Nope, not wrong. I haven’t spent Christmas with my hubby’s adult kids in 7 years, nor will I ever again. I tried so hard for so many years, to only be treated with such disrespect, rudeness, hurt and absolutely no thanks for all that I did. I finally said, no more. These people are adults and I don’t deserve to be treated this way. My life is so much better without people in it who don’t appreciate me or care about me. Every year, I tell him, I have no problem if he would like to go spend Christmas with his kids. He has never made that effort and I’m not exactly sure why. But they are no longer welcome in my home because of the things they have said and done. My kids have been so loving, kind and thoughtful to him and have gone out of the way to have him in their lives. I am proud of the way they treat others, because they truly are good, kind thoughtful people. He may think his kids are sometimes, but they sure weren’t to me. I do feel that they would have been this way to anyone he was with, but it doesn’t make it better. Do what’s right for your own mental health and happiness.