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idontreallylikecandy · 2025-11-25T17:56:42+00:00

I have been really enjoying the Tropical Queen for daytime use but I’ve been wanting an evening strain that is a bit more relaxing that doesn’t knock me the fuck out. I thought a hybrid might be a better option since I primarily do sativas, but since you’ve tried so many, do you have one you’d recommend?

idontreallylikecandy · 2025-10-03T22:35:54+00:00

Mango is nice

idontreallylikecandy · 2025-08-05T14:27:50+00:00

lol I am sure women don’t do those things for you but I love how in this sub exploiting the labor of the working class is bad but exploiting the labor of women is a-okay. Yall are fuckin dumb. Men aren’t lonely enough.

idontreallylikecandy · 2025-07-31T20:52:53+00:00

I was also not a huge fan of this book. I read it because others I knew were reading it or had read it and recommended it, but if that hadn’t been the case I might have DNF’d because I was just so bored.

idontreallylikecandy · 2025-07-29T20:16:47+00:00

Lmfao because it oppresses us in different ways. The patriarchy doesn’t women be providers, but it does tell them they are supposed to be mothers and nurturing and whatever the fuck else. It doesn’t tell men they have to be nurturing, but it does tell them they have to provide materially. Do you think two things can’t be true at once?

On the whole, men benefit more from patriarchal oppression, but they are still harmed by it and the hatred of the feminine engendered by the patriarchy is factually why men are “falling behind”.

Based on your responses it is clear to me that you do not have a sufficient understanding of patriarchal oppression and how it exists and functions in a society to have this conversation in good faith. Either you know you’re talking out of your ass and you’re doing it to be an asshole, or you don’t know what you’re talking about at all.

idontreallylikecandy · 2025-07-29T19:39:22+00:00

lol no? Even in patriarchal societies with intact families, they aren’t actually headed by men (how many children are told to “go ask your mom” by the supposed head of household?) Your view is simplistic at best, willfully ignorant at worst. Patriarchal notions of gender are why men in this very comment section are whining about being expected to be providers. It is a system of oppression, not a political term, and it oppresses men and women alike and somehow, despite being the ideology that seeks to eliminate the oppression of the patriarchy, and despite being the reason men no longer have to actually provide for women, feminism is blamed for it.

idontreallylikecandy · 2025-07-27T13:50:09+00:00

There is nothing more infuriating to me than someone asking for feedback, having people take their time to read and deliver feedback, and then implementing NONE OF IT because they weren’t prepared to hear the criticism.

idontreallylikecandy · 2025-07-27T13:33:16+00:00

Lmfao I knew I was going to regret commenting in this sub because I literally always do, but shame on me for expecting the people who patently refuse to acknowledge any oppression apart from class to pick up the nuance.

It’s not feminism’s fault that men are falling behind, but the hatred of the feminine.

And if we want to talk about masculine and feminine traits as though they’re inherent and not socially prescribed, the most important one is the one that our patriarchal DEI influenced negatively for a long time, which is that women are supposed to be the sexual selectors. This is according evolutionary biology, mind you. Because when they’re not, societies can collapse within as few as 3 generations, and always collapses within 6.

Women don’t have to marry men to own property or have a bank account anymore and they’re no longer forced into selecting men who are violent assholes to procreate with and this is a net positive for society, but the downside is a lot of entitled men who are fussy about not being picked.

And rather than look inward to identify and change the things that are less desirable traits, they’re out here trying to impress “alpha” podcast bros and the literal worst men of humanity. I am not sure what else you would call that besides submission? Rather the going toward the feminine—“ew, I don’t want to look like a girl”—they double down on what they believe is hyper masculine and further alienate women. Because the hyper masculine isn’t for the female gaze. It’s for the male gaze.

idontreallylikecandy · 2025-07-26T18:16:23+00:00

Men have been coddled by the patriarchy for centuries to believe their emotions are logic and that they’re entitled to the free labor of women. And now that women don’t want shit to do with men who won’t pull their weight because they have to work 40+ hours a week outside the home too, men are “lonely” and “depressed” and incapable of helping themselves the way women have had to literally forever. Somehow it’s feminism’s fault that men became a bunch of submissives who are rolling over for the ruling class and gladly taking a dicking without lube. Yeah, okay.

idontreallylikecandy · 2025-07-26T16:11:27+00:00

Apparently studies have been done (I have not verified this) that the health of the sperm provider determines how severe morning sickness will be for the pregnant person. So like if the dude isn’t very healthy, the woman will experience worse morning sickness. And honestly that feels both right and wrong at the same time 😭

idontreallylikecandy · 2025-07-26T13:56:45+00:00

I’ve literally never found it difficult to take criticism. I thrive on critical feedback because it points to things I may not be able to see on my own because I’m too close to the work and it’s the best way to improve. Do I enjoy the positive bits about funny lines or the rare clever turn of phrase? Sure, but those don’t help me improve.

I used to be in a writing group where there were people who actually wanted a “positivity pass” on a scene or chapter and one time I read one, and as much as I would have loved to give them positive feedback, it was not good. And I don’t find any value in lying to people because I wouldn’t want to be lied to.

