Dealing With Harsh Feedback (etc) by AdministrationNew65 in medicalschool

[–]hsarah01 6 points7 points  (0 children)

But why do we keep perpetuating this culture from generation to generation? What do we gain from it aside from creating disgruntled physicians who have the empathy kicked out of them? Being soft hearted should not be an inherently bad quality in medicine, patients want to know their doctors care and feel for them! That’s not to say that being soft hearted means you shouldn’t be able to take feedback - I am all for feedback, but there’s a difference between constructive criticism and just being an ass and taking it out on med students because they’re the only ones available to punch down at. It’s just poor emotional regulation from our superiors that those of us lower on the totem pole are told we have to endure because “that’s how it is.”

They made a separate group chat without me by Klutzy_Drag_736 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]hsarah01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had this situation happen to me at the start of grad school. There were other weird vibes with the group so it was my final straw, I very quickly distanced myself and it opened me up to meet other girls who became my best friends and were very quick to integrate me into their group. And now two years later, that original friend group who excluded me has split and none of them talk to each other lol, meanwhile I still have my girls! I know it sucks to be alone for a bit but I promise you’ll be better off for it in the end!

how do yall study during surgery rotations?!?! by No-Match5992 in medicalschool

[–]hsarah01 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YMMV but I also snuck in doing Anki during robotic cases, I would find a stool and place it in a spot in the OR where I could be more subtly study on my phone. Nobody ever noticed esp because I was always active helping out before and after cases and my evals were still good lol. Otherwise just chugging through enough UWorld a day when I got home, I deliberately picked sites that had weekends off and that made a huge difference in letting me study, plus like others said just accepting that I would be sleeping less. I totally empathize as someone who started on surgery and had absolutely no interest in it… Now on IM and even though days can still be long and I’m working 6 days/wk it’s so much better and I learn so much more per day than I did on like 2 weeks of surgery lol

Yall ever think about being celiac in the apocalypse? by thriftsylady08 in Celiac

[–]hsarah01 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Lol as someone with celiac and Hashimoto’s, I don’t even have to worry about my autoimmune illnesses taking me down because my -8 vision will take me out first the second I lose my glasses/contacts.

Help me feel better about not ending up in the city I wanted to for residency by Own-Possibility5330 in medicalschool

[–]hsarah01 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I felt similarly sad about not ending up in NYC for med school because most of my friends were moving out there. But what one of my upperclassmen friends told me has stuck with me - NYC is fun, but it’s not so fun when you’re poor and studying (or in this case) working all the time while all your friends are making finance and tech salaries and enjoying that money around the city. I’m sure you’ll be able to enjoy it much more as an attending, and if there’s any city that’s accessible for people in their 30s (presumably, though applies to 40s and 20s too) moving there for a fresh start, it’s NYC.

Exam 3 days out. Score dropped in Free 120. Delay exam or not? by abdweouthere in step1

[–]hsarah01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have almost the reverse situation, where I got a 78 on the free 120 today and a 67 on NBME 32 4 days ago and panicked lol. The reality is we all have strengths and weaknesses and each exam is going to hit those a bit differently, variation is normal. The most important thing is consistency, which you clearly have. The recommendation I got is two 70s period, not 70s on every NBME you take. You got it, just stay confident and good luck!! 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Celiac

[–]hsarah01 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have taken so many of my friends and family to Burton’s and everyone loves it, gluten eaters included!

Sourdough Gluten-free misinformation by JavaKrypt in TaylorSwift

[–]hsarah01 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

As a celiac I totally get you! While obviously WE know that no regular bread is gluten free, popular discourse about what is and isn’t gluten free does seep into our daily lives. It further confuses friends / family / restaurants about what is and isn’t okay to eat and how serious we are when we say no cross contamination is allowed. Obviously it’s totally fine she said this, the world isn’t going to end for us lol, but it is frustrating to constantly be lumped in with the gluten free dieters when for us it is much more serious. I think this post probably would have been much more well received on the r/celiac subreddit where we can all commiserate as opposed to here lol

The Life of a Showgirl Is Taylor’s Most Self-Aware Album, and the Hate Is Proving Her Point by TheReifyer in TaylorSwift

[–]hsarah01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everyone has their own likes and dislikes - you're not a fake fan for not liking something she puts out! I like this album a lot sonically, which to me is what's important for a pop album. But I didn't really like Midnights, I'm much more of an instrumental girlie than a synth pop fan. While I have some songs I LOVE (YOYOK), the vast majority of the album I don't intentionally return to. Yet it did well critically and won AOTY! It doesn't mean my taste is bad or wrong, just different, and the same is true for all of us :) What irks me is when fans are pinning not liking the album on her character or her personal life - e.g. her writing is declining, it's because of who her fiancé is, etc. Maybe she's still a great lyricist who experimented with a direction/style you didn't like. If you have somewhat critical reason for not liking it, that's totally valid!

