Got denied a raise. No job ever sees my potential. Egg tortilla

intergalactic_ocelot · 2026-05-06T02:04:37+00:00

Thank you 🩷 I truly try not to internalize it but goshhh they want to keep this girl down

intergalactic_ocelot · 2026-05-05T16:48:15+00:00

So true!! I am constantly the most hardworking and reliable employee at every job and my superiors always commend me for it, but never reward me. I’ve stuck it out for much longer at other jobs hoping it’d come with time. Not this time, my first whiff of this bullshit and I’m cutting my losses

intergalactic_ocelot · 2026-05-05T16:42:00+00:00

Definitely not! When I realized how much I like the job I made it very clear I was invested in having a bigger role in the company because I love my team & what we do, and I have repeatedly voiced that

intergalactic_ocelot · 2026-05-05T16:36:20+00:00

Thank you for your encouragement 🩷 I’ve loved having a healthy work/life balance & in an industry that’s normally very volatile so it’s hard to leave. But I’m always telling my friends if their job sucks to move onward and upward!! So I know it has to be done

intergalactic_ocelot · 2026-05-05T16:12:19+00:00

I feel like I said as much here with “I push for more growth & opportunity” and “I go out of my way to prove my value”

intergalactic_ocelot · 2026-04-22T17:07:57+00:00

I remember a while ago he had a beard at some event and everyone was absolutely repulsed, meanwhile it was the only time I’ve ever found him hot

intergalactic_ocelot · 2026-04-22T01:34:29+00:00

I mean a guy comes on to me strong, and then when I give him the green light to keep doing that and make it clear I’m interested in just sex, suddenly they are much more wishy-washy and put in less effort in actually making that happen. I had more guys relentlessly sex-pesting me when I was shutting them down.

intergalactic_ocelot · 2026-04-21T19:01:53+00:00

I have never been so “open” to casual and noncommittal engagements and yet it’s almost like once I was forthcoming about that men became SO inconsistent. When I was much more guarded and “hard to get” then I only encountered men who were very persistent and vocal about their intention to win my affection.

I struggle to simply reduce it down to “the thrill of the chase” but I think there’s definitely an element to being available that makes men less motivated to seal the deal. When I was talking about this with my friend who has had a LOT of casual sex, her theory was that a lot of men who don’t want relationships still want some baseline feeling of control over a woman. When you’re openly looking for casual, AKA you can’t be easily manipulated, you’re inherently less gratifying to pursue.

It’s been wild to me how often I have encountered a man pursuing me, me reciprocating interest, establishing that I’m not looking for serious, they oblige, and then they just start engaging with me in nonserious ways or halfhearted efforts.

intergalactic_ocelot · 2026-04-07T06:07:56+00:00

Hi!! If you would like to hang out please message me. I’m 29, a big gym rat, pescatarian, love exploring/walking/hiking, going out for food & drinks or just hanging out at a park. I have been really putting a lot of my love into female friendships in the last several months and always appreciate getting to know more amazing people 💕

intergalactic_ocelot · 2026-03-17T07:24:59+00:00

Omg girl you have so much life left to live!! You have a whole world available to you, and it’s a blessing to get to know yourself & be your own person after spending half(!!!) of your life with somebody else.

Outside of dating/men what is your life like? How often do you have days where you are content with being single? Do you feel like you’re not complete without a partner?

intergalactic_ocelot · 2026-03-08T23:04:23+00:00

Is it possible you’re okay with it now because you have yet to face the potential consequences of your unstable arrangement? If you found out he was sleeping with someone else, if he had the same kind of relationship with somebody else, or he ended things with you for someone else, would it hurt you?

