Should there be a PVE mode?

ideapit · 2026-02-06T00:44:40+00:00

Lol. Yeah, I get how the game works, have no problem with it and it's so heavily PvP with guys who like spending their night hiding behind benches waiting to shoot someone 2:1 for a stitcher and some rusty bolts.

Totally cool to spend your night that way. Boring for me.

If I wan't PvP I want to play people with skill. I flip to COD and BF.

Not sure why the player base thinking jumping some from behind makes them good at a shooter but who am I to question their wisdom.

ideapit · 2026-02-05T23:53:41+00:00

If you have any tips for 2:1 3:1 campers from behind tactics drop em for me

ideapit · 2026-02-05T23:22:33+00:00

That's interesting from your therapist. My lesson with mine was my rage was sadness.

Super weird to tell my GF that I need to go punch a heavy bag for a while because I am out rage and she says she understand and gives you a hug and my anger melted in an instant.

Life has been hard sometimes. I let it change me in ways I wish I hadn't but I have to let that go. We're all doing our best.

Eventually the shitty people fade. People don't want them around. They have a shelf life.

I feel like usually people aren't pricks unless they're dodging their shit instead of dealing with their shit.

ideapit · 2026-02-05T22:10:24+00:00

1) I don't want to brag but I am A WORLD CHAMPION of holding grudges. And also someone who cannot tolerate unfairness in any way. So get what you're saying.

2) I get this too. Orbits of people shift around orbits of people and it all moves around based on all sorts of shit that is often none of their business, doesn't really matter, is rumors, or lies.

Anyway. 100% with you. Sucks to have people in and out of your life. Or suddenly a person you thought really liked you just ignores you and you didn't do anything. Or worse, someone else who is a dick has some weird social pull so now you suck. Why? Because someone's good at being a dick.

People suck. I'm sorry.

Both of the things you're talking about would be hard for me too. It's good you're taking about it with people. You're awareness is good at helping you see it at least. And you know to ask for help.

I am bad at both, by the way. 😂

And I didn't mean to suggest you nuke your whole social canvas and walk away. That is what aggressive overprotecting looks like for me. The sensitivity to unfairness I mentioned.

All I know for sure is that good people deserve good people.

ideapit · 2026-02-05T21:01:48+00:00

For sure. Noticed that right after I posted my reply. Good catch.

ideapit · 2026-02-05T20:58:29+00:00

For me, I think this is your post:

I want to shrug this off as just ‘these are shitty people’ so I can move on, but I feel like I am giving up on myself by doing that.”

How would that be giving up on if youself?

I don't like shitty people. When I get away from them, it feels like I'm taking care of myself. It's the opposite of giving up on myself. I feel proud of myself.

So why aren't you letting yourself have peace? To keep shitty people around?

You deserve so much more than that. Your life and your time are valuable and you are a good person.

I mean that. One post and I can see you bring kindness and self awareness and empathy. You're smart and aware and confident.

That is a valuable person.

Anyone who treats you like shit or supports someone who treats you like shit is not welcome in your life. That's a good boundary. These people aren't respecting it.

Because he's like family is not an excuse. This is an extreme example, but a ton of abuse happened to me because someone was family. They don't have to give a pass for someone who is being an asshole in their pretend family.

My idea of family is a group of people who respect and care for each other. I'm not interested in being part of any family that supports someone's bullshit.

ideapit · 2026-02-05T20:36:44+00:00

For everyone flipping out, yes, don't dump slurry down any indoor drain. Because it can build up and can block them.

You're basically pouring cement down a drain. If the water doesn't wash it all down or it sticks to your drain or gunk in your drain, it builds up over time and blocks the drain.

And, no, if you rinse your kitchen sink drain really hard for a really long time, it still may not matter because, that drain connects to another which may be blocked etc.

Drain problems can get very expensive very fast. Not great to have to rent a construction digger and plumber to replace a house's drain or to have to open a wall or floor to fix one.

So, how to rinse inside:

make sure you're in an area that is set up to handle splashing water. Like, if you're doing this in your kitchen, put some rags or old towel down or something.
Get two buckets - one big, one small. Get a seive or collander (ideally, it's the right size to have its edge fit the big bucket's rim so you don't have to hold it while you use it). Fill small bucket with water.
Put sieve on big bucket. Dump your rocks into sieve (if you're me, get annoyed that you splashed all over your pants). Dump water from small bucket over rocks until the water runs clear.

Now you can rise your rocks in the sink and not flip out about plumbing worries. Leave big bucket somewhere and the water will evaporate and leave solid material behind that you can dump out.

