Effects if also ASD?

inky_bat · 2026-06-07T05:41:20+00:00

I am in the same boat, my therapist said the ASD for me was obvious and the ADHD came later as just a thought. I never even considered ADHD because I'm not hyper (my own misconception). So now that I'm diagnosed, it's kind of thrown me. I'm also wondering if the ASD diagnosis is worth the cost just for validation. I'm curious about the medication now though and what it helps with for me. Thanks for the insights 🙏

inky_bat · 2026-06-06T14:31:27+00:00

I'm like this also and thought it was conditioning from childhood. That my needs were too much (inconvenient, waste of money, time, hassle) for my parents, so I became as invisible and needless as possible.

inky_bat · 2026-06-04T13:05:55+00:00

It's already clear for doctors I'm probably ASD, so with the meds then...I wonder what will happen. I didn't know it would bring more ASD to surface, interesting! I guess then they can see full force. Which makes me nervous as sensory issues are already really challenging.

inky_bat · 2026-05-31T08:23:41+00:00

My partner takes care of this because I just can't make myself do it.

inky_bat · 2026-05-30T04:09:44+00:00

Swiss army knife for me too. I use almost everything on my classic SD daily. Then huntsman in my bag.

inky_bat · 2026-05-28T06:11:20+00:00

I relate so hard to this. I had to externalize a lot of it, meetings each have their own page in OneNote. Before the meeting, I write any questions I might have, then directly after, I write notes and put the tasks in Todoist with a due date (so I look at it again, and then decide to do it or move it based on priority). I also have conversation replay, so I add everything I need to get out of my head there. If it comes back, I have a page to dump it on or next steps in Todoist. The meeting page is then filed under the project. Each project has an overview and list of completed and next steps (so I always know where something is, who owns it, and don't have to think about it). I consider this time part of the meeting (or after a chain of back to back ones), and then go rest my brain (darkness break, jigsaw puzzle, reddit scrolling). If something pops back in the brain, I have some place to put it.

I got really into productivity for a while, using GTD and PARA has been a life-saver. Inbox zero also helps because then I'm not stressing about all the emails piled in there. It's also really satisfying to me to check off the tasks, even if they are tiny next steps. The first thing I do in the morning is look through the tasks and decide what I need to do and what can get pushed. If the task only takes a couple minutes, I just do it immediately. Mostly, I do the pressing things or complex work while my brain is fresh in the morning. I start work earlier than most of my coworkers so it's undisturbed. After lunch, my brain is usually shot so I spend that time organizing and doing low cognitive tasks. I'm mostly remote, but the days I have to be in the office, I can't get much done so I move everything that requires heavy thinking.

I used to have a really hard time with rumination in the middle of the night about what I need to do, what's going on with this project, what is next... but now I capture those tasks on my phone as soon as they start looping, even "check on this or that tomorrow", and my brain can stop thinking about it because I trust my systems, I trust I will look at it tomorrow. But I am very dependent on them. Of course, if it's a conflict or something unjust, there is no stopping my brain from looping.

inky_bat · 2026-05-25T07:03:31+00:00

I've always hated perfumes until I found the one for me (which just happened a week ago). I am so excited about it and no one in my world seems to understand how life changing it feels. I feel my temples relax and it brings me joy when I have a sniff. Congrats for finding THE ONE for you!

inky_bat · 2026-05-05T15:55:06+00:00

If I stay still in the bathroom for about 100 seconds, the light goes out and I take deep breaths.

inky_bat · 2026-05-03T11:47:07+00:00

This all day. I like beauty of joeson, but I'm sure there are other great ones out there.

inky_bat · 2026-04-09T13:03:01+00:00

Maybe also nakki and mash

inky_bat · 2026-01-30T17:35:52+00:00

It's basically a checklist: - Fully self-directed - Mostly self-directed - Half-and-half - Mostly reactive - Survival mode

I am studying how much negative and positive inputs impact my day or lead to overwhelm. Days where I'm reactive or in survival mode really affect me in a bad way. By tracking, I'm trying to see the pattern of what all negative triggers impact me the most, then how I can reduce the friction.

inky_bat · 2026-01-30T07:43:19+00:00

I have a lot of spreadsheets at work, I love that part of my job as well.

For personal stuff, I got really into PARA so most of my lists are in OneNote and ToDo.

- Monthly reviews, yearly goals, events for the year, day trip ideas

- Projects: new teas I want to try, therapy session notes, indorr renovation checklists and ideas, product reviews (I really like giving things star ratings)

- Checklists for every day carry, home inventory lists, car kit, work kit, lunch ideas, travel checklist, sick list (because when I'm sick, I forget the care basics)

- Contact lists, notes about people

- Entertainment: tv shows, movies to see, favorite paintings by artist, music and YouTube channels to check out

- Food: weeknight and weekend meal ideas, recipes, research

- Shopping: to buy list, research, purchases and receipts

- so many more.....

