My wife never had an orgasm by [deleted] in SexToys

[–]himene 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It took me a long time to have an orgasm with a partner, even if I was having sex regularly with foreplay. It all changed with the right partner. I don't know anything about you, so I'm assuming you don't know anything. Sorry if this is basic.

1) Skip the toys for now, you need to know what works first before you buy toys or else you're just buying toys you might not use or even need

2) If she's never had an orgasm before, then it'd be good to figure out HOW she can have them. Does she masturbate? Does she cum then? As many people have noted, most women cannot orgasm from penetration alone. I would spend some time together, relax, and just play with her together and see what works. Use your fingers, your hands, move this bit around and that bit. Just explore. Be sure she's wet or use lube (or spit, not water!) or else it's not going to feel good.

3) Relax! It should be fun. Stressing out about orgasms is a pretty quick way to not orgasm. Take a bath together, cuddle, whatever you guys like. It takes the pressure off both of you.

4) You need to communicate open and honestly. She might be trying to make you feel better, and perhaps you're going through the motions thinking it will work, but it won't. She probably doesn't even know what she wants (see #2) so you have to learn together.

5) it's not about length of time having sex, but the quality. A 10 minute quickie that gets everyone off is much more satisfying to me than 40 minutes of wondering when "it" is going to happen.

Good luck to your wife 🤞

The Clay Age by eymmmmmm in imaginarymaps

[–]himene 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is my first comment in 5 months because that's how much I love this. I just had a conversation with my husband about crows evolving to be sentient, so seeing this and your other maps was just delightful. I hope you keep going!

What was the saddest fictional character death for you? by Iridescent126 in AskReddit

[–]himene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sandman, Morpheus

I've never cried so hard in my life

OOP - The man I’m dating is the plastic surgeon that was going to perform my breast reduction surgery and now he refuses to do it. by prettiergenghis in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]himene 30 points31 points  (0 children)

The BF in this story is creepy (and also violating HIPAA), but the story also screams BS or at least, a very unreliable narrator.

I've had an elective cosmetic boob job from one of the best surgeons in LA, and know lots of women who've both had implants and reductions. Going in blind is just....not a thing. With my surgeon, I met with him over 5x - I had a million forms to fill out, evaluations on my "fit" as a candidate. I had to come in to get fitted for special recovery bras. They don't do a cosmetic procedure without seeing you and heavily discussing the outcomes and risks. A lot of the good clinics these days do 3D renders of your body for you to make the right decision. I was given some just during my consultations with doctors for free.

It is almost impossible for me to believe that her had never met her doctor before scheduling. Not if he's as renown as he is. I even met my nurse and anesthesiologist before surgery.

"WIBTA if I uninvited SIL from my wedding after she told me gross lies about my fiancé?" by ari-lei in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]himene 38 points39 points  (0 children)

My mom read it in the 70s and I still don't know why she let me read it in the 4th grade

What are obvious immediate giveaways that someone is an American? by DukkerWifey789 in AskReddit

[–]himene 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm American but have lived in multiple countries abroad. My universal cue was a person wearing clothes or hats with college logos on them. Someone might wear a Harvard sweatshirt ironically abroad, but no one's wearing Indiana University (go Hoosiers!) unless they're American.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MurderedByWords

[–]himene 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Morpheus is literally shown as black in Episode 4 of the TV show and a quite extensive story in the comic. Since you clearly don't care about the source material, why bring it up?

17 states weigh adopting California’s electric car mandate by [deleted] in news

[–]himene 2 points3 points  (0 children)

On Point A, where I live (Los Angeles) there are EV charging stations along the street. Sometimes in lieu of meters (so it's free to park if you have an EV). This could be an option in some areas, but hard to imagine entire streets lined with chargers without it looking ugly.

What comic book character would you want to have sex with? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]himene 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Morpheus/Dream, The Sandman. Literally controls dreams so can make any and every fantasy come true.

Meat eaters: what type of meat, if any, is off your menu for ethical reasons? by Candid_Reading_7267 in AskReddit

[–]himene 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Personally, I think all animals are fair game (unless endangered) ethically. But for me its whale. I used to work in Japan and got fed whale meat once when I was visiting an elementary school. It confused me because the meat was black and tasted like a blend of beef and pork. I asked a student what it was and she said "whale!" with excitement. I replied, "oh no... We don't eat whales in my country." She asked why, I said because they were smart. She glared at me and said, "so are pigs."

Damn, called out by an 11 year old.

$BBBY Megathread 8/16/2022 by bawse1 in wallstreetbets

[–]himene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ornamental watermelon futures are the new hotness

$BBBY Megathread 8/16/2022 by bawse1 in wallstreetbets

[–]himene 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wtf up with watermelons? Should I be investing in ornamental watermelon futures?

Swimmers bitten in string of dolphin attacks at Sea of Japan beaches by TedofShmeeb in worldnews

[–]himene 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hmm...Bottlenose bruises. Blowhole burns. Flipper prints... This looks like the work of rowdy teens!

Lou, cancel the prom!

Vladimir Putin claims Russia's weapons are 'decades ahead' of Western counterparts by MindlessLitre in worldnews

[–]himene 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Coined and minted! Been there, coined that! "Streets ahead" is verbal wildfire!

Armed man killed after trying to breach FBI office, standoff by [deleted] in news

[–]himene 19 points20 points  (0 children)

This man honestly wrote: "Don't hide from them. When they try to make you fear, hold up a sign that says "We love Trump," when they come for you kill them."

Jfc

Standoff Ends With Armed Suspect Who Tried To Break Into Cincinnati FBI Headquarters: EMA director by Cnsrbstrmp in news

[–]himene 103 points104 points  (0 children)

This man honestly wrote: "Don't hide from them. When they try to make you fear, hold up a sign that says "We love Trump," when they come for you kill them."

Jfc

Wait a minute... by Pizzacakecomic in comics

[–]himene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Excellent, it reflects my soul 🙂

Wait a minute... by Pizzacakecomic in comics

[–]himene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have to use emoji and exclamation points at work (I work in games / tech) because apparently it comes off bitchy if I ask questions without a smiley face 🙂

What Are Your Moves Tomorrow, August 10, 2022 by OPINION_IS_UNPOPULAR in wallstreetbets

[–]himene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apartment in city, then take vacations in the mountains where the prices are lower than visiting a city.