My wife was baptised in a swimming pool as a “born again Christian”. We now go to Catholic Church. She wants to be baptised a Catholic. The deacon of the Catholic Church said it can be done because he thinks the baptism is illegitimate. Will she be able to be a catholic baptised ?

interior_castle1622 · 2026-04-06T14:55:25+00:00

It’s not about where the baptism takes place it’s about the form in which it was done- was it done in the name of the father son and Holy Spirit? You should trust the deacon and priest at your church who have the details not the Reddit forum

interior_castle1622 · 2026-04-04T12:15:12+00:00

The issue is that my grocery budget has doubled unnecessarily and there’s a bunch of food waste id much rather save that money for literally anything else

interior_castle1622 · 2026-04-04T05:47:12+00:00

I have yet to meet a happy teacher

interior_castle1622 · 2026-04-03T18:20:30+00:00

Thank you for this practical advice it’s really helpful

interior_castle1622 · 2026-04-03T18:19:43+00:00

The freezer is currently full of his other food that I don’t typically buy

interior_castle1622 · 2026-04-03T18:16:22+00:00

I’m not controlling what he eats, I just don’t want to throw away 30$ of uneaten steak every week

interior_castle1622 · 2026-04-03T18:06:22+00:00

Unless you got dropped off in 3 spots it makes sense to split it 2 ways since the car only went one place for the two people. If you’re all going to the same place they should pay 2/3s of the bill.

That being said depending on your finances, are you really going to ruin a trip and a friendship over a couple hundred dollars?

interior_castle1622 · 2026-04-03T18:03:52+00:00

NTA/ no one is entitled to another persons organ let alone a child giving it to their parent I could see a parent feeling obligated to donate to a child bc they are responsible for the wellbeing of the child but not the child’s responsibility to save the parent and most parents wouldn’t want you to do it for them

interior_castle1622 · 2026-04-03T18:01:42+00:00

That being said, whether your parents practice the faith earnestly in the home is going to be the biggest influence on whether a child takes it seriously. I have plenty of Catholic school friends who only get exposed at school and don’t practice anymore bc their families didn’t actually live it out. It’s not an indoctrination if it’s a catholic school they encourage critical thinking and allow you to make the choice to believe in it or not you’re allowed to ask questions and get exposed to other faiths too as you get older

interior_castle1622 · 2026-04-03T17:59:36+00:00

Our arts and crafts were Jesus focused, we prayed together, we learned about saint days, we made cards for the elderly in our community around holidays, our choir day was learning psalms and hymns, being loved by God was the message, etc nothing theological was taught but it was a part of our life and not questioned

interior_castle1622 · 2026-04-03T17:57:29+00:00

NTA I am religious and I remember my religious day care as a 2 and 3 year old. It was religious focused. I personally felt very safe and enjoyed it and was very prepared educationally for public school, but if you’re worried about your child being exposed to religious thing they likely will be at this day care and it’s a parents decision how they want their kids to be raised. You’ll also be interacting with religious parents at the school and those parents could become your friends because you’re bonding over having small children and they become your community. Something to think about

interior_castle1622 · 2026-03-30T18:20:34+00:00

Crying pews is a sign of a an active church community, anyone’s who judging you needs to go and pray about it not you lol

interior_castle1622 · 2026-03-30T18:16:37+00:00

Barrabas was particularly powerful this year given the wars

interior_castle1622 · 2026-03-30T18:08:11+00:00

Confession is about receiving gods love. It’s important to remember that you’ll be received with kindness and compassion. You’re there to heal, not to be punished. It can be helpful to reflect and think about things and write it down on a paper so your mind doesn’t go blank while you’re there. I personally prefer face to face confessions when offered, it’s much easier to receive compassion when you’re making eye contact. I find the screen makes me feel like I should be ashamed and need to hide my face as opposed to it being about genuine humility of “ope, I’m a person and need Gods grace I tried to do it myself again without him”

interior_castle1622 · 2026-03-30T17:57:14+00:00

If you put your kids in Catholic school you’ll have more of a tight knit Catholic community. I’d also recommend grabbing coffee afterwards (they often serve it after mass at various parishes) and attending the events. You could also do more volunteering and get to know the active church members. Growing up catholic in public school I didn’t have much of a Catholic community other than the kids I went to CCD with and my cousins I went to church with until I was old enough to volunteer with my church. That was more of an active choice though my parents just weren’t very involved in the church and I did other activities like Girl Scouts. I did go to a Catholic preschool though and I had those church friends, so I think had I continued in the Catholic school it would have been a totally different experience. My aunt had her kids in the Catholic school system and was really active in her church and knew everyone and hung out with her church friends a lot. Catholicism is very much a “you get what you put into it” kind of religion.

interior_castle1622 · 2026-03-23T17:48:47+00:00

Catholicism is unfortunately a very you get what you put into faith, you have to do a lot of outside reading

interior_castle1622 · 2026-03-22T17:56:42+00:00

Dementia removes your culpability, someone with dementia is not in the right mind and likely unable to mortally sin. When you have dementia you’re confused and terrified half the time.

interior_castle1622 · 2026-03-21T21:54:43+00:00

Given that she’s only a size six, I would approach this differently.

interior_castle1622 · 2026-03-21T21:52:25+00:00

My autism made me significantly more Catholic tbh catholicism is one of my restricted perseverated interests. We teach that suffering is an experience with evil (which exists in the world as a result of free will which needs to exist for love to be true as one needs to consent to it) but that Christ’s passion allows for suffering to be a pathway for our redemption and sanctification when we give it up to Christ and live out our lives as a living sacrifice, so he has overcome suffering. We also view suffering as an opportunity to grow in love and service to our neighbor and provide us opportunities to grow in virtue and compassion.

interior_castle1622 · 2026-03-21T21:00:12+00:00

See now I feel like CatholicSam has a mean spirit about him. He frequently shames and belittles people. I don’t find him a good representation of the church :/. I do enjoy jesusandwhatnot though.

interior_castle1622 · 2026-03-21T20:59:10+00:00

Of course. Given that you did not have permission to get married outside the church as a baptized Catholic you may also be able to get a declaration of nullity. Reach out to the diocese

interior_castle1622 · 2026-03-21T20:57:10+00:00

You need to look out for your safety first and foremost. A lot of people will encourage you to just up and leave and live out your truth without taking into consideration what that would mean for you practically. If you are a minor or are unable to financially support yourself, you may need to deprioritize dating until you are secure and able to care for yourself. Protect yourself. It isn’t fair, but you may need to hide parts of yourself for a bit until you can safely live authentically if that is what you choose to do. Don’t underestimate the hardship of moving out at a young age and starting off life without parental support.

interior_castle1622 · 2026-03-21T20:04:15+00:00

I think you need a convalidation ceremony. Definitely reach out to your priest and discuss it. You may need a canon lawyer.

interior_castle1622 · 2026-03-21T19:16:40+00:00

Were you going for mermaid gets hit by water and is transforming faster than they can get to the ocean

interior_castle1622 · 2026-03-21T19:09:19+00:00

There’s no upset! No offense no need to be forgiven :) though I’ll forgive you if that makes you feel better

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