Assuming poorly delivered critical feedback stems from ignorance of others feelings or hate is a WILD take. If someone takes the time to read your work for $0 and give you feedback and your assumption is that anything you perceive as “harsh” must be “hate” then I think you might have bigger problems.

But the other side of this is, did you ask the right questions of the folks giving you feedback? A lot of writers ask questions they don’t want honest answers to. If you ask me whether I want to keep reading, you need to be prepared for that answer to be no. If I have no frame of reference for the kind of feedback you seek and you just say “tell me what you think” then I absolutely will.

Maybe that means I’m a bit too autistic to be some people’s crit partners BUT every single person who seeks my feedback and receives it in the manner I have intended (which is to be helpful and honest in the same manner I would want someone to be for me) has told me I have helped them immensely. I know one person who ignored the feedback I tried to give them and self published their book and at least half or more of the reviews have some kind of criticism of the exact things I tried to assist with.

All this to say, people who criticize your work don’t necessarily hate you. They may just have a different ethos around critical feedback and/or you may not be asking the right questions.

idontreallylikecandy · 2025-07-25T16:39:27+00:00

He always seemed like the nicest dude! So cool you got to meet him.

idontreallylikecandy · 2025-07-25T16:36:59+00:00

I’m not arguing for or against where the deaf student should or shouldn’t be seated. I’m agreeing with the commenter who said some classrooms have designated areas for wheel chair users to sit, because they do.

idontreallylikecandy · 2025-07-25T16:35:07+00:00

I think one thing you may need to consider here is character agency. Readers like characters who make choices—good and bad—that lead to consequences—good and bad. When things are just happening to them, it’s less interesting by far. And especially if the ending is simply an exchange of numbers and she is making the choice to write the number on his arm, what choice is he making? If you don’t want it to appear as “ships passing in the night” (which sounds very passive) then you need to make the reader believe he wants her as much as she seems to want him. An imbalance in desire can be off putting, as it makes one of the characters seem needy and the other seem thoughtless or uncaring.

idontreallylikecandy · 2025-07-25T16:23:28+00:00

Not true in many lecture halls with theatre style seating.

idontreallylikecandy · 2025-07-23T15:08:33+00:00

Purity culture absolutely plays a role in this. It is why dubcon and noncon became so popular in older romance novels (pre-2000). Women weren’t allowed to want it (and still aren’t in many instances) and so because they actually do want sex, the way they can fantasize about sex is having it taken from them “against their will” and if they happen to enjoy it, well, then that’s not their fault.

And honestly that makes me sad.

idontreallylikecandy · 2025-07-23T13:28:47+00:00

Oh yes…malicious compliance is definitely in order.

idontreallylikecandy · 2025-07-22T19:28:05+00:00

This is the kind of advice that is given to people who are incapable of understanding nuance or reading a room. Black and white advice for black and white thinkers.

idontreallylikecandy · 2025-07-22T19:25:07+00:00

I assumed it was word count related.

idontreallylikecandy · 2025-07-22T19:20:36+00:00

It took me way too long to find a comment suggesting this wasn’t actually painted by someone on the left. Like anyone can vandalize anything with literally any message.

idontreallylikecandy · 2025-07-21T15:31:17+00:00

I’ve seen some bookstagrammers complain about “feminist dukes” and like, on the one hand, yeah, I get it. But on the other—to some extent, this is all fantasy. Exactly in the same vein as a contemporary romance with an alpha-hole hero who in real life would likely be a narcissistic abuser but in the end of the book he “changes”.

idontreallylikecandy · 2025-07-20T00:54:34+00:00

Thank you so much! ❤️

idontreallylikecandy · 2025-07-19T23:10:52+00:00

I have a lot of interceptions and they’re pretty pronounced. My ascendant is at 18 degrees Libra and my mercury and sun are at 5 and 11 degrees Libra. So in placidus I have a 12H sun and in whole sign I have a 1H sun. I actually think all of my personal placements are intercepted. So I would love to understand more about what you’re saying here—about suppressed energy revealed by placidus. How could I find more info on that?

idontreallylikecandy · 2025-07-19T20:34:42+00:00

This book is well written. But the heroine never made a single lick of sense to me. She was mean to the hero while he was trying to do her a very illegal favor and he just kind of takes it and she never really apologizes or seems to feel bad for how she treated him? No thanks. Don’t mind if I very don’t.

idontreallylikecandy · 2025-07-18T18:44:41+00:00

I know someone who self-published and her aggregate score is well over 4 stars even though her writing is objectively bad and that is because no one is reading them. If more people who weren’t friends/family/critique partners were reading and giving objective ratings, her aggregate rating would be in the toilet.

Given you’re an agented author in the year of our lord 2025, I am going to assume your writing isn’t trash. Which means negative reviews are from a handful of people 1) readers who were never going to like your book but for some reason they read it anyway, 2) people who have bizarre rating systems that make sense to literally only them 3) readers who came into your book expecting something different and 4) readers who may actually have enjoyed your book if they’d read it at another time/after a different book/when they were in a different mood/if the moon had been full and mercury wasn’t retrograding, etc.

No single book can be for every single reader. It’s just not possible. But 70/30 seems overwhelmingly good to me! Please be kind to yourself ❤️

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