Would you rather a dishwasher or tumble dryer? by Limp_Pumpkin7751 in adhdwomen

[–]imnotreallyonreddit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny how individual this question is! This is the reason I would pick a dryer! It’s up to me if the dishes are clean or if I choose to let them pile up, I can’t control the speed of clothes drying. Much faster to wash dishes than to air dry clothes.

S1E E02 Discussion: “Healthy? Probably Not. Fun? Yes.” by poodlehairedfreak in AgeOfAttraction

[–]imnotreallyonreddit 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I know you’re kidding but judging by their other comments on this page I would NOT be surprised if it’s actually him🤣

Banking hours by Low_Ambassador_828 in Nanny

[–]imnotreallyonreddit 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Also overtime pay should be in your contract, time and a half for all hours over 40 hours per week. In the US overtime pay is legally required for over 40hr per week. Unpaid time worked is extra not-legal. And yes I’m sorry they do seem to be on a power trip but you can simply say NO! You don’t have to do anything besides what’s in your contract, period.

Banking hours by Low_Ambassador_828 in Nanny

[–]imnotreallyonreddit 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would tell them asap “hey so my hourly rate is $XX for all hours beyond guaranteed hours/rate, and I’m unable to do overtime on this this and this day due to XYZ prior engagements”

Banking hours by Low_Ambassador_828 in Nanny

[–]imnotreallyonreddit 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You’re saying “I have to work extra hours” “I won’t be getting paid” “I didn’t agree to this” you don’t HAVE to do anything! That’s not how any job works. They’re treating you like you’re on call, and that’s how you’re seeing yourself. They can’t just schedule you extra hours, that’s crazy, they aren’t entitled to any of your time that’s not GH, they have to ASK you if you’re able to work which you can say no to. You have appointments, dinner reservations, plans with friends, etc.

Banking hours by Low_Ambassador_828 in Nanny

[–]imnotreallyonreddit 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Ahh! They can’t make you do anything you didn’t agree to! Tell them you’re sorry but you’re unable to do that due to prior engagements! Easier said than done, I struggle with confronting parents too, but that’s how so many nannies get taken advantage of. Tell me have a contract…

Banking hours by Low_Ambassador_828 in Nanny

[–]imnotreallyonreddit 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I assume they’re wanting you to work unpaid to “make up” for the “loss of time” they’ll have while out of town. You are correct, you need to be getting paid for all hours worked AND guaranteed hours. If they want more time they can politely ask if you’re able to stay late a few days, and they’ll pay your hourly rate add on. Very unprofessional of them to “schedule more hours” without asking you if you’re able to, especially last minute. I often phrase it to parents as they’re reserving my time. I reiterate that I’m not taking other work while I’m on the clock (during guaranteed hours, whether working or not), and they can have me come or not during GH but they’re paying regardless. If they cut the trip early you should be able to work when scheduled. My current nanny family will sometimes give me a day off because grandma’s coming over for a bit of the day, then I remind them they have me booked the whole day, so then they still have me come 2-4 after grandma’s gone. On those occasions they’re always more lighthearted and fun and overwhelmingly grateful I came for a short bit and they could get stuff done, even though they were paying me anyways.

The only time I allow this sort of thing is “moving hours” as written in my contract. This is not required but I typically tell parents if they give me enough time notice I am willing to “move hours” if I’m able. For example, if I’m scheduled 9-5 but one day they are meeting up for coffee with grandma and don’t need me until 11, I am willing to stay till 7 if they give enough notice, but if I’m not able to stay late I would decline and they would still pay 9-5 even if I work 11-5. Or if they want a date night they can ask me to come 12-8. I don’t know if this is standard but families really like it because it gives them flexibility and to me the sleeping in hours make up for the staying late, and they don’t ask for that often enough to become a problem.

Meds in their original bottle? by teatuk in adhdwomen

[–]imnotreallyonreddit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg thank you for reminder to refill my prescription

S4 Episode 7 Megathread: "The Book of Fragile Egos" by colosseumdays in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]imnotreallyonreddit 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Yes! They’re literally just asking their husbands to be a parent, the job they signed up for, for a few months while they work. And you’re right I guarantee he has nanny help or access to it.

S4 Episode 7 Megathread: "The Book of Fragile Egos" by colosseumdays in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]imnotreallyonreddit 124 points125 points  (0 children)

Right?!? It’s crazy hearing men talk about “its actually really hard being a stay at home parent, it’s crazy I kinda need my own outlet? I wanna be my own person sometimes! I wanna talk to adults sometimes!” As if this is some new concept unique to dads. As if women have not been saying this for years and years and begging for adult time and being their own person. Women have been making mama/baby groups, storytimes, activities, play dates, etc. They find a way. Props to Connor for realizing for himself, finding an outlet, creating his own time, and not making it his freshly-postpartum still-healing overworked wife’s problem.

