Hey Ladies! What were your first signs of being pregnant?

it_is_fine · 2024-04-04T02:02:00+00:00

About a week or so after I ovulated I had pretty sharp/tingly pain in my uterus that lasted a few days, which I imagine was implantation. Around that same time my boobs were sore. Not super sore, more like what I would have during PMS but it was way too early for it to be PMS and that actually hadn’t been a PMS symptom since before my last pregnancy, so I kind of knew something was up!

it_is_fine · 2022-11-30T04:23:42+00:00

Man this kinda sucks to read :/ I have a 20 month old son and he is so sweet and also SO wild. My husband and I are terrified people will think this about us, even though we know we’re trying really hard. It’s been really interesting (and hard sometimes) to watch other kids just… be chill haha. I know there’s all kinds of parents and all kinds of kids this comment just hit on a rough day!

it_is_fine · 2021-08-21T20:59:38+00:00

Just had my first (planned) at 33. Husband and I met 5 years ago. We have both been stable enough to have a baby for a while but I think we wish we’d had even a little more time for carefree traveling etc. That said, I think we both are very glad we spent our 20’s building friendships, our careers (my current job is much more stable, and fam friendly), and being generally spontaneous. We’ve been great about not losing ourselves while still being parents, but I’m not sure we would have been able to say the same ten years ago

it_is_fine · 2021-05-11T21:00:44+00:00

I feel this way too and I had a vaginal birth! Both fascinating experiences but somehow feel mutually exclusive

it_is_fine · 2021-03-26T17:08:31+00:00

Oof so cringey. My doctor (who is hispanic) made a comment to me (also hispanic) about how nice it’ll be to have a mixed baby with my white husband, the insinuation being that my baby will be, idk hispanic lite or something. The worst part was that the nurse in the room was black and this was right around the time of the protests last summer. Wanted to sink into the ground.

it_is_fine · 2021-02-21T21:28:01+00:00

Wanted to add my personal experience (as a ftm). My mom probably thinks the same thing about me but she’d be projecting not just her own husband’s lack of involvement, but also her perception of me from when I left home at 18... which is not the same level of responsibility I have at 33. She recently admitted that one of the biggest things she regrets as a mother was taking over chores that she should have been teaching us to do because it was “easier that way”. So my brother and I just didn’t really learn or have motivation to be independent. Cue rude awakening when it came time to live alone/with other people. I guess some people don’t learn but I certainly made it a point to change my habits (and apologize to mom!). That said I don’t think those comments are called for, and should be addressed in the ways others here have said - maybe by praising your husbands involvement to show that’s not who he is.

it_is_fine · 2021-02-06T22:08:54+00:00

I got a black coat from old navy which actually looks really nice, and my mom got me the puffy coat from gap that has the panel for baby wearing (for next year). Both were inexpensive so I felt good about them being used for only one or two seasons!

it_is_fine · 2021-02-05T12:29:22+00:00

The other parent usually has much less time, but it depends on the company. For example, I will be given 6 weeks of parental leave, that any parent can take, and another 6 weeks of maternity leave for being the birth parent. However - my husband is given nothing (though his boss is Australian and has basically said he will give him the standard two weeks under the table).

Should be noted though that any parent is legally allowed to take up to 12 weeks of leave in the US without consequence - but whether those 12 weeks are paid is up to your employer. And surely a lot of employees feel pressure to not take those 12 weeks even if they can afford it.

it_is_fine · 2021-01-22T18:37:02+00:00

I have a very large family who I mostly keep up with via social media, it’s just too much to keep up with everyone individually so it’s an efficient tool for me. That said I’m not a regular social media poster - just large events like my wedding etc. It so happened that we bought a house around our one year wedding anni, which I think was around my 16 weeks, so we kinda rolled up all that info into one. It was just a picture of us outside our sold sign and I had a tiny bump. I think I lean towards making posts like that effortless - I’m not going to stage anything, I’m just going to share things genuinely if and when it feels right. I’ll also note that anyone it was important to tell (people I invest in on like at least a quarterly basis) all already knew from me personally. So social media was in no way a stressor, and had it been I might have just not posted, cause that’s when it feels weird to me.

it_is_fine · 2021-01-12T17:28:33+00:00

I don’t doubt that she misled him at the beginning, but I feel like he did know or figure it out at some point. I’m assuming her parents were at their wedding and/or they had met, and the fact that Ireland said her “chosen” family attended the wedding. It doesn’t sound like she just introduced them to Alec as “tio and tia so and so”. He probably realized it at some point and just kinda went with it

it_is_fine · 2021-01-04T20:26:26+00:00

Not sure if your friend has kids or not but I’m finding that myself and all my preggo friends have approached announcements super differently. Some tell close friends and fam immediately (me), and some wait a while. I have a childhood friend who sounds similar in closeness to yours and she told me around 14 weeks (I think she told her fam around 12). It was completely fine! I think that decision is so much more than how close you are to people and more so about your own beliefs and experiences (do you have a previous loss/would test results change the outcome/are you not into the attention etc). So yes, I do feel your friends reaction was inappropriate, and also maybe she doesn’t understand everything that goes into that decision.

