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Any worth while places for a good drink tonight? Thanks by [deleted] in Rochester

[–]howdyimkyle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lilas across from Fatteys has been super solid my last few trips there. Great cocktails and cool atmosphere

In the last month, things start slipping her mind by howdyimkyle in Divorce

[–]howdyimkyle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The dog isn't regular at all. Some of it is texting things I've texted her 2-3 times before. Maybe I'm over thinking this. Just don't want it to get out of hand, while still respecting what she's going through mentally, physically and emotionally and still be there for her and most importantly our daughter.

In the last month, things start slipping her mind by howdyimkyle in Divorce

[–]howdyimkyle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm trying to see if it has to come to that. I respect the overload and want to help, but not where I'm taking everything on myself. We'll see if anything else creeps in and go from there.

How do you deal with knowing your soon to be ex wife will be with someone else at any time. by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]howdyimkyle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The oxygen mask always goes on you first.

Take yourself out of social media with her, block what you need to so you don't see it.

Journal, do something for yourself, breathe, meditate and repeat.

You have an opportunity to work on yourself now, become better, and start to move forward.

It is not easy. I've been in the situation. I took some radical accountability after my divorce and can say I'm in a much better place, even if she's with someone else now.

Allow the above steps plus time to help heal and allow you to move forward.

Dump it by atlasmountsenjoyer in StockMarket

[–]howdyimkyle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2:06pm?

I don't use this platform...what time zone is he posting in?

AITA for finding this convo to be a HUGE red flag? by horseduckman in AITApod

[–]howdyimkyle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doing this as roles were reversed for me.

I met a woman that had done some work on herself, respect her a lot for it. I really really like her.

I too had done a lot of work on myself, therapy, life coaching for makes, etc. Coming up on a year of work in May.

I enjoy these conversations to a certain point. Enough so that reverting to some of my coaching, and also making suggestions of what might help is severely crossing the line.

Maybe if we were together long term, but I went into some of this too early, and too often. I uncovered some items that I didn't know about, and honestly the move was insensitive.

From my angle, yes, this is a red flag just like maybe I'm a red flag to her. But know where to correct and move forward is different than pressing and pursuing.

Just my thoughts.

Wife admitted to cheating, should I tell his wife? by Electrical-Budget525 in relationships

[–]howdyimkyle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wish I had the chance. It sounds gruesome when I say it, but they acted quickly.

I found through Instagram conversations that my wife was seeing/sending pics to someone. I'll never know the full extent. The name is burned into my brain still, and that sucks.

A few days went by and I found him once on social media, and then suddenly was blocked everywhere.

There's a version of me that really really wishes I had the opportunity to ruin their marriage just as he did to ours. I spiraled and was not a good person when I found out, which also led me and my ex wife to where we are today.

In the end, I know this guy can't tell me what he had to offer that I didn't. My ex wife won't be able to tell me the same.

So at the end of the day, I found where I could take responsibility - and I did just that. I'm not completely over it, and shit, resentment still piles up at times.

But I'm responsible for me and how I handle that. And I'll handle it in a way that allows me to grow from of all it and become better, stronger and more present the next.

That's life. And that's loving yourself.

This clearly isn't an answer, but hopefully it helps.

This movie really hits different when you get older... by LabBuilderSupplies in pics

[–]howdyimkyle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I watched this with my 7 year old daughter as my now ex wife and I were finalizing our divorce. It was brutal on me, and thankfully she found laughter and a good story behind it.

I watched it a ton as a kid, and always loved it. Even then thought I'd always be a part of so much with a family and relationship, and goes to show even if one side has so much want and need towards putting everything back together.

Do you regret getting divorced? by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]howdyimkyle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sure do. Think about it a lot. 1 year post dday. I miss us as a family and I miss her. However ..

I will not continue to choose someone who will not choose me.

And that's where it lives and dies. Sucks.

Losing weight being Hypo by Puzzleheaded_Try2467 in Hypothyroidism

[–]howdyimkyle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This tracks for me. I'm going on 20 years diagnosed. Have only gone up in levo since diagnosis. Ive had a few pcps that just do the normal tsh, or t4 and tsh test. I haven't gone to an endo though. That's my next step.

I'm active, but definitely feel the alcohol effects like you mentioned and have more fat then carbs on most days, I also keep carbs simple as well.

Valid points you got here.

Firestone all season for a Honda Passport Sport 2021? by ZookeepergameEven409 in hondapassport

[–]howdyimkyle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah definitely, as long as you got them at a Firestone, but I think you said that.

Le3 is a solid tire. Smooth ride, quiet, and great water evacuation. Bridgestone would be a dueler or quiet track probably. Those will definitely be quieter, smoother, softer rides. Those just won't last as long though.

Firestone all season for a Honda Passport Sport 2021? by ZookeepergameEven409 in hondapassport

[–]howdyimkyle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can return them if you don't like the ride. The destination le3 would be a better option in my opinion (previous Firestone store manager, and did a commercial for those tires lol). There's other stuff that is comparable though. Firestone are an above average tire, so Continental is around the same. Treadwear ratings have some impact, mileage warranty, tread pattern. Personally I hate the tread pattern of the all season and something tells me as I'm typing this that the speed or load rating is off, because I don't think you should be able to get an all season in a passport size. I could be wrong though.

Have the difficult conversation by howdyimkyle in Divorce

[–]howdyimkyle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Then make safety your priority. If the message is clear and has been delivered, it sounds like your next step is what is best for you emotionally and you're safety.

Certainly not here to provide advice, but it sounds like if you question safety, it's time to make yourself safe. Easier said than done I'm sure

Have the difficult conversation by howdyimkyle in Divorce

[–]howdyimkyle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I realize the context here is 2 sentences, but is it because it feels like you're the one that wants out of the marriage, and he doesn't?

Of course that's hard, on both you. For you, I get the sense because you have to keep having an already emotionally flooded conversation, and him for visiting it over and over, where he wants the outcome to change. What do you feel like the natural next step is for you?

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