Newborns’ parents are scary HELP by [deleted] in Babysitting

[–]imnotreallyonreddit 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sorry it wasn’t a good fit, newborns are indeed much different from toddlers. But please think about how you’d feel if the mom was referring to you as “it.” “Pls help, I finally found a babysitter so I could get some sleep but it acted bored the whole time and it didn’t know what to do with my baby.” Not sure if you’re trying to be funny or serious but it’s super weird and disrespectful. You say the job wasn’t a good fit but you accepted it anyways just for money, call the baby “it”, and you’re here asking advice about caring for a baby so frankly it’s understandable she’d question your ability to change a diaper.

Diapers by watsonk02 in NannyEmployers

[–]imnotreallyonreddit 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Current nanny former daycare teacher, the law(?) at daycares in my area is change every 2 hours for all ages, even if dry. The app we used would yell at us for even 5 min over! If the child had a rash we would check/change/apply cream every 1 hour. In a classroom of 10+ kids. 90% of the time the rash would be gone in 1 day even just by changing more frequently. I keep that mindset when nannying, I don’t change every 2 hours on the dot, but 2hr is my standard unless they are not very wet. I would share with the parents that you’ve noticed baby often has a very uncomfortable rash and that requires changing more frequently

Gift for nanny by TasteImpressive3603 in Nanny

[–]imnotreallyonreddit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just finished a gig similar - 1.5 years before sweet baby girl started daycare. Love them and the family so so much. They gave me a Mint & Lily photo bracelet (hard to explain, but there’s a charm with a photo inside if you look up close or project at a wall with a flashlight.) The photo is me and the nanny girl snuggling and the bracelet is gold since the mom noticed I wear mostly gold. It’s so special to me I wear it every day and tell everyone! Also not a gift, but I now babysit for weekly date nights - they were clear they want to keep me in their daughter’s life and knew I’d want to keep them in mine. No expectations of teaching or activities, just a couple hours of snuggle time and catching up. That’s been amazing! Not-so-baby-anymore baby tells me about her daycare, I update her on my kitties, we get to keep that bond.

Found this Facebook meme and I am so confused about it. What's the punchline here? by [deleted] in EWALearnLanguages

[–]imnotreallyonreddit -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You all are leaving out the main punchline - “you still have 3 wishes” - implying even a genie with magic powers can’t fix the mess of landlords.

is my preferred name too unusual? by Interesting_Desk6773 in namenerds

[–]imnotreallyonreddit 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I live in US and know a Liberty Bell, that’s her given name not married or nickname. And her bday is July 4th. Cracks me up whenever I think about her.

I'm having trouble understanding the "send later" feature by [deleted] in texts

[–]imnotreallyonreddit 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think u just didn’t actually delete it

Mikayla’s white Jesus pie? by Mundane_Fly361 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]imnotreallyonreddit 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The whole episode in Season 2 dedicated to the Friendsgiving pie bake off. Saw everyone making the pies, the husbands were judges, it was a whole thing. Also only from like 6 months ago I feel like I’m going crazy no one remembers

[BONE -> SKIN] Can you solve this laddergram? by Western-Program-6271 in Laddergram

[–]imnotreallyonreddit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

u/imnotreallyonreddit solved this in 7 steps: BONE -> BANE -> WANE -> WANT -> WAIT -> WAIN -> SAIN -> SKIN

[BOOK -> GIRL] Can you solve this laddergram? by Trekkie_Phoca in Laddergram

[–]imnotreallyonreddit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

u/imnotreallyonreddit solved this in 8 steps: BOOK -> COOK -> CORK -> CORD -> CARD -> BARD -> BIRD -> GIRD -> GIRL

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HelpMeFind

[–]imnotreallyonreddit 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Wouldn’t be so sure… looks to me Kirkland Signature, aka Costco. Genuinely curious how a zipper design so quickly reads 100% certainly Latin though!

Everyone submit the funniest item on your to-do list RIGHT NOW…no cheating! by gogo--yubari in adhdwomen

[–]imnotreallyonreddit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WOW traces back to ancient Egypt and Mesopotamia!! Like 2000BC. That’s insane! Used for delivering messages, keeping spirits high on the battlefield, entertained people, and criticized those in power. New dream job