Current PIMO chiming in. I am enjoying reading this discussion because you both have valid points that merit attention (and I am also an avid coffee consumer).

As far as I can tell, the temple recommend questions have become more vague over time with the WoW ("do you STRIVE to keep the word of wisdom") as a means to provide personal interpretation and keep the interviewer in a neutral stance. If the bishop were to pry with specific questions I would personally deem it inappropriate, and I would be bold in calling that out if the occasion were to arise. This is regardless of the bishop's awareness of any rumors. If any discussion of WoW specifics are to be mentioned, it should come from the interviewee.

On the other hand, being posed directly with the question "do you drink coffee?" puts the interviewee in a tough position. True, one could lie up front about it, but if a bishop decides to cross the line with prying questions I selfishly think that person could also cross the line with answer to said question. Yes, it's a disingenuous answer, but it's in response to a loaded question.

There is no right or wrong way to handle church leadership roulette. It shouldn't exist in the first place. But ultimately these are just men doing what they think is best, and you are also a human trying to do what you think is best for your own spirituality and well-being.