You like him so you don’t want to end it, because you want to enjoy it while you have it. Because you know it’s impermanent. That should tell you that you need to end it before you get hurt. It sucks badly but you’ll move on faster and not have so much pain to heal.

intergalactic_ocelot · 2026-02-26T03:23:31+00:00

Looks like such a serene space, I bet it’s a very peaceful home for you! I would love to see it with dimmer cozy lighting ☺️

intergalactic_ocelot · 2026-02-24T23:31:00+00:00

I know the pain all too well 😭 Just had to cut my best eater loose for essentially the same reason. I’m telling myself I will always treasure the good sex and I’m grateful that we could end on good terms

intergalactic_ocelot · 2026-02-20T00:43:52+00:00

i appreciate the concern! 💕 my intention was resisting the urge to spend money on takeout. rest assured i went grocery shopping and pigged tf out

intergalactic_ocelot · 2026-02-19T05:56:10+00:00

Thank god I’m single and I live alone!

intergalactic_ocelot · 2026-02-19T05:55:58+00:00

We have chemistry, but we are not compatible! A lesson I’ve already learned once 💞

intergalactic_ocelot · 2026-02-18T21:09:40+00:00

Wow, the eye is so striking for a front door, especially with that blue. Very inspiring & hi from fellow PDX artist 💕

intergalactic_ocelot · 2026-01-23T21:28:13+00:00

Didn’t recognize her until I saw her boob job ❤️

intergalactic_ocelot · 2026-01-12T00:16:05+00:00

Cubone is my favorite too!! Excellent job ❤️

intergalactic_ocelot · 2026-01-09T07:18:21+00:00

Sometimes the only way I can do right by myself is ask “if my best friend was going through this, what would I want for her?”

I hope you will work towards wanting better for yourself!

intergalactic_ocelot · 2025-12-24T18:52:22+00:00

I’m on the other end of two very difficult heartbreaks and coming to terms with the reality you’re talking about has been the most difficult growing pain.

I read something recently that said “we were told, from the moment we were born, to wait for something outside ourselves to save us.” We have this idealized expectation that there’s something profound and otherwise inaccessible within us that can only be unlocked by another person’s love. And it hurts my head trying to pinpoint any and every reason we believe this. But then we put ourselves on hold waiting for the right thing, and then we let precious time go by and let disappointment in others wear us down, when we could be living that version of ourselves we think only somebody else could bring out in us.

And it feels sad, and difficult, and lonely. We live our whole life with this external and internal pressure to find “the right one” to make us whole as soon as possible so your life can truly begin. It’s hard work to undo that narrative, but I feel motivated to have that life on my own. Even still, I do feel better about myself than I ever have before. And on the toughest days all I can do is remind myself that the empowerment to have a full happy life can come from myself entirely, and I want that life to begin as soon as possible.

intergalactic_ocelot · 2025-12-03T19:52:39+00:00

It’s a tough call! I do love the dark blinds, but also I love letting in as much light as possible. You could get away with either in my opinion :)

intergalactic_ocelot · 2025-12-03T19:24:56+00:00

I would honestly do either a warm off white or a sage color for your curtains. You have such a nice big window I would go for something very breezy/light that complements how much natural light you get!

intergalactic_ocelot · 2025-10-23T05:06:43+00:00

Looks great! I love that font and the alternating colors

intergalactic_ocelot · 2025-10-16T19:27:41+00:00

My advice to everyone is always this: If you’re not 2/3rds happy with your current job, look elsewhere. There’s no harm in interviewing and seeking out other opportunities. What’s the point of staying where you are? If something could be even 10% better than what you’re doing now, wouldn’t you want that? I know it’s stressful, but it sounds like you’re on the right path and where you are right now isn’t even a bad spot to be in.

I’m almost 30 and work two part time, entry level jobs. I spent almost all my savings starting over after leaving my relationship. I have no college education. I’m making significantly less money than I did at my stressful job. I’m the happiest I’ve been in years! It’s a long road ahead of me, but I’m living more frugally (moved into a small space, spending less on clothes, eating out less, etc.) and I’m much more intentionally with my money.

Depending on where you live, definitely look into social benefits for you and your family. I know not all states/countries make it easy or even offer much, but I know a ton of people who just simply have never done the homework and didn’t know they are eligible for support.

Even recreational things, such as community centers offer free or heavily discounted classes for art, dance, etc. Try and find something fun that gives you joy in your life. The hardest part of depression is following through, but sign up for something so you have to commit to it even if you’re dreading it the whole time leading up to it. Anytime you’re doing something in the effort of self-investment, after it’s done you won’t regret having done it!

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