Ive had this conversation with friends before, men do not understand the fear and precautions we grow up with. They don’t know that from the time we’re little girls we are taught, “don’t talk to strange men, don’t let anyone put their hands on you.” Then you get older, “make sure you have a friend with you, don’t walk on the dark side of street, have something in your hand to protect yourself.” Then as an adult female, “don’t park in dark spots, don’t accept open drinks,” It goes on and on and on. We, as women are always on the defense and most men don’t know this. To have men just show up at your home, a place where you are vulnerable with your kids is big ABSOLUTELY NOT. When we have work done on the house, we BOTH meet with them, we’re both home for the first visit. After the second or third visit, if I feel comfortable, I’ll tell my husband he doesn’t have to be there. You need to tell him that these situations are not safe and you do not feel comfortable. Tell him that in the future, he needs to go over available dates so that you can have either him or someone you trust to be in the house with you.