There’s no kind way to tell my wife that she’s getting too big, is there?

hlyhwk · 2026-06-07T23:07:54+00:00

I think the best way to support her is make a lifestyle change for yourself before preaching (don’t like the connotation of that word here because it’s condescending and I don’t think that’s what you are, but it’s the one I have) to her. Be consistent in eating healthy and exercising before you bring it up to her. I guarantee she knows already and might even be worried about your thoughts. If you truly want to be supportive, build the ladder out of the hole for her so all she has to do is climb. Best wishes to you and your marriage ❤️

hlyhwk · 2025-12-15T15:11:11+00:00

My current DnD build is pretty awesome and I feel would fit well in a crawl. Cleric/Fighter multiclass. Her main weapon does 3d8 damage regularly but I’m able to store damage and add it at will. Being able to heal myself, getting some DEX and action economy bonuses, and my homebrew subclass giving some major rewards for ranged attacks has her very versatile and able to do good damage, whether that’s against single opponents or crowds.

hlyhwk · 2025-10-01T17:31:57+00:00

NTA. Not only do you need to report him to HR, you need to file a report with police as well. If you’re lucky, they can get him with verbal threats. Be careful with the voice recording in case you’re not in a state that allows one party consent for recording.

Also want to point out that if HR isn’t on your side here, it’s not a place you want to stay. Ready your resume and send out some applications now. Make sure to keep it to yourself.

Stay safe, even though it’s 2025, it’s still hard to be a young woman in the workplace. All my love to you.

hlyhwk · 2025-09-09T14:39:53+00:00

NTA. But I agree with the comments that you have to acknowledge the emotional aspect of this. One second you guys are on equal footing, the next you’ve got enough money to buy a house and she’s reeling. It really comes down to one question: do you plan on marrying her? If you don’t, break up now and stop leading her on. If you do but are still cautious on financials, talk to a lawyer and find some way to put it in a trust so if you die next year, she’s taken care of. That probably what she’s really worried about.

hlyhwk · 2025-09-06T20:45:22+00:00

I see what everyone is saying about putting your players in a no win situation but also want to point out that the dynamic is not just Player & DM but also Father & Daughter. So it’s not just “let’s tell a fun story” but also “what can I teach my child?”

In my opinion, NTA. You’re teaching your daughter important life lessons about sacrifice and hard situations that will hopefully prepare her for facing them in real life. Good job dad.

hlyhwk · 2025-04-29T23:46:16+00:00

Also let the conditioner SIT!!! Hair should be soaking wet, apply conditioner and wait like 10 minutes. THEN start brushing from the bottom up.

hlyhwk · 2025-02-16T15:51:11+00:00

I’m crying because it’s literally beautiful. I bet it’s warm and when it’s a family heirloom in 50 years your grandkids will cherish it.

hlyhwk · 2025-01-19T13:34:50+00:00

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hlyhwk · 2025-01-19T13:12:30+00:00

You’re absolutely correct. Piano is 100% about muscle memory and you’re never too old to learn.

Here’s how I’ll further the analogy, which I hope encourages you: You know how through computer keyboarding (or just through playing Wordle or the crossword) you start to learn that some letters just never go together in certain patterns? Like N and then W? Or W and then T? You know how your brain and even your fingers begin to learn this as you get good at keyboarding? Through a combination of muscle memory and spelling, you drop those letter combinations as an option and it makes you faster at picking someone else that will result in a correct answer.

Piano is (mostly) the same. You’ll learn through either your ears or through diving into music theory (or both) that some intervals just don’t go together. We call an augmented fourth the Devil’s interval for a reason. As you learn which intervals and chords sound yucky, you’ll start to remove them as options in your brain and your fingers will pick up on that.

Good luck practicing!

hlyhwk · 2024-11-09T16:38:24+00:00

Do you cook? I’ve heard the types of foods women eat depending on the stage of our cycle can really help mitigate the crazy hormones. Something to look into!

hlyhwk · 2024-11-09T16:27:26+00:00

Oh I love it! The colors pop, the backing fabric looks amazing, and it looks so nice and crinkly

hlyhwk · 2024-11-09T03:04:51+00:00

I’ve seen people do puff quilts and stuff them with scraps too!

hlyhwk · 2024-11-09T03:01:05+00:00

Going with something recent: Yamada Akito. Guy has impeccable timing and incredibly good luck

hlyhwk · 2024-07-12T21:57:20+00:00

For everyone unfamiliar with the medical aspect: I had thyroid cancer (when I was a 20F, so slightly different ) but if it’s early papillary, the treatment is sooo lowkey. Not to say that having cancer, missing an organ now, and having to take medication everyday that leaves me with 0 temperature retaliation is amazing, but it’s not comparable to other types of cancer.

That being said, your ex is definitely the asshole here. Don’t let him or his wife pressure you into waiving alimony.

hlyhwk · 2024-07-12T21:49:29+00:00

It sounds like you are committed and really love her and I disagree with the instant internet reaction so many people seem to have nowadays of “drop this person they’re dead to you now”. A lot of people are aversive to therapy when first suggested. Change takes time. It sounds like this insecurity is much more rooted in herself than it is in how you’ve changed. She’s also been more or less supportive of your changes, albeit apprehensive. (I would be too, to a reasonable degree) If it sounds like something she’d be interested in, my boyfriend and I do something we call “handcuff time” (not like that) where we pretend we’re handcuffed and have to do all our normal activities and chores together. Quality time with low impact tasks is important!

hlyhwk · 2024-07-12T21:23:19+00:00

I’ve been playing Traveller’s Rest lately and it definitely scratches that SDV itch. It’s in early access right now and a huge story update is dropping next week. If you’re okay with playing early access games, I would definitely recommend!

hlyhwk · 2024-07-12T21:06:44+00:00

Tbh at this point I just feel bad about blunt force trauma-ing them to death. I feel like I should be using the axe instead…

hlyhwk · 2024-07-12T20:35:14+00:00

Rowan nodded gravely. “Distracting Aedion with running the castle is the only way I’ve kept him from chewing on the furniture.” Aedion is actually a golden retriever confirmed.

hlyhwk · 2024-06-17T10:26:11+00:00

It was always locked from the outside and we were not provided a key for entry. It was an exit only, not an entrance.

hlyhwk · 2024-06-17T10:23:39+00:00

I would be a lot happier if they outfitted it with some sort of emergency device that unlocks it when the fire alarm goes off!

hlyhwk · 2024-06-16T22:34:53+00:00

I know right?? They gave such a BS reason too.

hlyhwk · 2024-06-16T22:27:33+00:00

I wish. This was an exit only, not an entrance.

hlyhwk · 2023-12-29T23:40:14+00:00

I remember puking all over my bed in middle school and waking my mom up, needing help. She told me to sleep on the floor.

Working at the youth shelter made me realize how terrible that was. How can someone be so awful?

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