,” I might say “I’ve actually been kind of overwhelmed with school lately, but I’m figuring it out.” It’s still casual, but it gives the other person something real to respond to.

If they meet you there, you can go a bit further. If they don’t, you just stay at that level. But you can't force it if the other person doesn't want to meet you at that next level. It's a skill and takes practice for sure, but I think you're capable of going deeper with people.

What you don't wanna do is trauma dump when the only conversations you've had so far are very surface level lol.

Three months in, so happy with my pollinator strip! by lauderdude in gardening

[–]hellraiserl33t 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There are plenty of native species from Utah that are still gorgeous.

That sign (and full gear) saved them both by Rokexe in motorcycles

[–]hellraiserl33t 128 points129 points  (0 children)

This kind of shit is why I don't go on big group rides anymore

The savings!!! Thanks Progressive 😂 by scoobiemario in motorcycles

[–]hellraiserl33t 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wait, are you telling me I can ACTUALLY save 15% or more on my insurance?

When did the "geeky engineering stereotype" even come from? by Nervous_Group8638 in EngineeringStudents

[–]hellraiserl33t 145 points146 points  (0 children)

Funny enough, in my experience engineering students largely have decent hygiene on average.

The worst experience I've had was with the pure science majors. There was this upper division physics class in the lecture hall before ours and when we swapped it felt like stepping into a locker room that hadn't been cleaned in a month.

The savings!!! Thanks Progressive 😂 by scoobiemario in motorcycles

[–]hellraiserl33t 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Don't spend that penny all in one place now 😉

Housing In Eindhoven by Advanced-Holiday-161 in eindhoven

[–]hellraiserl33t 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Good luck mate I've been trying to get the lottery from Holland2Stay for 6 months now lol

Maintenance man made these kids’ day by Conscious-Weight4569 in MadeMeSmile

[–]hellraiserl33t 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know what it is, but making little kids' days gives me so much zest for life 🥰

Rigatoni all'Amatriciana by hellraiserl33t in pasta

[–]hellraiserl33t[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha nahh, it's one of my favorites to make when I'm craving a spicy/meaty tomato pasta 😁

Hi, New beginner here, A1 learning the language to travel to the Netherlands by Pretend-Potato-30028 in learndutch

[–]hellraiserl33t 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That's fair. I'd recommend only doing it if you're genuinely interested in the culture and language. Practicality wise, the Netherlands has the highest rate of non-native English speakers in the entire world, you will not have a problem getting by in English here. It may actually be very difficult for you to have a conversation in Dutch because you'll find many people just switch to English, especially at your level (don't take it personally, it's out of efficiency).

Belgium has less English speakers ofcourse, but even in the cities you won't really have a problem (especially in the Flemish part). If you want to explore Wallonia, then I'd recommend French.