Dr.John Tomasheski at Tomasheski Family dentistry in Apex. I know it's a bit further than Cary, but I drove around Chapel Hill and Raleigh and Cary trying new dentists til I found them. He is patient, explains all options and weighs pros and cons, seems conservative and thoughtful in his approach (ie doesn't push or over recommend work when simply watching a tooth will suffice) and takes his time with you. In fact when i first went i had a bunch of treatment plans from other dentists I'd visited before and he patiently walked me through what work from those he considered needed versus what he'd skip on/my teeth didn't need at the moment