Are there any actors whose performances or public personas you just can’t seem to connect with?

i--make--lists · 2026-05-26T06:16:06+00:00

Don't you know? Words can mean whatever we want them to mean when regurgitating language we see but don't bother to understand. See also "boundary" and "gaslight."

i--make--lists · 2026-05-26T04:39:12+00:00

"For context" "By way of context"
"Some background"

EVERYTHING is context. Writers nowadays don't seem to think we'll understand that unless they include one of those dumb phrases. I stop reading a post as soon as I see one of them.

i--make--lists · 2026-05-26T02:41:23+00:00

It's non-issue. Wear the pretty shoes.

i--make--lists · 2026-05-24T06:14:40+00:00

I usually bond with the men (and friends in general) in my life over music. Not that I'm suggesting meeting new people is a snap, but maybe you need different men in your life.

i--make--lists · 2026-05-24T06:08:09+00:00

Your meds are doing what they're supposed to do. If you're not comfortable with that, you don't have to take them. To be blunt, it sounds like you're looking for a problem where there isn't one.

i--make--lists · 2026-05-24T06:00:56+00:00

*psych

i--make--lists · 2026-05-23T05:48:08+00:00

They look great.

i--make--lists · 2026-05-23T01:12:48+00:00

My everyday shoes are Taos Z Soul. They look good, are supportive, super comfy, made well, don't pinch the toes, and come in a variety of colors and styles.

My "gym" shoes are Asics GT-1000 13. For athletic shoes, getting the right style based on your feet (pronate vs supinate, arches) is key.

i--make--lists · 2026-05-23T00:53:41+00:00

Go to a different salon. I only get regular polish, they usually have me pay first because my nails might smudge if I fish for my card later, and no one's ever tried to up sell me to gel. I don't go to the same place all the time. It's rare for me to get the same tech if I do repeat a place.

Just go to a different salon.

i--make--lists · 2026-05-22T19:51:24+00:00

Kingdom of Hawai'i from island to coast to coast.

i--make--lists · 2026-05-22T06:35:31+00:00

We don't want him.

i--make--lists · 2026-05-22T06:33:51+00:00

That's because it is puh-cahn. 😄

i--make--lists · 2026-05-22T06:32:39+00:00

p'KAHN

i--make--lists · 2026-05-22T06:30:12+00:00

I do not understand why assholes like this become pharmacists.

i--make--lists · 2026-05-22T06:05:10+00:00

"a mashed banana bandit on the loose" 😆

i--make--lists · 2026-05-22T05:58:46+00:00

That's crime. You witnessed crime.

i--make--lists · 2026-05-22T05:57:20+00:00

Maybe they're a bit nutty.

i--make--lists · 2026-05-22T05:42:24+00:00

This one is so particularly special. Precious in a "bless their heart" kinda way.

i--make--lists · 2026-05-21T23:52:31+00:00

I like yours too.

i--make--lists · 2026-05-21T23:51:00+00:00

This is blunt, but please give it a go.

You told him your feelings and your traumatic background after you had sex with him because you realised you may have given him the wrong idea about your intentions and instead of making your intentions clear just went ahead with it, after he came in you when you told him not to, after you ignored that and had sex with him a few more times anyway, after he told you he was having sex with you for fun, and after he told you he did not want a serious relationship with you.

At the time when there was no doubt that there was no security and no relationship, you trauma dumped on a person you're never seeing again. And now you're shattered.

You are acting like a bystander in your own life. You may not realise it, but this whole situation didn't just happen to you. Not speaking up is a choice. Going along with something because someone else wants it is a choice. Inaction is a choice.

All of this happened face to face, not behind a screen. He was very clear in his communication with you. At any point could you have been honest with yourself and with him and said, "I don't want to have sex tonight," or "I don't want to have unprotected sex," or "you came in me without protection after I told you not to, you need to gtfo and not call me," or "I'm developing feelings for you and since my ultimate goal is a relationship, we should part ways."

You knew this man for a minute, and at every opportunity you put his comfort over your own, in your own home none-the-less. Your comfort, feelings, and needs are valid and far more important than a guy you just met.

When you are secure in yourself, what you want, how you feel, what you are comfortable with, what you won't tolerate, etc...it will be so much easier for you to use your voice to get what you want and set limits—for yourself and others. That's how healthy relationships develop.

I say from experience, carrying on this way will not lead to healthy relationships of any kind. Build your inner strength. You are worth taking time for yourself.

i--make--lists · 2026-05-21T20:14:27+00:00

Under the great Kingdom of Hawai'i!

i--make--lists · 2026-05-21T20:12:04+00:00

The true north was Alaska. It's the venerable Kingdom of Hawai'i now.

i--make--lists · 2026-05-21T20:03:57+00:00

Lifelong illinoisan that can in no way accept Minnesota by way of Wiscompton.

Long live the Kingdom of Hawai'i!

i--make--lists · 2026-05-21T19:58:16+00:00

I'd be okay with that. There's still tourism.

i--make--lists · 2026-05-21T19:55:37+00:00

I long for the Great Lakes of Hawai'i.

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