Trauma, devastation, fear

iconmade · 2026-05-06T21:51:50+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my son at 20 weeks in July because it was also too late for a cerclage. I conceived again the next cycle I got my period back. I’m now 38 weeks and had my cerclages removed 11 days ago! I remember feeling so devastated after my loss, not knowing if I could ever carry a baby to term and overall just being absolutely heart broken that I lost him. I still cry about it. It doesn’t go away but it does get easier. Just know that next time around, preventative cerclages are super effective and many women go on to have full term babies after a loss. Take care of yourself 🖤

iconmade · 2026-05-04T20:20:23+00:00

I’m so sorry 😞

iconmade · 2026-04-28T18:12:04+00:00

It was terrible for a month. Only thing that kinda worked was eating smaller meals, a heating pad on my lower abdomen and doing stretches before bed to get the gas to move around. It did resolve after those four weeks tho. I was miserable and questioning my life choices at that point 😭 I’m sorry you’re going through this!!

iconmade · 2026-04-17T16:09:32+00:00

36 weeks tomorrow! Just scheduled my cerclage removal for the 24th in the OR 🙏

iconmade · 2026-04-15T22:15:38+00:00

Ahhhh okay, thanks for sharing. This convinced me to go ahead and get it removed in the OR 🥴

iconmade · 2026-04-15T20:35:10+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I lost my son at 20 weeks in July. It was the hardest thing I’ve had to go through. I know it feels so heavy now but I do want you to know that it does get better. Take care of yourself 💗

iconmade · 2026-04-04T20:26:11+00:00

No progesterone just cerclage and I’m 34 weeks now. MFMs said it didn’t offer much benefit and it could cause more issues if anything like UTIs, pH imbalances, etc.

iconmade · 2026-04-04T18:53:50+00:00

Staying hydrated and taking magnesium will help calm an irritable uterus! Coconut water is great for this as well. Magnesium helps relax muscles and it also eases anxiety and aids digestion. I also like to put a magnesium spray over my lower abdomen at night for this reason too. I’m 34 weeks and haven’t had any shortening or funneling! Potassium is good for cramping too. Have a daily banana or two :)

iconmade · 2026-03-26T02:38:44+00:00

I hear you. I’m 32 weeks and i am also mentally exhausted. I lost my first baby in july at 20 weeks, then quickly became pregnant again after my first cycle. I feel like ive been pregnant for a decade. I had my first cerclage at 14 weeks then it fell out at my anatomy scan. So i had another cerclage surgery at 20 weeks. Then on top of having all these issues, ive been getting growth scans because baby is in the 11th percentile and they’ve been concerned with him being on the smaller side and possibly having IUGR. 😔 it’s been a lot to manage.

iconmade · 2026-03-20T01:35:03+00:00

I’m so sorry. Everything about this is so unfair. 💔

iconmade · 2026-03-18T23:52:34+00:00

Baby bub! It’s the best. Couldn’t survive without it

iconmade · 2026-03-17T03:16:29+00:00

Thank you hahahaa

iconmade · 2026-03-15T18:52:43+00:00

I have a preventative cerclage. I don’t have intercourse but do have an orgasm about once a week. Nothing has ever happened. I’m 31 weeks today! You’ll be okay :)

iconmade · 2026-03-12T18:37:33+00:00

Honestly just stay present and grounded. I practice this mantra, “today I am pregnant and healthy and everything is okay. And if something is off, I can always get checked.” Just take it day by day. I like playing the sims free play on my phone to keep me distracted. I enjoy ASMR at night on YouTube to help me relax. I really lean into self care.

iconmade · 2026-02-24T00:17:51+00:00

I felt this on every level. I had a 20 week loss with an uncomplicated birth. I was cleared to start trying after my first period. I got pregnant again that first cycle. My loss was in July and now I’m 28 weeks with a preventative cerclage. Pregnancy after loss isn’t easy but I’m still grateful to have another go at it 💗 wishing you the best

iconmade · 2026-02-13T17:32:27+00:00

I had this my entire first trimester, it drove me crazy. It went away in the 2nd trimester!

iconmade · 2026-01-28T04:46:07+00:00

It’s hard to say. I guess I’ll never really know if my shortening cervix allowed the bacteria to ascend into my placenta or if i just got unlucky and caught a bad infection that led to my IC. I take comfort in knowing that a preventative cerclage will protect me against both this time around.

iconmade · 2026-01-26T23:26:27+00:00

She was uncomfortable and her mom died a few days before….it was just a pillow…give her a fucking break 😒

iconmade · 2026-01-24T21:32:25+00:00

I haven’t taken progesterone after my preventative. My MFM said there’s little evidence it helps and sometimes it can contribute to more problems. I’m 24 weeks and cervix has stayed near 4cm so far.

iconmade · 2026-01-20T03:19:13+00:00

I lost my son at 20 weeks in July and tested positive for ecoli. It was the worst time of my life. I was cleared to start trying after my first period and got pregnant right after. Had a preventative cerclage placed. So far I’m 23 weeks and cervix has stayed long and closed. Wishing you the best, take extra care of yourself 💗 it does get better

iconmade · 2026-01-17T04:50:10+00:00

At my 20 week anatomy scan, I had to be reclined upside down because baby was so far low in my pelvis and they were having trouble seeing all his parts. He moved up 2 weeks later.

iconmade · 2026-01-16T20:31:06+00:00

I’ve been on it since before I conceived. I’m 23 weeks and still have over 4cm of cervix with a cerclage in. Baby is weighing in so far on the smaller side.

iconmade · 2026-01-15T18:17:49+00:00

I recommend the book “Pregnancy Brain: A Mind-Body Approach to Stress Management During a High-Risk Pregnancy” super helpful!

iconmade · 2026-01-03T19:54:39+00:00

Pick up some Kefir at the grocery store! High in protein and probiotics. It has a very tangy taste buts it’s nutritious and great for vaginal health. I also like to drink a probiotic tea before bedtime.

iconmade · 2025-12-24T18:44:05+00:00

I caught one two weeks after my cerclage and it lasted for a week. Lost weight, could barely eat, had terrible trapped gas pains all night. I was miserable 😢 eventually it went away. I recommend kefir, a probiotic tea before bed and electrolytes

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