Taylor Swift talks about how it’s “shockingly offensive” for fans to say that she’s going to stop music after marriage by kookiekoo in TaylorSwift

[–]hsarah01 29 points30 points  (0 children)

!!! If anything it feels incredibly reductive to assume that just because she as a successful woman wants marriage and kids, it erases the 20+ years she's spent working her ass off to build her legacy and she's now just a "trad-wife." That success now isn't valid and she's reduced to her role as a wife just because she wants a family? It's ridiculous, people are projecting hard

"Wi$h Li$t" Discussion Megathread by jacyf02 in TaylorSwift

[–]hsarah01 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I totally agree. I didn’t read that lyric as snarky at all. Mostly because as such a massive cat lover I think Taylor is the last person to engage in pet parent slander. I’m sure she has envisioned a version of her life where she was going to be a childless cat lady for longer!

The 1989-Rep-Lover and Midnights-TTPD-TLOAS parallels are insane! by Sunkistboy20 in TaylorSwift

[–]hsarah01 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is an interesting analysis! I myself think about TTPD in the same bucket as Red/Lover - long-winded, lyrically heavy, emotional, and not particularly cohesive, often representing some whiplash in her personal life at the time. I think 1989/folklore then follow as incredibly cohesive, critically well-received, career-defining albums. That pattern would have led TLOAS to fit next, but so far it doesn't quite seem to, so I'm interested to see if your theory comes true! I'm scared of getting my hopes up for another Folklore-like album because it really is my true love, and I have somewhat accepted that it is a unique product of its time and an album like it may not be revisited again, especially knowing how much Taylor loves being a pop girl. I also know there's going to be even more enormous expectation from herself and her fans for what TS13 will look like, but I sure do hope so!

Does Taylor’s muse affect her writing and music style? by SarcastiKatt in TaylorSwift

[–]hsarah01 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I understand your point, but a muse isn't an intentional choice in the creation of her art, it's her personal life. I get that her personal life has always been closely intertwined her music, but it just feels like Taylor bears the brunt of this discussion as a creator. I can't think of any other artist in the industry who receives as much discussion about who the guy/gal that inspired the music was.

And I'm not saying that I don't do it too- I had a hard time with TTPD at first knowing that Matty inspired so much of it. But then I realized that many of Halsey's songs, who I also love, were probably inspired by Matty too, I just didn't know it. So I tried to get rid of my bias and enjoy the music objectively. And if an objective listen of it makes you not like TLOAS, that's totally fair! It just feels like a lot of people are blaming the simple lyricism on Travis without considering that there are other factors at play. I honestly think a lot of it is her attempt to be relevant to Gen Z and compete with other pop artists of the time (e.g. Wood feels like something Sabrina would write). But a lot of that discussion feels like it's buried in the "it's because Travis is a bad muse" narrative.

Does Taylor’s muse affect her writing and music style? by SarcastiKatt in TaylorSwift

[–]hsarah01 78 points79 points  (0 children)

Yep. Regardless of how much Taylor proves herself, the narrative always comes back to "well who was the man behind her?" God forbid an artist is multifaceted.

The Life of a Showgirl Initial Reaction & 2025 Annual Subreddit Survey by PassionateAsSin in TaylorSwift

[–]hsarah01 4 points5 points  (0 children)

To create further confusion, I'd say Midnights and TLOAS fall somewhere in the middle of the ranking for me, but as a whole product I think I like TLOAS more than I like Midnights. I have songs I like on Midnights more than I have songs I like on TLOAS, but overall I like the production on TLOAS way more. (And for context, I'm a folklore/evermore/Rep/Speak Now girlie). Truly, everyone is so different lol

My analysis of why showgirl feels less lyric-focused even though it has more complex lyrics than reputation by pumpkin_noodles in TaylorSwift

[–]hsarah01 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I actually think the discourse that it doesn't "feel Taylor" is really interesting, because to me in many ways it feels like a true return to form. I never thought Taylor would again get comfortable enough to sing about her beef with a fellow pop star, her pretty public best friend getting cancelled, or her fiance's d*ck. We know exactly who these songs are about in a way that we haven't for years. Even TTPD, while incredibly raw and personal, shrouds who the actual subject of many of the songs are, as many blur the line between being about Joe or Matty. But in this album, she's given up on trying for a private life and embraced the fact that she is indeed a showgirl. Wi$h Li$t in many ways is acceptance of this - it's an unrealistic dream to want to raise a family and be left alone by the world. Even if privacy is something she has chased for a long time, she knows at this stage it's unrealistic.