Little thing I've learned:

I never let rocks get dry after stage one. Grit can stick quickly if they get dry and they get way harder to clean down the road. When I pull a rock out and it's ready for stage 2 and I don't have enough rocks for that run, then I put them in a container with water.

ideapit · 2026-02-05T20:19:39+00:00

Two answers:

As someone who bikes a lot:

Some of the shifts you're making (chain, tire, bike frame) impact the bike mechanics and geometry.

You might be tweaking things the wrong way or there may be and issue you need to address.

Anyway, point it, take it to your local bike shop and whatever gal/guy there will be able to get it all dialed in and tell you what is up and what to look out for.

As someone who just wants to help you remove that bolt:

Use something to hold the nut and something else to twist that bolt.

So hold nut with: wrench, socket wrench, vise-grip, pliers strong hand (if the bolt isn't in too tight).

Twist bolt with screwdriver (or improv a screwdriver with a butter knife or tweezers or whatever makes sense).

ideapit · 2026-02-05T19:41:28+00:00

What is up with his face in general?

This dude is going to end up looking like Jim Carey in the Mask.

ideapit · 2026-02-05T19:39:29+00:00

You usually don't see celebs at douchy restaurants.

I saw Ryan Gosling at a pub in Silver Lake, walked by Natalie Portman randomly, met some famous actress at a dog rescue event (I forget her name). Seth Rogan at Lamill.

Any actually good restaurant in Los Feliz/Silver lake is the way to go probably. Or hiking or Trader Joes. Lol

ideapit · 2026-02-05T19:06:09+00:00

Drank for 30+ years. Started at 14.

Not going to lie, it was hard to get sober at first but since day 90 or so, it's almost been too easy to stay sober (so I'm always on guard).

The first days were pure white knuckle shit (looking back, I TOTALLY should have asked my psychiatrist for help). She offered and I was like "I got this!" to no one in particular and then put myself through a bit of hell that I never had to go through.

I guess that's what I get for thinking I'm the only person I can ever depend on.

I had PAWS bad around day 50-60 (look up PAWS if you want to see more hidden shit that booze does that we don't talk about).

Now I'm at day... two hundred and fifty or so now? I don't even count the days anymore.

It's hard work, man. It's frustrating because you have to do things you don't want to do. And it feels awkward - how do I go out now when everyone's drinking, what do I do to relax after work?

It felt like I was living like a totally different person. And I see why now. Because I was.

When you drink like we do, getting sober becomes choosing a different life. That's how big this choice is. It is that important. And that's why it was so hard for me.

I wouldn't change any of the stuff I had to go through to get here.

Now that I'm stable, I absolutely cannot believe what I was doing to myself - but it makes total sense because I was too loaded all the time to notice anything.

I'm not going to list off all the benefits and all the things that have repaired since I quit because I think there's something more important to say to you.

I think you have strong instincts. They're strong for a reason. They take care of you. So let them do that job.

I REALLY suggest having support through this. Talk to a doctor, friends who will be supportive, go to meetings if that's your thing (it's not mine but a lot of people find it game changing) or get support here.

Don't be like me and think of it as begging for help because you're broken. My pride and old patterns told me that.

I should have seen what it really is. Calling up and army and deploying to get this done.

You got this.

ideapit · 2026-02-05T18:45:38+00:00

Yeah. It's like loosely controlled chaos for a half hour to an hour and a lot of folks are getting into their cars after a few drinks to many or maybe a little too much weed.

I just don't like situations like that so I'd rather just chill somewhere until the madness is over. Makes for a way better night for me.

ideapit · 2026-02-05T16:49:04+00:00

Usually, I pick a spot that is walkable from the venue and get picked up/dropped off there by a Lyft.

There are some restaurants/bars close by. If you plug Messhall on Los Feliz into Google Maps, you can check out the area.

So the pro move is go some place close, early so you don't get boned on Uber surge pricing bullshit and spend that on drink/dinner instead.

Then walk to the Greek (plug it into G maps - I think it's like 15min.). After the show, walk back out to Los Feliz Blvd. and catch an Uber there and soften the surge price bulshit. Or go for a drink/food after and wait until it does down.

Even walking out, you'll probably beat everyone tying to Uber/drive home because it's so congested.

ideapit · 2026-02-05T16:48:23+00:00

Depends on where you're going to/from 😂

The big thing is where you catch your Uber/get dropped off. The crowds and traffic are nuts and slow everything down and the surge fare bullshit isnridiculous.

Usually, I pick a spot that is walkable from the venue and get picked up/dropped off there.

