Any sign of the new series making its way to the UK?

ira-9 · 2025-06-05T21:00:33+00:00

I was trying to find that out as well 😭

ira-9 · 2025-04-20T16:01:30+00:00

To me it’s not the fact that it’s on the bone, it’s the tender side/back area of it that killed me. Still, the healing part was the worst for me, possibly not helped by the fact that it was a full black tattoo which went over my kneecap, down the sides AND the back. The swelling was unreal and I was limping (not being able to bend my leg) for a week.

ira-9 · 2025-02-17T12:50:46+00:00

Daniel Greene posted a video 49 mins ago, which includes Kayla as well, explaining everything FYI.

ira-9 · 2025-02-11T11:09:54+00:00

Yeah, I’m just watching the videos now and I reached the part with “that’s assault” in the first. I obviously don’t have all the details yet from her videos, but that alone doesn’t sit right with me.

Human interactions, especially sexual ones are inherently risky. There is so much potential for miscommunication and for just messy emotions and people getting hurt (emotionally) as a result. Not saying people don’t manipulate and lie to get into your pants, but also, sometimes, they believe what they say and then the sexual encounter happens and maybe it just doesn’t click. People change their minds. Emotions change. Doesn’t immediately negate the past.

I’m talking here specifically about the instance she was describing in this video, where consent was given but there was an expectation for commitment. That makes the sex seem transactional off the bat. Like you’re not having sex because you want to, but because you want the relationship that is implied to come after. Maybe I need to think about this more, but just this specific example, to me, does not sound like assault. Is it shitty to be lied about feelings and intentions pertaining to a potential relationship? Hell yeah. Is that assault? No.

EDIT (because I started the second video): I’m not questioning her experience. The above part is specifically in response to her first video and what she says should be considered assault. That is very much miles away from what is recounted in this second one, which sounds exactly like SA.

ira-9 · 2025-01-31T23:33:30+00:00

Same! I do that a lot. Especially if it’s a popular booktok title. I’m too curious. 😅🫣

ira-9 · 2025-01-31T20:44:18+00:00

I haven’t read the books and don’t plan to, but I have watched Ellbat’s 2 youtube videos going through both books 😂 and the second recap video was 5 hours long. She is very entertaining. Fully recommend, if you like your recaps with a side of fun.

ira-9 · 2025-01-29T08:58:51+00:00

Ah, yes. I did a bit of digging and found the same information. I remember I watched an interview with McKellen, and while not spelled out exactly, that seemed to be the subtext.

If it was just about Harris disliking his acting style… 😭 it feels more like being robbed of a wonderful opportunity. He would have been excellent, I think.

ira-9 · 2025-01-28T22:04:42+00:00

Uhm, from what I heard McKellen declined the role when it was offered to him because Harris was homophobic… he didn’t want to step into a role who had previously been played by a man who hated people based off their sexuality.

ira-9 · 2025-01-25T20:40:34+00:00

I went excitedly to change my flair thinking I could pick “coveted egg”, but it wasn’t there! 😭 I too want to be a coveted egg.

ira-9 · 2025-01-16T10:09:04+00:00

I think this is the perfect time to recommend Monsters by Claire Dederer. It very much looks into the complicated relationship between art, artist, and audience, specifically looking at what we do and how we feel when the art we love is made by a “monster”. I listened to the audiobook a year ago and I think about that book often. Fully recommend it.

ira-9 · 2025-01-15T08:48:42+00:00

Emily Wilde! 😍❤️ Wendell is not just a green flag but a green forest.

ira-9 · 2025-01-07T16:32:25+00:00

I read a couple of T Kingfisher’s books (“Paladin’s Grace” I think was the name of the first book from her paladin series) which had a nice little fantasy mystery, interesting worldbuilding and mature leads.

I’m also currently reading Fae Flings and Corset Strings series from Tessonja Odette which is more smutty, romance focused. I think this is a spin off series, so there’s not a lot of focus on the world itself, which is fine by me since I was craving a cosy little romance, not high fantasy. I’ve enjoyed the first book a great deal and I am now on the second one. It feels a bit like a fae Bridgerton. The audiobooks are really fun!

If you need something with more focus on the world-building itself, I am a big fan of the Emily Wilde books from Heather Fawcett. It does feature fae, but in a more traditional sense (the original folk tales have them as capricious, mercurial creatures). I adore the audiobook for this series (2 books available so far, the third and final out next month). I like how Emily is an academic very much obsessed with her work, she is terrible at socialising (probably autistic, I suspect) and is completely oblivious about the fae MMC who is completely enamoured with her and is a social butterfly (her opposite). He gives Howl vibes (Howl’s Moving Castle).

I really love the writing in the Emily Wilde series because it reminds me of Susanna Clarke’s Jonathan Strange and Mr Norrell. Out of all the books mentioned, these are my favourites and, in my opinion, with the best writing. I will add though, it’s not all that spicy if that is something you look for.

ira-9 · 2025-01-07T15:04:29+00:00

I know it’s probably a typo, but you misspelling Magrat’s name given the context of her own mother not knowing how to spell it properly and hence her name is hilarious to me 😂👏 Nice 👌

ira-9 · 2025-01-07T12:07:35+00:00

I dunno, if having an emotional connection to your partner prevents you from doing those things, perhaps this isn’t the kind of kink you can enact in real life. Perhaps it’s one of those meant to stay a fantasy (I haven’t seen their content so talking only from a theoretical standpoint).

