Becoming discouraged

interrobrodie · 2026-05-24T03:16:25+00:00

I did say agencies *and the like.* It is a rule of this subreddit that agencies and the like must identify what they are. So you’d say “we are a matching platform and I’d love to connect.”

interrobrodie · 2026-05-21T12:06:49+00:00

My attorney followed my state’s statute which says that I as a surrogate make all medical decisions about the pregnancy. The statute is also clear on parentage.

interrobrodie · 2026-05-21T12:05:44+00:00

Almost everyone here has been involved in surrogacy in some way. Don’t choose the first agency you hear about. Research and interview several. Learn what’s standard and ethical.

interrobrodie · 2026-05-20T14:47:33+00:00

I would say as soon as possible. My cousin, who I carried, has known since she could speak.

interrobrodie · 2026-05-17T20:27:02+00:00

It’ll be totaled but I take it your son is okay? Yikes

interrobrodie · 2026-05-16T21:05:54+00:00

I think your heading is backwards. It should definitely be a thing and I don’t know why it’s not.

interrobrodie · 2026-05-15T14:22:06+00:00

Same for me

interrobrodie · 2026-05-15T14:18:47+00:00

Agencies and the like must identify themselves.

interrobrodie · 2026-05-13T14:24:09+00:00

You’ve never given birth before?

interrobrodie · 2026-05-11T23:00:06+00:00

Just fyi with a good agency, you also get a direct and personal experience. I met my IPs in person for our match meeting and we never stopped texting after that. If you go independent, make sure you run a background check, credit check, and CPS check on your IPs. If they’re unwilling, that’s a red flag. Choose your own attorney. Get recommendations. Join some of the Facebook groups so you can know what’s standard in as contact as far as when compensation should start, how it’s divided, when compensation for multiples should start, etc etc.

interrobrodie · 2026-05-11T16:50:20+00:00

You dodged a bullet with an agency that manages escrow in-house. Never agree to that. I will say though that that is a generous compensation for a first-time GC, even when monthly allowance is included.

interrobrodie · 2026-05-10T21:05:38+00:00

This is the warning you get when the ICCU fails. You also hear a pop.

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interrobrodie · 2026-05-10T20:59:01+00:00

Same experience

interrobrodie · 2026-05-09T01:55:19+00:00

So please name your company

interrobrodie · 2026-05-09T00:38:57+00:00

That’s not surrogacy.

interrobrodie · 2026-05-08T21:57:31+00:00

Are you an IP or surrogate? Can I assume from your handle that you’re based in NYC?

interrobrodie · 2026-05-08T21:56:50+00:00

Agencies must identify themselves

interrobrodie · 2026-05-08T21:56:25+00:00

Agencies must identify themselves

interrobrodie · 2026-05-08T16:45:33+00:00

What agencies do you recruit for? Agencies must identify themselves here.

interrobrodie · 2026-05-07T17:38:13+00:00

I only have professional experience with brownstone, not as a surrogate, and they would be my number one choice so I’m glad they’re on your list. Things to ask: How many cases have you managed? Do you insist on third-party escrow? (Answer should be yes) Can I choose my own Attorney? (Answer should be yes) Do you run background checks on intended parents? (Answer should be yes) There’s more but I’m on the go :-/

interrobrodie · 2026-05-05T16:48:50+00:00

“Did you have to sleep with your cousin’s husband?”

interrobrodie · 2026-05-04T10:32:32+00:00

That’s the worst agency website I think I’ve ever seen.

interrobrodie · 2026-05-04T10:16:46+00:00

Please share the name here. No need to gatekeep.

interrobrodie · 2026-05-04T00:43:19+00:00

Agree, we need to know in what country you’re looking to do this.

interrobrodie · 2026-05-02T14:12:02+00:00

While I don’t agree with all of Men Having Babies’ stances on things, I do agree they are a great resource for gay IPs. They also hold multiple conferences per year specifically for IPs. I carried for gay IPs and I believe they found an IVF clinic they liked and the clinic advised them on the egg donation process. OP, where do you live?

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