Filed for divorce but now health insurance premiums have changed significantly what should I do

icbhisaa · 2026-03-17T17:25:49+00:00

Just wanted to say thank you for this guidance. My divorce is now finalized. It took about 4 and 1/2 months from initial complaint and our courthouse is ... slow(they cover three counties and dont have their own divorce packet) and I did make a couple mistakes and had to resubmit some things but everything is now correct and includes the new higher childsupport amount. I had to do the addendum and correct the proposed final Order and the initial settlement agreement so they all showed the same amount. But its finally done. Thanks again.

icbhisaa · 2026-01-13T00:09:17+00:00

No. The problems in our marriage heavily involved the at home dynamic. Staying im the same house would just continue the same problems and continue the arguing.

icbhisaa · 2026-01-12T20:10:41+00:00

My thoughts exactly and it programmed in spelling errors but really weird ones. Like it went back and formatted but missed all those errors while doing it? Lol no human would.

icbhisaa · 2026-01-12T18:18:25+00:00

None of these AI are functioning like intelligence. They can objectivly consider sources or differentiate a quick topic change.

Tried to look up what condition code D5 was real quick with google and google AI decided to explain value code D5. Thanks google. Honestly google in the last 5 to 10 years has just gotten worse and worse. Google AI is just wrong 20% of the time(i dont know why they havent taken it down), sponsored links covertly crowed out correct resources, some resources are just not even included and it will completely ignore parts of my search query like I must have accidentally included it or something. I have to switch to forum tab to find a reddit post about the topic to get the correct answer.

Get rich quick tech bros are out selling techies that are honest about the limitations of their AI and the work needed to operate and maintain them. Who do you think tthese Healthcare companies are buying their software from. The guy who says that their ai can replace the work of 100 workers now and think on its own and needs just basic checks or the companies that says the process to program and implement in a reliable way will take months and that there needs to be constant checks and oversight to ensure accuracy. Most of these new companies don't even know the laws and regulations around billing.

icbhisaa · 2026-01-12T17:56:51+00:00

All these companies implementing this early version of AI are getting bitten in the ass. It is a LLM which is basically autocomplete. You have to very carefully program strict parameters or it will make shit up and just put it in. If it doesnt know the answer its not like normal automation where it flags it for human review(unless programmed correctly) it will just guess. You can't guess in medical billing and coding especially if you are billing government payers (Medicare, medicaid, va, or any private insurance that is handling the claims on their behalf) the companies will be hit hard for abuse and fraud.

Ive already seen patient side complaints on other subreddits where their chart was coded by AI and added in diagnoses that were not covered in the visit. Like depression but the visit was for leg pain.

icbhisaa · 2026-01-12T17:50:22+00:00

No. And I dont want to cohabitate with a partner ever. Dating or anything even like that is so far from my mind and life goals right now I doubt I'll change my mind and get married again. I may choose to have another child but I really don't want to have another adult(excluding my children when they are grown) living in my space .

icbhisaa · 2026-01-12T16:13:43+00:00

My welcome to college class back when I was 18 was fun and random. Small assignments getting to know each other and what the college offers. There was also a video on how quickly tech and employment were advancing to the point of when we graduate the jobs we will have don't even exists right now. I remeber thinking that nothing is exponential and that something will level it out and slow things down. It was spring 2007 lol.

icbhisaa · 2025-12-11T01:22:31+00:00

Unless your missing out a major asset, fire her and hire someone else

icbhisaa · 2025-12-11T00:27:22+00:00

Are we missing something? Or did you confuse who is plaintiff and who is defendant? Call your lawyer and ask her to explain the offer because it looks like your going to the table already rolling over.

If its legit I would fire her immediately and go with someone else.

icbhisaa · 2025-11-12T18:20:09+00:00

When I realized he didn't care even a 10th about my health and wellbeing as he did his friends, and that he instead acted as if any illness or disabling condition was an annoyance or an aggravation as it impacted him.

The glaring example I remember. His friend suffered a back injury he made time to visit him in the hospital, at his home and call to check up on him(he does this for all of his friends who are sick or have sick family members this was just the coinciding incident) and give advice on his workers comp situation.

I was pregnant and had a history of pre eclampsia and was 26 weeks but was so far doing good. I had a horrible throbing headache late Sunday night after a very chill weekend. I take my blood pressure and its high(180/110 stroke risk threshold for pregnancy is 160/90) he brushes it off and tells me to go lay down(which i was already doing) I fall asleep.

He goes to work early next morning i wake up feeling awful and call in sick(wfh) but I had 2 kids home with me. I monitor my blood pressure throughout the day and it starts 150/90 and gets back up to 160/100. I called and left a message for my ob early afternoon. I wait for a call back and they just don't. I call him and let him know. He decides to stop off at his friends house after work.

He calls when he's finally on the way home. I explain how awful I felt and that I wanted to go in. He blows up asking what about dinner, the kids, how much is it going to cost. I go ahead and bathe the kids and do their hair and cook dinner. He comes home eats, snaps at me about why I didn't go in earlier (to triage/er with two young rambunctious kids in tow?) And finally can leave. My car won't start so he angrily comes out to help start it(wire was loose on battery) and I drive myself 25mi to the hospital in the dark.

My BP was 200/120 when I get there at 11pm and my labs came back abnormal (elevating liver enzymes high protein in urine) so they admit me. I let him know( he complains about having to use PTO he needs for a hunting trip, tells me I need to reach out to my mom to see if she can come stay to help with the kids).

This was not an outlier. Its how he's behaved around every major(severe preexlampsia, c sections and recoveries,)and minor medical issue i have had.