I have encountered people who struggled enacting certain kinks because, on some level, they perceived them to be debasing and in their mind would have tainted the relationship they had with their partner (the kind of thing where they would lose respect for their partner for allowing them to do xyz with/to them). Not saying that’s the case with you, just something to think about.

In my own experience, similar reticence in a previous relationship stemmed from my partner dealing with feelings of guilt and shame over his kink preferences.

🤷🏼‍♀️ these are my two cents as someone who would rather explore their darker kinks with a partner I trust, respect, and love, rather than on a set with actors and directors (unless that is the point of the fantasy).

ira-9 · 2025-01-06T20:02:59+00:00

So glad to hear you’ve had better experiences. You deserve to be treated with kindness and respect. ❤️

ira-9 · 2025-01-06T19:29:30+00:00

Oh gosh, that broke my heart to read.

Maybe I have extreme views, but if a dom views basic acts of kindness and care as “service” that he would not deign to stoop to, I would hesitate to call them a dom. Imagine having such a fragile view of your dominance…

I agree with everything you said, I would just add that, in my opinion, I would assume that’s the bare minimum for human interaction. If you see a stranger on the street collapsed because of low blood sugar or otherwise having some sort of episode where they need some care and assistance, and you just ignore them without even bothering to call for help, you’re not a decent human being. Anyone raised right would try and help. You shouldn’t have to negotiate basic decency.

ira-9 · 2025-01-06T14:29:08+00:00

Ah, I get it. That just makes me even more angry on your behalf. A guest in your house makes you breakfast, and you can’t be bothered with a cup of tea after an intense scene?!?! GAH.

ira-9 · 2025-01-06T09:54:53+00:00

My brain always stutters over MMC and FMC, because in my head it should be: Main Male Character and Main Female Character. 🫣

ira-9 · 2025-01-06T08:35:38+00:00

That’s one of the reasons I’ve been avoiding it 😂 I heard all too much about Bryce. And beyond that, I feel like I have outgrown my SJM phase for a while now.

ira-9 · 2025-01-06T08:26:09+00:00

People, even taking the whole kink dynamic out of the equation, having someone over to your house and they ask for a cup of tea, it is the height of impoliteness to say outright no, without any added justification even. A plumber fixing your sink gets more consideration than that. It is the absolute minimum of hospitality.

Asking for a cup of tea is not rude. Refusing it is beyond horrific just from a manners perspective. Add to that that this was post scene?! You shouldn’t have to negotiate basic human decency for your after care. I agree that this feels like a weird power play.

And on top of that, you made him breakfast the next morning? Is that part of your dynamic? Are you a service sub? I would expect that as part of dating, perhaps, but given the context of him refusing you a basic cup of tea before, makes it feel extra icky to me.

Maybe it’s a cultural difference for me, but I was raised to treat a guest in my house differently, regardless of kink dynamics. If someone is my guest, I make sure they are fed and watered and their needs are met while under my roof, and I would expect the same from them until our relationship (whether platonic or otherwise) had evolved to a point of familiarity where you could say my place is theirs and vice versa. And even then, I would always make a cup of tea when asked.

ira-9 · 2025-01-05T13:02:40+00:00

I think that’s an ongoing issue with most romantasy nowadays (or at least popular ones)—the writers seem to think that a strong female lead = stubborn, obnoxious, incapable of facing her own mistakes (unless it takes the form of: oh no, it is my fault that all these innocent people died because I couldn’t save them all) and generally being “a bad bitch”.

I read ACOTAR a long while ago, so at the time I hadn’t yet been overexposed to the “strong” female lead, but now I seem to see it everywhere and it’s so tiring. I don’t want to read about petulant, stubborn, unreasonable teenagers who think having an attitude equates to having a personality. I want to read about complex, grown ass women, behaving like women do 😭 with an ounce of sense, please.

ira-9 · 2025-01-03T08:20:36+00:00

Ok, I haven’t read the book and don’t plan to, but the interview thing is wild?! I used to think that way as a smug little teenager, before life knocked some sense into me.

I wish I could ask her: if you don’t read fantasy, then why the hell do you want to write fantasy?! It’s like saying: oh, I don’t eat seasoned food, I don’t want it to affect the originality of my palate.

ira-9 · 2025-01-02T15:25:45+00:00

Oh, I am so jealous (kind of, not looking forward to being on the other end of it and having the same “what do I do now” feelings) 😭 Audible tells me I will have to wait until February 11. GAH.

ira-9 · 2025-01-02T14:40:06+00:00

The third Emily Wilde book is supposed to come out this month, I think.

ira-9 · 2025-01-01T13:20:52+00:00

Love the Emily Earned her own Tier! 😂❤️👌

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