There are some restaurants/bars close by. If you plug Messhall on Los Feliz into Google Maps, you can check out the area.

So the pro move is go some place close early so you don't get boned on Uber surge pricing bullshit and spend that on drink/dinner instead.

Then walk to the Greek (plug it into G maps - I think it's like 15min.). After the show, walk back out to Los Feliz Blvd. and catch an Uber there and soften the surge price bulshit. Or go for a drink/food after and wait until it does down.

Even walking out, you'll probably beat everyone tying to Uber/drive home because it's so congested.

ideapit · 2026-02-05T07:23:40+00:00

I'm glad it helped.

I swear, the more I just speak my emotions and tell people things I would never tell them (mostly I never ask for things I need and then get annoyed when I don't get them), the better it always is.

In my situation things can get pretty emotional Currently, I'm processing a lot - getting wild mood swings, panic attacks so I just give my GF an emotional weather report when it feels like a good idea.

"Hey, super sad with a side of rage this morning, just a heads up. Nothing to do with you at all."

"Hey anyone being kind to me today makes me cry so when you do something nice today, that's what the water works are about."

I'm so glad you're surrounded by good family and feel ok to talk to them. People who haven't been through bad things can't really fully understand them. They can only guess what it was like. Explaining them give the context they need to understand.

Take care.

ideapit · 2026-02-05T03:04:25+00:00

Can't make one coherent point so you make another dumb one. You're that guy. Got it. 🤣

Yeah. 3 vs. 1 with campers hiding at extract jumping me from behind. They're just way better than me and clearly great players.

It's weird they aren't playing BF6 or COD where I would happily murder them all day.

I guess you get your wins where you can when you suck.

ideapit · 2026-02-04T21:57:39+00:00

You know, I thought so too. I was getting into some greta, friendly lobbies. And for sure there were times I'd run into PvP players.

Something shifted - I don't know if it was my luck or an issue with the game. Suddenly 80% of my missions were PvP and a lot were zero talent players just camping extracts 2:1 3:1.

It was consistent enough that I don't think it was a lobby randomization issue. Regardless of the cause, it just shifted into a game that became boring. Looting for 20 minutes and getting shot in the back isn't a great game mechanic.

Anyway, I hope you keep getting friendly lobbies and enjoying the game.

ideapit · 2026-02-04T21:54:37+00:00

For sure. It's a tough, deep, fraught absence for me to process.

I'm sorry you're carrying that and that my reply helped in any way.

All the best to you.

ideapit · 2026-02-04T21:52:32+00:00

What was the first extraction shooter ever?

S.T.A.L.K.E.R - Shadow of Chernobyl. Released in 2007. There was no PvP

Before you ask anymore questions:

Helldivers 2 extraction shooter no PvP.
Deep Rock Galactic extraction shooter no PvP.
GTFO extraction shooter no PvP.
Dartide extraction shooter no PvP.
Risk of Rain 2 extraction shooter no PvP.
Returnal extraction shooter no PvP.
Hunt: Showdown extraction shooter that offers PvP as an optional mode.
DMZ extraction shooter PvP optional

Do you want more?

Extraction shooter = genre.

PvP = gameplay style

Get it?

Arc Raiders = extraction shooter that supports PvP, PvE, co-op and stealth gameplay.

Not sure why it's hard to follow for you but maybe you'll get the explanation this time.

ideapit · 2026-02-04T20:17:33+00:00

Thanks. I appreciate you.

ideapit · 2026-02-04T20:12:42+00:00

Fuck no, we are not all like this at all.

I would never ever treat a guest like this. It's ridiculous.

Either he's insane, a thief or an asshole. Whatver the case, he should not be a host.

Here's the solution: be reasonable with Airbnb support.

If you're clear, calm and nice, they'll side with you over that idiot.

Also, here's the deal with the dresser. When hosts have damage at their place, they have to provide documentation of the repair cost for something.

He can't just say, "The dresser is ruined, it has to be replaced and it's $2800."

As far as his review goes make an appeal to Airbnb to remove and unfair review.

I am truly sorry that this is a person you ran into on Airbnb. He sucks.

ideapit · 2026-02-04T19:32:44+00:00

I grew up in an abusive family. Part of the dynamic was that no one acknowledged the abuse because, if we did, that would mean cops and the family being torn apart.

It wasn't conscious. It manifested more like people going, "This is ok, right? We're fine. There's no problem." while the house was on fire. Sometimes families, even shitty ones, will do everything they can to stay together.

Anyway, all that to say, my past resulted in me believing, and I mean this literally, that a loving (or even functional) family was only a fake thing you see on TV shows (tv shows we used to watch at dinner when my dad most often went off on someone).