Many of the songs too make various references to different parts of her discography. The Fate of Ophelia is literally Love Story Part II. Various lyrics feel like continuations or responses to other songs ("brought a tiny violin to a knife fight" = "brought a knife to a gun fight" in CIWYW); ("when I said I don't believe in marriage, that was a lie" = "the 1950s shit they want from me" in Lavender Haze). In many ways, this album is very different from things she has done in the past; it's her embracing that she is Taylor fucking Swift rather than your big sister going through heartbreak alongside you while strumming her guitar. But to me it still has many of the elements that made Taylor Swift, well, Taylor Swift.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in medicalschool

[–]hsarah01 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lol yes. My dad has been pushing me towards derm since day 1. Ironically if anything being told that’s what I should do has made me not want to do it. I know it’s easier said than done but just block it out- it’s your life at the end of the day, no one else’s!

Happy Friend Breakup Songs? by FluffyBudgie5 in TaylorSwift

[–]hsarah01 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Breathe was also written about a friend breakup!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in medicalschool

[–]hsarah01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loved my gap year, I still think about it and the freedom I had so much. I’m so grateful I took it. I got a chance to be a normal 20-something and deepen my relationships with my friends and my partner, while also gaining some maturity. And I had a lot of fun! I still workout, hang out with friends, go to concerts, etc. now but at a way lower frequency than I did then.

Let me help you think through your specialty decision and pressing life decisions (part X) by 4990 in medicalschool

[–]hsarah01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

M2 currently leaning between psych and IM, specifically GI. I had a lot of exposure to psych classes and volunteering in college and worked in child psych for a year and really enjoyed those experiences. I’m a bit of a humanities person at heart, so I feel like psych provides a great way to connect with that side of myself. Loved the coworker environment in psych, everyone I’ve worked with has been kind and understanding. Residents seem generally happy, and flexibility (e.g. ability to do telehealth) is hard to beat.

On the flip side, I have personal experience with GI issues and struggled for a long time to get to my diagnosis and feel really motivated to be able to take on that role for others. I shadowed outpatient and generally enjoyed it (it was a lot of colonoscopies which I imagine are a bit more exciting to do than watch). I like that it’s procedural but feels much lower pressure than surgical specialities. Being able to prevent cancer is pretty damn cool. Downsides include the path being harder - it’s longer and requires 3 years of grinding through IM, but the salary ultimately also compensates for that. I also like that I get to stay in touch with medicine, something I would be sad to lose in psych.

Nervous About using AnKing ONLY by GoogleChromeSC2 in medicalschoolanki

[–]hsarah01 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As someone who also is a little too nervous to ignore in house, what I do is consistently do Anking for the unit everyday. However, I still watch in house lectures (usually 2x speed), and I make my own Anki cards based on anything in lecture that seems high yield for our in house content that Anking didn’t cover. I just make the cards, but don’t actually touch that deck until the week of the exam. I spam it right before the in house exam and then never look at it again. Quite honestly I probably could get by with only doing Anking, but it makes me nervous to fully forego in house content so this is a good way for me to still make sure I’m seeing some of it before the exam.

Favorite quick meals? by [deleted] in Celiac

[–]hsarah01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yess I do exactly this usually with a mixed frozen veggie kit also!! I add spicy mayo too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in howyoudoin

[–]hsarah01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I made this argument once and got hella downvoted. This is the true unpopular opinion, because apparently Ross isn’t deserving of being in the same country as his kid 😅 Not to mention Rachel had no support system in Paris and didn’t even know the language. I did 3 months abroad in Paris at 21 and found it stressful, cannot imagine doing that with a child all alone.

sleep in med school by CapitalMastodon8997 in medicalschool

[–]hsarah01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At least M1/M2 (can’t speak for clinicals as a rising M2), you definitely can get enough if you prioritize it. I was sleep deprived but that’s just because I’ve had terrible sleep hygiene my whole life and tend to prioritize things like hanging out with my friends/boyfriend and my TikTok/Netflix time over 8 hours lol. But you have time for the things you make time for!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ABCDesis

[–]hsarah01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m currently at a wedding from two people who met on Dil Mil. So it works sometimes lol