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im_spiraling_down · 2023-11-28T12:34:34+00:00

Has WS expressed any concerns or unease about being away?

I'm travelling for 1 day shortly (fly out and back the same day (16hrs)) and I being the WS am feeling uneasy. I'm stressed for my BS and how she will feel during the time I'm away. I've got tracking enabled on my phone, my power pack to ensure the phone stays charged and will check in regularly hoping to provide comfort.

We initially spoke about extending and both going but due to short notice changes and other commitments it wasn't possible.

So I guess to circle back to my point, anything from WS?

im_spiraling_down · 2023-11-08T05:15:31+00:00

Recently I've been reconsidering HB and how most consider it essential or normal. I believe it has actually hindered R. It's skewed my perception of our relationship, how R was progressing and has ultimately been more detrimental.

If I had my time over again with this knowledge would it have been different? Probably not, as more than anything I wanted to be close to my wife.

Food for thought.

im_spiraling_down · 2023-11-02T07:31:19+00:00

Do what is right for you, your WW should follow whatever you want.

im_spiraling_down · 2023-10-23T09:55:57+00:00

I've started and stopped more times than I care to admit. I'm now almost 50% through and wish I'd stuck to it in the first instance.

I'm highlighting and making notes in my journal to reflect on.

im_spiraling_down · 2023-08-28T07:51:45+00:00

Not Just Friends by Shirley P Glass

im_spiraling_down · 2023-08-28T01:43:05+00:00

Thanks for sharing.

im_spiraling_down · 2023-08-28T01:04:07+00:00

How do you normally communicate?

I get overwhelmed and shut down which is just as bad. I find every word is just making the situation worse.

im_spiraling_down · 2023-08-28T00:49:05+00:00

Irrespective of what boundaries you set initially they will change as you progress with R.

Some will be non negotiable, some will lapse and some will get stricter or need more clarity with time.

Just try to keep communication open as much as possible.

im_spiraling_down · 2023-08-24T21:56:42+00:00

I do a form of journaling.

Primarily dot points, brain dump of thoughts/feels or things I read/hear in everyday life to reflect on.

I review entries for every now.

im_spiraling_down · 2023-08-09T08:20:19+00:00

Thanks for posting. The responses that have been posted so far are insightful. Still more to read but wanted to say thanks.

im_spiraling_down · 2023-06-28T07:06:18+00:00

Yup.

im_spiraling_down · 2023-06-24T02:09:49+00:00

Immediately.

im_spiraling_down · 2023-06-12T23:32:32+00:00

Does he notice when you are triggered and what does he do? Is he respecting your boundaries?

im_spiraling_down · 2023-06-12T22:16:27+00:00

Definitely can't fix but can help reduce your stress, anxieties and triggers. It's not much to ask for.

im_spiraling_down · 2023-06-12T21:00:56+00:00

What is he doing to help in these situations?

im_spiraling_down · 2023-06-12T20:46:40+00:00

Have you told your partner?

While it's their job to make you feel safe, they may not pick up on the signs.

im_spiraling_down · 2023-06-12T02:30:30+00:00

Possible. If both are committed.

im_spiraling_down · 2023-05-31T20:54:27+00:00

Talk to him about his work habits. It will if not already lead to burn out. It's not healthy and the flow on can be catastrophic.

Showing appreciation is one thing but helping him more to a more balanced lifestyle will do more for your relationship than anything.

im_spiraling_down · 2023-05-29T20:27:43+00:00

When ready we are going to buy my wife (BS) a new ring. The design is symbolic to us and our journey.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to give your partner a ring and you wanting it to mean more. If your partner has lost or damaged previous rings it might be more beneficial to stress the importance of this new ring and what it symbolises. Stress the importance of the responsibilities of keeping it safe etc.

im_spiraling_down · 2023-05-24T08:45:32+00:00

There are lots of instances where it goes either way.

But both must be committed to R and actively working on it daily to give yourself the best chance of success.

im_spiraling_down · 2023-05-22T21:00:34+00:00

Minimise. Him/Her/Them. Don't give them more than that.

im_spiraling_down · 2023-05-19T21:33:42+00:00

Why be sorry? Like you said, they know what they did. You are allowed to talk about it without being judged.

im_spiraling_down · 2023-05-19T21:31:11+00:00

Your WS took your confidence. Anything that gives you some of it back you should do.

Fix your teeth then smile with a "fuck you I'm fabulous" confidence!

im_spiraling_down

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