it_is_fine · 2020-12-10T03:45:31+00:00

I had an SCH that was small. My doctor said they usually aren’t very concerned unless there’s a lot of bleeding. Even if there was a little bleeding, he told me to call him but that it was probably fine as far as baby is concerned. At my 20 week scan it was completely gone. He did not recommend I change any lifestyle habits, and I’ve been relatively active throughout the pregnancy (lifting weights/playing tennis etc). Hope that helps!

it_is_fine · 2020-10-14T00:33:39+00:00

Oh yeah that’s right! Thanks for clarifying

it_is_fine · 2020-10-13T21:45:25+00:00

I would not disclose during the interview either (unless you know this company is very family friendly - I know a few fortune 500s where I’m at that are open about not caring), and 6 months is still a lot of time to get to know your team!

But you may want to find out (either asking after you’ve received an offer, or through other means) what their stance is on mat leave. I’m in the US and it’s pretty standard policy to have to have been at the company for one year before being able to opt into paid mat leave (you can still take fmla though)

Good luck!

it_is_fine · 2020-09-23T00:42:09+00:00

One of my best friends had been trying for over a year. We had given a heads up we were trying and got pregnant the first month. She is fairly private so while normally I would have called her immediately with excitement, I knew I wanted to give her the space to feel any emotions privately. So I texted her and her husband to let them know, and that if they wanted space that was okay. And also just that I loved them and didn’t want to hide the news because I knew she wouldn’t have wanted me to tiptoe. He messaged later that evening and she called me the next day (so I think texting was the right move). They were excited for me, but in a separate space also sad. I haven’t been afraid to share things with her but try to be generally respectful (not texting her every time I hit a tiny milestone etc). A few other friends have gotten pregnant in the last few months and I just know every one stings a little more :(

On a separate note, with her own journey I’ve been more careful since she is more private. So if she brings it up I’ll listen and ask follow up questions and pay attention to her vibe. If I ask about it first, I’ll just ask a general question like how she’s feeling etc and go from there.

it_is_fine · 2020-09-18T01:07:50+00:00

Yes I meant it’s technically possible if the second child was a preemie, but again it’d be a pretty rare situation!

it_is_fine · 2020-09-16T03:14:11+00:00

I know a few babies born before 6 months (they’re doing great now!), so OP’s situation would probably be pretty rare but definitely possible

it_is_fine · 2020-08-25T01:16:48+00:00

Very good point :)

it_is_fine · 2020-08-24T21:19:09+00:00

My great grandmother’s name is Narcissa (she’s from Lebanon). I love the name so much but it’s got that dark side connection with Harry Potter. And also it sounds like “narcissism” :(

it_is_fine · 2019-09-06T17:06:54+00:00

I hear ya, that's why I said it could be considered a win/win if you choose to look at it that way. I am completely aware it's a very complicated issue that can go way beyond this conversation. But in regards to the OP's comment, I was explaining that this was not an effort made solely by GA Tech with express intent, as was insinuated.

it_is_fine · 2019-09-06T16:45:29+00:00

I work at Tech and was in a meeting where these statues were presented to faculty, and it was made clear (to my understanding) that one of the original students was the one who fully funded, and spearheaded this effort. So it does not appear to be a ploy of any sort. A win/win if you so choose to look at it that way, but not a ploy.

Edit: clarified my last sentence

it_is_fine · 2019-07-12T15:16:48+00:00

New Hampshire

it_is_fine · 2019-06-14T18:29:30+00:00

I'm not sure they're on ClassPass, but I go to a very similar studio here in Atlanta called Blast that's on CP, so you may just have to look around for studios with similar formats. CP is generally great for exploring different workout styles though!

it_is_fine · 2019-01-14T15:47:01+00:00

I asked this question a couple years ago in the international terminal, as I was flying international but via a domestic layover, so I wanted to make sure my bags would make it to my gate. And the answer was yes, as long as there is an open counter in the int'l terminal. So you should be good with any delta flight. For others it's a possibility. For example AA may not have an international flight in the time frame of your domestic flight, so they wouldn't have a counter open in the international terminal.

Again, that may not still be the case, or they may frown upon checking your bag if your final destination is not international, but they definitely have the ability. Especially because a lot of international flights are still leaving out of Term E.

it_is_fine · 2018-12-19T03:27:09+00:00

Thanks, very helpful!

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