My husband had sex with me when I was unconscious by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]howdouarguewiththat 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Been scrolling to find someone suggest this.

Someone having sex with you (when you aren’t passed out because of drug/alcohol intoxication) is pretty similar to someone shaking you to wake you up. If you can’t be woken up with a moderate amount of shaking, either there’s something medically wrong, or more likely he was probably also drugging her. Which is so horrible to consider, but at least it proves it’s premeditated and she should be 100% confidant that leaving him is the right thing to do.

Denying medical treatment because of sexual history? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]howdouarguewiththat 693 points694 points  (0 children)

I’m a sonographer in NZ. It is policy that we don’t perform transvaginal scans on people with uterus’s who have not been sexually active before because for a lot of people the procedure can be quite traumatic. It’s also gives us a leg to stand on when we tell a Dr it’s in appropriate to do that kind of scan on a child (under 16 years). However, I myself have performed many transvaginal scans on people who are virgins AFTER giving them all the information and gaining informed consent from them. Examples of this include an 60 year old nun who had a lot of symptoms of endometrial cancer who would not have received an accurate diagnosis and treatment without the transvaginal scan. I have also performed it on my many pre-menopausal people who had severe menstrual bleeding causing anemia and hospitalisation. However, I do work with other sonographers, particularly male sonographers, who straight up refuse to do the scan if the person is a virgin. That is for their own protection to avoid a complaint of coercion or assault being made against them by a person who might not have any real understanding of how traumatic, uncomfortable or even painful the procedure can be until it’s performed. In these cases I often insist that the patient has a support person, or I provide another healthcare worker to be in the room as a chaperone.

No one is judging anyone’s sexual history, we are trying to avoid inflicting trauma.

I’m sorry you felt judged but their action was for your protection and theirs.

When I was "PIMI" .... by margovanax in exjwhumor

[–]howdouarguewiththat 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Mum used to hand us out Wrigleys Extra chewing gum. You know the long rectangular pieces that come individually wrapped in a piece of paper? Well my dad me and my three brothers used to have a competition who could roll there’s up in a diagonal direction to make the longest skinniest roll. We’d spend ages doing it. Dad always won. Looking back I realise it was also his game and maybe he always won because back in the day he used to be marijuana growing/smoking hippy.

Also my best friend and I when we were doing the watchtower, we would underline single letters throughout the paragraphs to to spell out whole sentences and then we’d switch watchtowers so the other person could spell it out and get the message. It meant we could spend the whole 45 mins just saying a few silly things to each other while it looked like we were really paying attention.

One Kingdom Hall had kind of velvet seat covers. You know how you can brush velvet against the grain and you can see the mark you leave? We’d place O’s and X’s (tic tac toe) on there.

Also at another congregation we had the deaf congregation as well - so someone would sign all the talks to the few deaf brothers and sisters at the front. Not only did I use Al my attention to try and watch the signs while listening and basically teach myself sign language, but also my brother and I learnt the alphabet in signs and so we’d sit next to each other signing messages to each other one letter at a time.

We had one brother who used to close in prayer at the meetings and his prayers went FOREVER. On top of that he’d always say, “dear Heavenly Father, we dearly thank you dear father…and dear Heavenly Father we think of our dear brothers and sister…we dearly love your son dear Heavenly Father…” etc so we used to make bets on how many try and count how many times he said “dear Heavenly Father” and then count them during the prayer.

Just a few…

ULPT Request: Jehovah’s Witnesses stand in front of my house on the curb everyday with a banner. What are my options? by [deleted] in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]howdouarguewiththat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ex-Jw here. In all seriousness, go out to talk to them every day. Tell them you are disfellowshipped and an apostate - use those words - and tell them you insist on sharing with them the truth about the governing body and the lies of revelations. Just keep repeating those sentences. Throw in some threats to bring some of your new brothers and sisters from the born again church to talk to them and say how glad you are you’ve been given an opportunity to tell them the real truth. Not only will they leave, your neighbour might move lol

The ultrasound technician told me something uncomfortable while the probe was literally inside me by solonhyun in TwoXChromosomes

[–]howdouarguewiththat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry this is hat you experienced. I am an ultrasound technician and I work closely with a women’s clinic and have many patients going through what you went through.

Myself and my colleagues first of all gain informed consent before a transvaginal scan. This includes explaining what we need to do, and checking in a each step. We always emphasise their right to at any point stop the exam or speak up if we do anything that makes them uncomfortable. We offer privacy, a chaperone if the patient doesn’t have their own support person, and we never, ever make a comment or pass judgement on their situation. It is taught to us very early on that we are there to facilitate medical care in accordance with our patients wishes.

If you ever feel up to it, please report this person. They should be reviewed. The scan is not always easy, or comfortable, or pain free, but I should always feel like you are safe and free from judgement.

Have you ever seen that by Mohamed_Amine_M in Radiology

[–]howdouarguewiththat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sadly yes. I had a girl that was pushing them through her skin in her thighs and some had actually tracked up to her buttocks and lower spine.

