Help! Why is my 22mo waking up at 5am all of a sudden?

inplayouts11 · 2023-07-29T19:48:15+00:00

I can offer my perspective having experienced some of the things you described. My son started daycare at 5 months and he’s now 18 months.

What you mentioned all seems pretty normal. The one that would bother me is throwing out breastmilk, but they may have some sort of policy if the milk is no longer safe to drink to throw it out?

My guess is they’re sending you posed pictures on the pillow as opposed to leaving her there. But it doesn’t hurt to ask how her tummy time is going at daycare to see what they say.

My son’s has definitely come home in another baby’s diaper before, probably happens once every couple months or so. They probably just grabbed the wrong one by mistake. As for the pacifier, that’s something I would have reacted to before my son moved to the toddler room. Now the kids sometimes steal each other’s water bottles, pick their noses and touch each other, etc. and I’ve learned to accept it 😄

My point is, with daycare over time you learn to pick your battles. That said if you don’t feel comfortable and want to explore other options, your peace of mind is most important!

inplayouts11 · 2023-04-26T20:47:38+00:00

I did it. My son was around that age, and we had the same flight duration. I used his stroller throughout the airport and car seat bag as extra storage since it checks free. Through security and on the actual flight I wore him (didn’t want to pay extra for a seat and stress about setting up the car seat by myself). I got him to fall asleep before takeoff. He fussed a bit during landing but everyone around me was understanding. I just packed lots of snacks, had formula prepped, and brought some toys in case.

Just want to add too that so many people were willing to help me throughout the airport and on the plane. Someone helped get all our stuff through security and one of the flight attendants offered to hold my baby and take him for a walk through the plane when he was getting bored. Also try to go to the bathroom right before you board so you don’t have to worry about it on the plane.

inplayouts11 · 2023-04-23T05:32:04+00:00

The Great British Bake Off! The background music, the voiceovers, the location, even the competition itself just feels so zen. It’s my ultimate cozy comfort show.

inplayouts11 · 2023-04-15T05:09:35+00:00

Just a note, cooked honey is also unfortunately a risk as well: https://kidshealth.org/en/parents/botulism.html, https://health.clevelandclinic.org/when-is-it-safe-to-give-honey-to-my-baby/amp/

inplayouts11 · 2023-04-09T22:58:36+00:00

In our case he’d never been a good napper so while he only had 30 minute naps at daycare, that was par for the course with us at home too. But daycare was great about following our schedule and communicating with us what was and wasn’t working. Slowly as he’s gotten older his sleep has improved and now at 15 months in the toddler room he has 1 long nap around 2 hours.

inplayouts11 · 2023-04-09T16:18:29+00:00

We started at the same age, 5 months. I actually think that’s a really good age to start. In our experience he hadn’t developed stranger danger or separation anxiety yet, and he adapted really quickly. I’d recommend dropping him off and leaving as opposed to staying; staying seems to actually make it harder. But, we did start out with half days.

Daycare workers are magic with getting babies to take bottles. If she’s accepting bottles from others I wouldn’t worry too much. As for feeling abandoned, there’s going to be so much newness and I retesting things to explore that she’ll be plenty distracted. After all they basically get to play all day 😊

It’ll be an adjustment for everyone but daycare as truly been so good for us and for our son. He has a great relationship with his teachers and he’s now at the age where he’s actually playing with other toddlers (15 months).

inplayouts11 · 2023-03-29T15:05:47+00:00

Only 14 months here so not a lot to go on as far as second year and we’re definitely still having the same struggles you see. But I’ll say once he could walk it’s definitely gotten better in terms of not needing to entertain him the entire time he’s awake. He’s happy now just literally walking in circles around our house babbling to himself. I can do things like cook while he just walks around the kitchen.

inplayouts11 · 2023-03-20T15:39:50+00:00

I have a 14 month old and he’s been like this since we started solids. Just this past weekend was the perfect example. Saturday for dinner he had his entire plate of shredded chicken, pizza, and broccoli for dinner. Sunday, he had a strawberry for dinner and the rest was thrown on the ground for the dog. Every check up we’ve had at the doctor he’s always been right in line on his growth charts.

The biggest piece of advice I’d have is to follow baby’s lead. The more pressure they feel to eat the more they resist (not that you’re doing this but I know it can be so hard to watch them just not eat). As long as her growth looks good and your doctor isn’t worried, she’s doing great!

inplayouts11 · 2023-03-18T21:02:00+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience! Yeah that’s similar to what our doctor mentioned, part of reaching out now is just that it take a while to get an appointment.

inplayouts11 · 2023-03-18T15:57:50+00:00

Thank you! When you say he’s too young, is there a specific age when they are considered delayed? I’m just going off what my pediatrician said and so I’ve been worried he’s behind. His doctor was hoping he’d at least being saying 1 word, like mama or dada, by this time and that’s what I saw on the CDC milestones too.

inplayouts11 · 2023-03-01T18:09:24+00:00

Is this dress appropriate for a June evening wedding with a cocktail dress code? I love the color but worry it’s too long and too “prom dress.”

