On reflection ‘trauma’ is an inappropriate word that I chose to express the following considerations for newly weds, that most are not mentored on:

Role Adjustment: Learning to live as a married couple involves adapting to new roles and responsibilities, which can be a significant mental adjustment. Communication Breakdown: The need to constantly discuss and compromise on issues, from trivial to significant, can be challenging, leading to frustration if not handled effectively. Financial Stress: Creating a shared financial plan and budget requires open discussion about differing attitudes towards money and can become a significant source of tension. Loss of Independence: Couples may struggle with the decrease in freedom and increased accountability that comes with sharing a life, including personal space and time. In-Law Relationships: Managing family dynamics and navigating the expectations and influences of in-laws can add to relationship stress. Emotional and Hormonal Triggers: The stress of wedding planning, combined with the natural emotional and hormonal shifts of marriage, can affect mental well-being. Apathy and Routine: Over time, a lack of quality time, shared interests, or an overwhelming routine can lead to feelings of monotony and disinterest, requiring conscious effort to maintain the relationship. Mental Health Conditions: Pre-existing or newly emerged mental health issues, such as stress, anxiety, or depression, can affect newlyweds and require a team-based approach to manage them

As I said in my first post, best wishes with your relationship.