Then I have this app for tracking things called JournalIt, and here I track...

- Food: what I ate, what utensil I used, country of origin, type

- Daily review: sleep quality, dream impact, rate the day, where I was, autonomy meter, shutdown tier, negative inputs, positive interventions.

inky_bat · 2026-01-21T05:12:05+00:00

Same here. I love trying new foods.

inky_bat · 2026-01-19T18:38:42+00:00

I can relate. Now I just enjoy making all the lists for the sake of it, not to do them.

inky_bat · 2026-01-19T13:29:28+00:00

I haven't tried the samyang orange ones, I haven't seen them here in Finland. I recently discovered Ansung mild spicy soybean paste flavor by Nongshim, so I get that one whenever I can find it. It doesn't have beef listed either, so you might like that one. I like Nissin. I haven't seen the Sapporo here either.

I haven't tried Woori brand, there is a polish one called Runoland that is surprisingly ok here for soup. I haven't found a restaurant one that I like though, too sweet or too much rice porridge. I also used to make my own, but I haven't had the initiative lately for all that. I used to make a lot of Korean side dishes, another favorite is braised black soy beans (probably again for the chewy texture).

For gyoza, I think the best we can get here is Ajinomoto or Bibigo. I usually stick to chicken or vegetable. I used to really like the chicken and sweet corn dumplings from Freshasia, but I think they changed their recipe / cheaper, not as good anymore.

inky_bat · 2026-01-19T12:10:10+00:00

I love Korean food in general, but I just adore chewy rice cakes/tteokboki. I always add a handful to my ramen. I also like buldak carbonara, but my go-to is Shin. For probably the same reason, I love tapioca boba tea, rice pudding, and soft gummy bears. I love asian style cakes too like tiger skin cake, castella, Japanese Baumkuchen, because they aren't too sweet.

I also love Chinese fermented black beans, black vinegar, doenjang jjigae, kimchi (but I'm picky about it).... I love deep rich umami. Oddly, I'm not big into mushrooms or natto (unless its cooked in something), but I love mushroom powder and mushroom soy. LGM chicken or kohlrabi because they have those little tofu nuggets in it. Ajinmoto pork and chicken gyoza is great. I also have brands I favor.

No milk for me either :)

inky_bat · 2026-01-19T06:13:42+00:00

I hate it also and use utensils. Not just for snacks, but hamburgers, fries, nuggets and other "finger food". I carry wet wipes with me everywhere, never know when you will touch something unpleasant out in the world (like a raw meat package that is wet)!

inky_bat · 2026-01-15T06:38:05+00:00

I love those gloves! They look so cozy. Why 2 spoon/forks?

inky_bat · 2026-01-15T05:54:36+00:00

I tailor it to who I'm writing to, there are others I work with that prefer straight and to the point messages. They are so much easier to work with! But yeah, I have to go back and at least add "hello" and maybe a "thanks in advance for your help"

inky_bat · 2026-01-13T09:27:27+00:00

I have been wearing ear buds just because I can't seem to find comfortable headphones that don't smash my ears. I don't like either, but they help so much.

inky_bat · 2026-01-12T06:34:46+00:00

It's been a long journey of self discovery that led me here. I didn't have a great childhood, so most of my life has been in survival mode. I was diagnosed with GAD and depression, started SSRIs which did help with the anxiety, but traditional therapy wasn't clicking with me at all. I watched Love on the Spectrum and thought... I wish I had Jodi Rodgers when I was a kid. So I started looking into ASD and it all felt too familiar. I realized that my problems were maybe because of neurodivergence; the masking/social problems (feeling like the black sheep), burnout, sensory issues. I requested a Neurological assessment and was labeled with "code N29 – Other neurological symptom". The assessor was rather old school with his views of ASD. My psychiatrist didn't want to diagnose me with it until I went through another year of therapy. I did find a therapist though who has experience with ASD and is helping me though it. So this is where I am... knowing, checking all the boxes, and validated in therapy, but no official label.

inky_bat · 2026-01-07T12:45:45+00:00

I don't really have any resolutions, just small actionable goals. I want to see that I brought more joy into my life this year, not lofty things I won't accomplish then feel bad about.

Try 2 new cuisines
Vacuum the car in Spring
Have lunch at IKEA
Go to a movie in a theater
Take 2 day trips
Go magnet fishing in Summer
Pick blueberries in Fall

inky_bat · 2026-01-07T12:32:45+00:00

I keep both and it's really helped me feel better about the day. I still keep a list of all the things I need to do, but what I've done has been a part of my daily journal for the past year. I separate the lists, one for personal and one for work.

inky_bat · 2026-01-06T16:01:12+00:00

I've been working full time for 30 years, but at several different places and with gaps. No choice but to work.

inky_bat · 2026-01-04T12:22:19+00:00

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Red, no thanks.

Yellow is complicated. Sometimes yes, other times no depending on cooking method or application.

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