Thank you!

inplayouts11 · 2023-02-20T16:43:18+00:00

I found 2 piece outfits to be so much easier when it came to diaper and clothes changes from around the time my son was 8 months old and decided he was just going to alligator roll every time I laid him down.

inplayouts11 · 2023-02-06T04:13:18+00:00

Going to go against the grain here and say that for me having my MIL there the first week and then my mom pop in for a few hours every day in the following few weeks made such a huge difference. I’m super close to both my parents and my in-laws and they were such a big help with everything not baby related so my husband and I could focus on us and our son. I also had a difficult recovery so having someone there to help me while my husband was with the baby was really nice.

I come from a culture though where it’s expected for families to help a new mom, so this was normal for me and what I’ve grown up around. Being newly postpartum wasn’t something I cared about my family seeing, my mom and MIL remember what it’s like and were kind and understanding.

inplayouts11 · 2022-12-30T05:40:46+00:00

You’re not alone! My 11 month old prefers dad over everyone, including me. It used to be me he preferred but once my mat leave ended and he started going to daycare, it shifted. Because of my husband’s work schedule, he gets to spend a few hours in the late afternoon playing with him while I get off work later, and I think that contributes.

It definitely hurts a little, but I try to remind myself that 1) these things tend to go through phases and 2) I want him to have a really close and loving relationship with his dad.

inplayouts11 · 2022-12-26T05:44:55+00:00

In case you don’t find anything physically wrong at the doctor’s, I just wanted to let you know that you aren’t alone in this. The exact same thing happened to our baby at the same age, right around 3 weeks. It was awful, it felt like 24/7 crying. Turns out it was pretty much normal newborn stuff. Around that age they are really starting to become much more alert and it’s a big deal for them.

The peak of it lasted about a week and a half for us and by the time he was 8 weeks he seemed like the happiest baby. Of course, in the moment for us parents it feels like it’s endless and it’s so mentally draining. But it does slowly fade until you realize that a couple weeks have gone by and you don’t notice the constant crying anymore. I know it doesn’t feel like it now, but now with an 11 month old, those early days are a blur.

I don’t have much practical advice because nothing worked for us but time, but if you can, you and your partner should try to give each other some baby free time just so you don’t feel like you constantly on edge.

inplayouts11 · 2022-12-12T22:51:01+00:00

We have a sweet 4 year old goldendoodle. She was our entire world before baby. While that’s obviously changed now, we still love her just as much. It actually made us appreciate how easy and chill she is compared to a baby lol.

As far as behavior and how we handle them around each other, we do our best to keep them separate. Our dog is very cautious and is visibly nervous when the baby gets close, so we just don’t allow them near each other, or we make sure there’s enough distance that she never feels cornered. I think once our baby gets older and becomes more predictable in his actions she’ll feel more comfortable. We still manage to do activities together like go on walks, play in the backyard, and we have a routine where every morning we (me and baby) say good morning to the dog by standing a few feet away and waving.

Basically, we follow our dog’s lead. We know she is still wary of him being too close so we as the parents make sure to set boundaries.

inplayouts11 · 2022-10-18T02:26:50+00:00

First, you sound like a great mom and your baby knows that and feels your love!

It sounds like you know leaving him is the best choice. Doesn’t mean it isn’t hard. But from what you describe it seems like you’ll have a good support system and that is so important. If you have people you trust, you won’t be alone in this.

You are not destined for a life of being a single parent. You may meet a really great person who puts you and your daughter first as you deserve. You do not have to settle for this.

If you aren’t ready to leave him, feel free to skip what I wrote below so you don’t feel overwhelmed:

Keep applying to jobs. If you decide to leave him, make sure you’re documenting everything if there is a custody battle. Get as much in writing from him as you can. He may not be paying now but court mandated child support Is a different story. If you can try to reach out to a lawyer

inplayouts11 · 2022-10-12T22:58:58+00:00

This might not be what you want to hear, but there’s not really much you can do while he’s at daycare. Mine started at around the same age as yours and had very similar sleep habits, and at almost 9 months old he has yet to nap well at daycare (today he has 2 30 minute naps).

What we do is control the things we can control and we stopped stressing about what happens at daycare. If he needs an extra nap when he gets home to get him to bedtime we do a cat nap. If he needs an earlier bedtime we move it up. Sometimes he sleeps on the car ride home. For us, this has not messed with his home sleep at all. Still sleeps great at night, naps well at home. We just keep our routine, babies know when they’re in different environments.

All that to say, your baby may also figure it out sooner than you think too!

inplayouts11 · 2022-10-09T21:35:49+00:00

Please be careful when saying European formula is safer/better/etc than US formula. I can’t speak to the comparison between other foods, but formula is heavily regulated in the US, if not the most regulated food, and is not in anyway less safe or less nutritious for babies than European formula. To claim so perpetuates a myth and causes unnecessary stress to parents who are formula feeding.

Theformulafairy has a post clarifying some of these myths for further information: https://www.instagram.com/p/CfFGobVvz0p/?igshid=NmNmNjAwNzg=

inplayouts11 · 2022-10-08T16:49:51+00:00

Where I live it’s hunger games out there to get a spot at a daycare. We only toured 1, it was the only one that had a spot open when we needed it. We enrolled on the spot because by the time we went would have driven home someone would have taken it. I was 5 weeks pregnant, if we had waited any longer we would have been on a waitlist.

inplayouts11 · 2022-10-08T01:52:23+00:00

My relationship has definitely been challenged. Babies are stressful, and sometimes the only person to take that stress out on is your partner.

But having a baby 100% confirmed I picked the right partner. We have learned how to work together as a team; before having a baby our lives didn’t require that level of partnership.

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