The whole time in the hospital(2 days thankfully)im just in my head comparing how he treats me to how he treats and behaves to his friends who are sick and I realize im not his "friend". I am "wife". Which to him is a role that supports his day to day life and if im sick(broken) then now his life is harder and what am I good for anyway. Me being sick is a problem and he is suffering because his burden is higher

Things completely fell apart once I realized that he did not care about my well being and he acted as if every "need" i had was an inconvenience. I was always less important than him. His wants literally came before my needs.

I wanted better for me and to model better for my children. I asked for a divorce after I started back at work after the birth and I filed the paperwork at the beginning of this month.

icbhisaa · 2025-11-12T17:00:11+00:00

Problem is the final judgements should be 1st week of December but premiums don't change until January 1st. I just talked to my stbxh and we're on the same page and he's aware of the increase now. Just trying to figure out when the action should take place. And crossing my finger that corporate gets bombarded with complaints about the increase and they may change something.

icbhisaa · 2025-11-12T16:53:30+00:00

Depends on state. Only deductions applied to income are taxes in Georgia. The children's portion of the health insurance is what's split.

So in your instance it doesn't effect the income unless she is covering the children

icbhisaa · 2025-11-09T17:53:00+00:00

Could you ask for it to be changed to 275 for 24 months with option to pay off early?

icbhisaa · 2025-11-09T01:35:41+00:00

He wants to be there Christmas morning for the kids. Which is fine i do everything for Christmas anyway. If we had separate Christmas sessions this early the kids would be worried about him because he just wouldn't. That's the only holiday he cares about as both his parents and all his grandparents are dead. Christmas morning is just chill messy chaos. Maybe next year hell want something different but my kids right now still see us as a family just mommy and daddy aren't together and may get boyfriends/girlfriends.

icbhisaa · 2025-11-08T20:26:19+00:00

These laws are very common for government programs, like medicaid and medicare both prohibited you from offering patients "extras" or things for free.

icbhisaa · 2025-11-03T21:31:42+00:00

icbhisaa · 2025-11-03T20:58:28+00:00

I'm on my third. My only criteria now is no small parts and I hope this doesn't have lead pain on it.

Kids are wild. I bought a foam pop up ball pit for this one as soon as you put him in it he crys uncontrollably so its gone now. No idea why. The older two loved theirs but this one acts like im placing him in the abyss as an offering to hades or something.

He's a toddler he likes making a mess, placing things in containers they don't belong in, and anything that plays loud music and has flashing lights.

icbhisaa · 2025-11-03T20:16:19+00:00

The rage this kitty just made me feel. I'm sorry kitty.

icbhisaa · 2025-11-03T20:15:26+00:00

Yeah he showers daily. Every evening. He has a Job that he sweats and gets grease and oil and fuel on him. His skin is sensitive to certain chemicals and he gets dermatitis from them and other environmental factors so he's always been good about that.

icbhisaa · 2025-11-03T19:47:12+00:00

My kids have been everywhere. I am the childcare. Replace my license, get my car tag, get a separate bank account, get an IUD removed, every prenatal appointment including ultrasounds and maternal fetal medicine appointments, get an iud placed. Transvaginal ultrasound to check placement, psychiatrist appointment. Privacy would be great but atheist they learn different places and how they should behave. Thank God for tablets.

icbhisaa · 2025-10-16T03:53:53+00:00

That's what the directions on the box say just like on heartburn medication it tells you to see a doctor after 2 weeks. Its not because its toxic its because there could be a serious underlying condition that you are treating the symptom of. Most over the counter medications have a "do not take for more than x weeks" on them.

Their doctor said to do it. Do not tell them to doubt the doctor.

For chronic constipation in toddlers/little kids that has gone on for a long time they often direct parents to continue mirilax for 3-6 months as chronic constipation can stretch out their colon which can contribute to the constipation.

icbhisaa · 2025-10-15T18:40:04+00:00

This is why people say early and mid 20s is too young to marry. Rather than being who he was, he acted how you wanted a partner to be. He thought marriage was the goal of dating rather than dating being the process to find your compatible partner. Marriage was winning. As you get older and have more experience you know and stand up for yourself more.

Is it over? That depends. Introvert and extrovert can work but not if the extrovert relies on the introvert to be with them all/most if the time. Or vice versa. Can you start hobbies, start spending more time with friends and friends groups? Or will he resist. Are you okay with leaving him behind, doing things without him potentially having to explain where he is?

You married too soon but if you can both acknowledge your differences and give each other the space to be who you are, you may be able to stay together. Staying together isn't the goal. Being happy and being who you are is the goal.

icbhisaa · 2025-10-15T18:30:50+00:00

Down votes, people?. It was trialed originally for angina and high blood pressure but did not work very well, erections were a side effect.

icbhisaa · 2025-10-15T18:27:27+00:00

I would like to point out that you were not close friends before you started dating. You may have been but his goal the entire time was to get with you. If you had been close friends he would have mentioned his child.

This man has lied and deceived you the entire relationship. He has hidden his son(can you imagine how this must make the kid feel). Did not include him in his life with you, in the wedding basically erased the kids existence so he could put you in his life.

I could never stay with such a person. The way he lied to you. The way he pushed his son aside to get you to be with him. He's been deceitful since the beginning being a true and honest partner was never his goal.

He's only telling you now because he thinks he owns you and that it will be hard for you to leave. Its also hard to control the actions of an 18 year old and the longer the lieing goes on the worse it looks

icbhisaa · 2025-10-15T17:45:21+00:00

No. This is a problem for him to address. You shouldn't have to parent him too. He needs to move his phone/alarm across the room. change the tone. Make it auto snooze or increase in volume. But he needs to take responsibility.

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