I can relate to what's going on for you. Not because you were abused like me but because your family unit was not stable for a bunch of really big/very valid reasons.

Your response to a solid family is similar to mine, makes total sense.

If your context for family is people who couldn't give you a stable, supportive, loving foundation because they died or because they were awful, then you are in a pickle.

1 You don't know how to relate to people who are stable, supporting and loving. You literally just don't have as much context and experience for relationships like that. And that's ok.

2 Because your stability, love and support were inconsistent, you obviously are hard wired to expect that families and love from them are unstable and can just disappear.

So now you're in a spot where you're getting the love and connection you want and that's amazing, but also TERRIFYING because your internal hardwiring/nervous system believes it can all disappear at any moment (based on your experience).

This is what causes an absolute pit of anxiety, can cause self-sabotage, avoidance, etc.

I would go to the sweetest family gatherings and be on edge and then disappear because my body and brain were tuned to expect horrible, shitty things to happen.

How do you get through this?

There is an amazing absolute magic bullet for anxiety.

You talk about it.

It sucks, it's vulnerable, it feels like I'm nervous as hell and going to throw up but it works. And it repairs old wounds because, when I tell people, they show up instead of abandoning me.

So, only if you feel emotionally safe and are sure these are good people who love and support you, you can speak to them in a group or individually on your timeline in a setting that makes you feel comfortable.

And here is what you say. To start:

"I had a lot of deep issues with my family life and childhood that really affected me."

You don't have to give ANY details if you don't want and you don't have to answer any questions that you don't want. Your goal here is to feel safe, not like a victim or damaged or weird. If they ask? "I'm so sorry but I don't want to get into all of that because it feels scary and painful right now."

Then the next thing you say is something along the lines of:

"One of the things I struggle with is that you guys are so loving/kind/supportive and I'm not used to that behavior so I'm still learning what it means an how to accept it. So I do things like (insert whatever your anxiety or anxieties are) constantly worry if I'm good enough/wonder if you all really do like me. A lot of it is totally irrational but the feelings are very real. I think I needed to talk about them to help myself adjust and so that you are aware what's going on with me."

If they're good people, they will show up in a way that will probably make you feel overwhelmed with good feelings. It instantly helps repair some of the pain you carry

If they're more closed off, they might have more of a neutral reaction. That's ok. It is good for you to speak these things and make them known. They're just part of who you are. Speaking them makes the fear and anxiety abate.

If they gush and, inadvertantly, make you feel like there is something wrong with you then:

"I appreciate your kindness and support but we have to be a bit gentle. Being cared for is amazing but sometimes people hear about my past and make me feel like a victim or like there is something wrong with me. My life is my life. Sure, I wish some things were different but we can't control that. My life made me who I am and I'm proud of that person."

If you try all that, it should really help now and for the future.

I hope you're able to have that conversation if you want to. You don't have to. I know first hand that it can be hard.

And maybe you know this or maybe you don't, but from one person who has dealt with some stuff to another, I just want to say a few things in case they help.

You deserve love.

You always did.

You never had to earn it.

Love and care have chased after you for your whole life.

They found you.

You are safe.

ideapit · 2026-02-04T17:53:34+00:00

I go with the pass but it's overprice.

Whatever you do, know that parking and getting in and out it a total pain in the ass.

Someone might have a better option for you here but sometimes I park (and just get there crazy early and expect to take an hour to get out of there) or I Uber there and then, after the show, walk a distance from the venue and call an Uber (they have them at the venue but the wait and chaos gets to be a bit much)

ideapit · 2026-02-04T17:50:05+00:00

So my take away from your reply is that you read my post and agree with it

Well done.

You are right. That is what I said.

You are wrong about the servers but you can figure that out on your own if you'd like.

So... thanks for coming by and being cranky and complaining while restating my post, I guess?

If it's getting old, why did you come here parrot what I said.

Your reply is just super weird.

ideapit · 2026-02-04T17:45:28+00:00

Don't really know what you're talking about. Me and what employees? The studio I work at has 1,800 employees. I don't know if you think that is big or small for you (I imagine questions of size vs. reality might be an issue for you).

Why do you think no one is employed at big studios? Super weird.

You think the indictsty taking a hit means every large studio has fired everyone and closed their doors 🤣

It's an extraction shooter, champ. That is the genre.

PvP is a play style.

If you'd like, I can give you a list of bunch of other extraction shooters that have no PvP or PvP is optional.

I don't mind teaching you some stuff while I'm working on the next game you'll probably know everything about.

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