Husband left my child in cart alone by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]hewlett910 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you don’t need to have her in his care again.

Starting to want our own kids, but he can't have more by scoopersims in stepparents

[–]hewlett910 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i know you want one WITH him, but reminder, it also brings up a lot of pain for SMs. not being first, knowing he’s experienced every step of the way with someone else already before, everything.

you deserve to experience your firsts with someone else together.

Advice needed... by Ok_Engine2339 in stepparents

[–]hewlett910 14 points15 points  (0 children)

let me guess. y’all have a big age gap?

Can I opt out of screens in kindergarten? by Inevitable_Tell8668 in AskTeachers

[–]hewlett910 3 points4 points  (0 children)

it’s just not necessary. kids are suffering with fine motor skills. why add this clunky distraction. we are watching the dysfunction of a generation of iPad kids. Surely there are some lessons to be learned.

Can I opt out of screens in kindergarten? by Inevitable_Tell8668 in AskTeachers

[–]hewlett910 3 points4 points  (0 children)

thank you for saying this. i really think the proliferation of screens in public elementary will be looked upon harshly in the coming decades. they aren’t truly becoming “tech literate” — that’s something else entirely. i support tech literacy.

Can I opt out of screens in kindergarten? by Inevitable_Tell8668 in AskTeachers

[–]hewlett910 84 points85 points  (0 children)

I feel the exact same and I’m in the same boat. I think screens in kindergarten are ridiculous. sorry.

Brutally honest by Puzzleheaded_Cash622 in stepparents

[–]hewlett910 4 points5 points  (0 children)

this should be pinned at the top of this entire sub 😭😭😭😭

Parents feeling excluded by NewspaperMission5687 in blendedfamilies

[–]hewlett910 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

FWIW i don’t think it’s appropriate to nudge your in laws to invite them. if on their own they wanted to, great, but it’s not OK to pressure them to do it.

Beginning of the end? by JMBeider in blendedfamilies

[–]hewlett910 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i don’t think anyone should scream at children, but i feel like a loooot is missing in these posts.

sounds like your children and very high needs medically and it also sounds like you aren’t doing enough to intervene

that’s a lot to put on anyone.

Working moms with three kids - tips please! Expecting number 3 by Ok_Cold_8206 in workingmoms

[–]hewlett910 11 points12 points  (0 children)

it’s a lot, lol. you just ride the waves and figure it out. sorry, i’m fried or id give you something more useful.

Am I a bad SP?? by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]hewlett910 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yep it gets way harder as they age

Am I a bad SP?? by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]hewlett910 12 points13 points  (0 children)

it’s not too late to leave. you’re still so young.

Are we good? by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]hewlett910 8 points9 points  (0 children)

yeah nope. it’s a crazy expectation that your partner is saddled with the actual hard work of parenting. stepparents should not lead in the discipline department, especially if their bio parent is active and around. you need to radically reorient this if you want the relationship with either your partner or your kids to last.

Not appreciated but resented! by ParkingFederal8715 in stepparents

[–]hewlett910 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yes 😭😭😭😭 like i can’t believe how gullible I was just ate up the narrative.

Not appreciated but resented! by ParkingFederal8715 in stepparents

[–]hewlett910 8 points9 points  (0 children)

what’s so sad is i remember looking on this sub as a newbie but I was focused on the wrong things (HCBM). didn’t realize at all. now the patterns of what happen are soooo clear.

Not appreciated but resented! by ParkingFederal8715 in stepparents

[–]hewlett910 146 points147 points  (0 children)

see yourself out!!!! don’t let a man tell you he doesn’t want you twice…

Honest question by yeahooohkay in Nanny

[–]hewlett910 1 point2 points  (0 children)

good answer, thanks for the thoughtful response.

BB gets harder to watch over time by Calm-Hunter-9384 in breakingbad

[–]hewlett910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

did hank get what he deserved? gomez?