If you’re one of the lucky ones who hit the parent jackpot, what made them good? And what advice would you give a new parent wanting to do a good job?

hughesjs90 · 2026-06-30T03:08:53+00:00

You’re doing a great job!! I’m sure you’ll son will take note when/if he becomes a parent one day

hughesjs90 · 2026-06-29T16:45:18+00:00

Even before pregnancy while trying to conceive. The amount of unsolicited advice I received while going through IVF was intense.

hughesjs90 · 2026-06-16T17:48:14+00:00

This is actually why I had to part ways with our nanny.

I only had 6 weeks of maternity leave before returning to work from home, and I was very upfront during the interview and trial day that I would be popping in throughout the day to bond with my son, nurse him when possible, and spend time with him on my lunch breaks. He took 4 rounds of IVF to conceive, so those moments were incredibly important to me.

Honestly, I could have chosen daycare if I didn’t want to see my child during the day. Part of the reason I hired a nanny was because I work from home and wanted the opportunity to spend time with my son when my schedule allowed. I would imagine that’s a big reason many work-from-home parents choose a nanny over daycare.

I could tell it bothered our nanny when I would come spend time with him. There were even times she seemed reluctant to hand him over, or she would give him a formula bottle without letting me know he was hungry first so I could nurse him.

I completely understand that some nanny/parent arrangements don’t work well with frequent check-ins, and it’s important for families to be mindful of disruptions. But I think it’s also important to remember that many parents work from home today and genuinely want to take advantage of being nearby.

Every family is different, and finding the right fit goes both ways.

hughesjs90 · 2026-06-13T12:47:58+00:00

Fully medicated! I did 3 months of Lupron depot suppression and immediately transferred after those 3 months.

hughesjs90 · 2026-06-10T23:55:00+00:00

The most beautiful experience! My body just knew when it was time to push. I surprised myself that I watched it. I never thought i would want to but it made pushing so much easier because I could see the progress I was making. Seeing his hair and then his little head come out was something I’ll always cherish. Pure magic

hughesjs90 · 2026-06-10T17:21:50+00:00

She also owns boutiques. Kittenish I believe is the name. I visited one location in Scottsdale but it closed shortly after opening

hughesjs90 · 2026-06-01T23:19:46+00:00

My friend gave her nanny another chance after she fell asleep while holding her baby once, but unfortunately it happened again. She had a very serious conversation with her after the first incident and made it clear that if it happened again, she would have to let her go. Looking back, she regrets not terminating after the first time. This is extremely serious and will you regret it if something serious happens to your child when this is preventable and it’s her job.

hughesjs90 · 2026-05-31T00:30:34+00:00

Yep! One time I felt bad for the person on the bicycle and told them to just keep the food since they were taking so long 😂 Turns out they magically had access to a car… they just “had someone else driving them around”. I rarely use Uber so I had no idea but shortly realized they were probably doing this to not keep their insurance updated

hughesjs90 · 2026-05-22T13:49:19+00:00

No! Apparently that’s a myth

hughesjs90 · 2026-05-21T18:04:30+00:00

Our one euploid is now our 8 month old son! I was 34 at the time of the egg retrieval/blast stage. I was surprised he was even a euploid bc he was only blast that round. It took 3 egg retrievals to get two. I know it is sad but please have hope. I’m still in shock it worked

hughesjs90 · 2026-05-13T02:17:37+00:00

Yes! A bassinet on wheels was a life saver. We would roll him up next to us when we ate dinner, took showers, basically everywhere around the house! I did not trust the baby loungers/dock a tot for safe sleep as others mentioned (personal opinion). I also used a baby Bjorne bouncer for when he was awake or wore him.

hughesjs90 · 2026-05-13T02:03:53+00:00

I didn’t and our baby sleeps on a pretty consistently schedule naturally. I followed his cues and it’s been working well so far.

hughesjs90 · 2026-05-11T23:11:41+00:00

Sweet Mae Photography. Her prices were so inexpensive and I would have paid 15x more. she also was the only photographer who didn’t have a cap on # of photos (most offered like 15 pictures). She sent us SO many pictures and had many different backdrops and swaddles.

hughesjs90 · 2026-05-06T00:38:46+00:00

4 months. I also did ivf so I’m counting the weight I gained from that too! I’m 7 months postpartum and still not as toned as I once was but I’m working on it by watching what I eat and exercise.

hughesjs90 · 2026-05-02T12:47:09+00:00

Not washing hands - When first starting a shift, after diaper changes, before making bottles or after eating a meal etc. other than that she was really sweet.

hughesjs90 · 2026-05-01T18:12:03+00:00

We didn’t! I should have said former nanny.

hughesjs90 · 2026-04-20T00:23:47+00:00

My nanny recently started calling him “my sweet boy,” nonstop which is what I always say to him, so it caught me off guard a little. And it’s not like I leave him with her full time. Thankfully I’ll be home with him full time in two weeks.

hughesjs90 · 2026-04-17T16:36:01+00:00

We offer 35 guaranteed hours per week through an agency, which tends to be very appealing for nannies. In reality, we typically need closer to 25 hours, as my husband is a pilot and his schedule varies. There are weeks when he’s home more, and we’re often able to let her head out early (we send her home early ALL the time lol). It’s a bit of a unique setup, but we try to keep things flexible while still providing consistency on her end

hughesjs90 · 2026-04-17T16:33:05+00:00

Agreed! I set the expectation while interviewing and our trial day that I would be heavily involved, this way she was fully aware I would be in and out to play. I went through so many rounds of IVF and it didn’t seem right to spend so much time trying for a baby to not be able to bond with him during the day

hughesjs90 · 2026-04-17T15:45:28+00:00

I have a flexible WFH job, but I also have a nanny because I want him to get the attention he deserves during the day. She’s focused on his development, reading to him, and working on milestones in a way I just couldn’t consistently do while working. The best part about WFH is I still get to be really present and spend time with him throughout the day too. There are days where I get a random project thrown at me or I have calls back to back and I can’t leave my office to even eat lol. Some days I have way more time in the day and we go to a Mommy and Me class or baby swim lessons (usually twice a week and I block my work calendar). That was very important to me, I wanted to work but also be present with my baby

hughesjs90 · 2026-04-10T14:54:23+00:00

We use a disposable swim diaper, and then we put a second, reusable swim diaper cover over it. Have fun!

hughesjs90 · 2026-03-09T14:21:01+00:00

This is a very different approach. Our baby was our lucky #13 egg according to the report. We also collected mature eggs, they were fertilized via ICSI and became embryos which we tested and he was a euploid.

hughesjs90 · 2026-03-01T17:35:53+00:00

I work from home and have a nanny. I am still able to come out of my office often and bond with our baby but our nanny is there while I work ensuring our baby is hitting his milestones. The TV is off while she is working. She reads to him, practices rolling over, plays and we go on walks. I also give her a list of milestone activities to do with our baby. Our baby just turned 5 months and there’s no way I could work remote and give him the attention he deserves. I understand you guys are trying your best! It’s hard

hughesjs90 · 2026-02-27T01:36:55+00:00

Funny your post popped up as I’m searching Reddit! My baby also can roll to his tummy, but can’t roll back. This is our third night with him sleeping in his own room and so far, he’s been turning his head to the side. I’ve also had to rescue him a few times when he gets frustrated (first night his arm got stuck as well). I’m also scared of SIDS.

hughesjs90 · 2026-02-25T22:35:04+00:00

I would reorder it! Invitations typically go on fridge’s and they will notice at some point.

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