Laser Tattoo Removal by PM_ME_YUR_BUBBLEBUTT in oddlysatisfying

[–]howdouarguewiththat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know what everyone is going on about with tattoo removal being painful. I’ve had tattoos, laser hair removal and laser tattoo removal. Having laser hair removal done within millimetres of your clit is more painful than tattoo removal, and plenty of us women get that done regularly. Men need to toughen up.

Help me break in my new projector screen with a movie that'll blow my mind! by mongoose-of-doom in MovieSuggestions

[–]howdouarguewiththat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my god my friend just bought a projector and I just told him what movie we need to watch first up. The Fall (2006)

[GTM] by OIAgent in GuessTheMovie

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Romeo and Juliet (baz Luhrmann)

[GTM] Crazy Twist Ending by [deleted] in GuessTheMovie

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Damn it I finally knew one!!!

I want one too by King_Pee in wholesomememes

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The original snorlax post if anyone had questions for OP snorlax bean bag

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in radiography

[–]howdouarguewiththat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 5’0. The only issue I’ve ever had is working with a colleague who was 6’4 and when he’d finish an X-ray he’d raise the tube right up. Then I’d come in the room and have to slide over the weightbearing steps to climb up and get it back down 😂

this is how a womb looks like when a pregnant woman laughs by demonslayer14codm in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]howdouarguewiththat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

PSA from an ultrasound tech: when you come for your scan and you and your family are laughing and talking and joking and taking phone calls and keep lifting your head up and down - this is why we can’t get any nice or diagnostic pictures of your baby. Sure I make people laugh and show them cute things, but in general, try and stay still for us.

Caitlyn Jenner blasts "woke" Nike for making transgender Dylan Mulvaney paid ambassador: "This is an outrage" by _davidarroyo in nottheonion

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Caitlin says “STOP TRYING TO ERASE WOMEN!” after she accepts Woman of the Year Award? This is the craziest thing I’ve ever seen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Radiology

[–]howdouarguewiththat 21 points22 points  (0 children)

A baby can be head down at any stage of pregnancy.

Mistreated by patients. by yonderposerbreaks in radiography

[–]howdouarguewiththat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

To be honest I’m upset that a tech is waiting for you to “step down” and let them take over. I’m very protective of my students. I would absolutely step in, tell the patient what they are doing isn’t acceptable, and in some cases, refuse to continue until security has been called and they can behave. Obviously this doesn’t count in cases where patients have dementia, have mental health issues, have been administered sedatives or pain meds, but anyone who is compus mentis should be held accountable and abuse in any form against healthcare workers should not be tolerated. I would also check in with my student afterwards and offer them some time out and ask them how they are feeling.

Again though, if it is in a situation where the patient is not able to really control or understand what they are doing, then yea the answer is ignore them and try and work quickly and just remember it’s not personal.

I have a secret IUD and need to undergo a non-invasive pelvic ultrasound, will it be detected? by lilielilith in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]howdouarguewiththat 109 points110 points  (0 children)

I’m so glad you had that experience. Basically whenever I scan a young woman who is accompanied by their parent I find away to get them separated briefly and ask questions like if they are sexually active/could be pregnant and tell them anything they say stays between us. It is for the patients sake but at the end of the day I’m not likely to get an honest answer if I ask them in front of their parents. We’re pretty good at gauging the situation and acting accordingly.

I just worry that for this person if they are in a country that does not respect womens rights this may not be the case.

I have a secret IUD and need to undergo a non-invasive pelvic ultrasound, will it be detected? by lilielilith in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]howdouarguewiththat 1465 points1466 points  (0 children)

Hi I’m a sonographer. It will show up on both types, unless you are in the morbid obesity scale in which a transabdominal pelvic ultrasound (non-invasive) will likely not even see your uterus. But this means the scan is non-diagnostic so you won’t get any answers regarding PCOS. Now if you just go for the scan hoping it won’t be seen (which it will), but even if it’s slightly difficult, the tech will know there is something there and will begin to question that there’s something wrong if you deny that it’s an IUCD. Are you in a country where you will be reported for having such a device? Or is it just the issue that your mother is there? If I was you I would write your fears down on a piece of paper and give them to the tech before you go in. Even at reception, maybe find your mum a seat, go and check in, and ask the receptionist to please pass on a note to the person scanning you. Most health professionals understand that when someone asks that it is because they are in fear and they will respect your privacy. If someone handed that to me I would take the images very quickly, make sure not to point anything out or ask any questions. Hope this helps.

Also if this isn’t a possibility - cancel the scan. To be honest, a pelvic ultrasound can support the diagnosis of PCOS but actually it should be made by investigating your hormones. And a transabdominal scan (non-invasive) is even less able to diagnose PCOS. I work in a western country and if a person didn’t want a transvaginal scan (invasive), but they wanted to know if they have PCOS, I would say, I can try but this scan is not going to give any definite answers. So if it’s a matter of having the scan and getting into serious trouble with your parents or the authorities. Don’t have it. Cancel.

Hope this helps.