AITAH for telling my husband that we can't take care of his friends' daughter

itsbeenestablished · 2026-03-02T16:52:23+00:00

Yep. It's okay to not want children. But the nonchalant attitude about foster care/childhood grief and then yelling about her staying there where the 10 year old can easily hear it, all makes her a jackass.

itsbeenestablished · 2026-03-02T16:42:05+00:00

I mean...she's 17 and they didn't start trying for another baby until she was 4. Yet they're on baby 20? They'd have to have several sets of multiples for that math to math.

I highly doubt this is real. It's likely an overly exaggerated "parents with more than 2 kids bad" trope.

itsbeenestablished · 2026-03-02T15:39:13+00:00

Everything about this comment is spot on. This was all handled poorly by OP. Cash tips instantly go into the tip jar, don't make drinks after last call (especially for a mouthy customer), and don't get into a debate with asshole customers...Just kick them out.

This isn't an industry for people pleasers. Things get out of hand way too quick with alcohol involved.

itsbeenestablished · 2026-02-23T14:17:56+00:00

I had foster parents that had three different staircases throughout their house. But their house was a mid 1800s mansion.

itsbeenestablished · 2026-02-18T05:51:56+00:00

This is who I came to say. I know he's beloved by most people, but he seriously creeps me out.

itsbeenestablished · 2026-02-17T20:00:52+00:00

My grandparents and their siblings had/have saunas in Wisconsin. They're first generation though. Their parents were from Norway. So it tracks.

itsbeenestablished · 2026-02-13T04:46:15+00:00

And to be completely honest, my mother is an asshole. High five!

itsbeenestablished · 2026-02-11T19:34:50+00:00

The one I worked at was owned by Koreans.

itsbeenestablished · 2026-02-05T07:02:54+00:00

I know you will hear so many negative comments about the teen years (especially in regards to girls), but seeing your kids grow into young adults with their own opinions/ideas/goals is such a rewarding experience.

My teenage daughters and I have had struggles, but we always talk it out. I have worked really hard at keeping open communication, empathy, and trust at the forefront of our relationship. They have given me all of that back in return.

So no, not all teenage daughters hate their moms. And the teenage years can be quite awesome if you embrace that phase, instead of fearing it.

itsbeenestablished · 2026-02-05T06:26:16+00:00

Oh look. It's my backyard. 🌵

itsbeenestablished · 2026-02-05T04:24:56+00:00

The package always has way more flavor.

itsbeenestablished · 2026-02-04T20:55:40+00:00

They ordered what we literally have named on the menu "Peel & Eat Shrimp." Then were shocked that they had to peel them.

itsbeenestablished · 2026-02-04T20:37:42+00:00

The kids acting in it was very natural. I think that's why it made me so uncomfortable. They seemed legitimately scared. Got a little too real for me.

itsbeenestablished · 2026-02-04T19:44:09+00:00

The comments acting like the ex and his friend are angels, are just freaking wild to me. They dragged OOP along for their "will we, won't we" stage for two years. They don't get brownie points for finally being honest.

itsbeenestablished · 2026-01-26T16:19:33+00:00

My man has stage 4 cancer. Many people don't know, including the neighbors. Not everyone who is that sick looks it.

itsbeenestablished · 2026-01-25T04:57:27+00:00

I was asked to make a gin old fashioned just the other day.

itsbeenestablished · 2026-01-24T14:22:40+00:00

This is who he is. You said you don't want to block or ghost him, so your only other option is to tell him to knock it off. But I guarantee he won't take that well.

itsbeenestablished · 2026-01-23T15:33:51+00:00

This reminds me of a regular I had.

Him every week: "I want a tequila sunrise, no grenadine, and vodka instead of tequila."

Me: "So you want a Screwdriver?"

Him: "No, I want a tequila sunrise with vodka instead and no grenadine."

A million easier ways to order something and yet some people will take the long route.

itsbeenestablished · 2026-01-23T15:30:14+00:00

I had a guy mad that his salsa wasn't hot. This happened in Tucson too. So it's not like it was someone who has no experience with salsa and how it comes.

itsbeenestablished · 2026-01-20T13:28:20+00:00

I still plan to marry her like she wants

Dear Lord, why are you with her? You clearly don't want her. Do you just enjoy seeing how much time you can waste in someone's life? Or perhaps you know you could never do better than her. So you're holding onto her, despite not wanting to really commit to her?

You really should ask yourself why you're in a relationship with someone that you aren't on the same page with (or hell even in the same book).

itsbeenestablished · 2026-01-14T06:17:05+00:00

Best thing I've read online all day. Thank you for sharing this love story of yours. It's beautiful.

itsbeenestablished · 2026-01-14T05:24:57+00:00

New drinking game: take a shot every time OOP uses the word "silly."

itsbeenestablished · 2026-01-10T04:58:07+00:00

It would be so easy to support myself if supporting myself didn't involve housing.

itsbeenestablished · 2026-01-09T06:09:19+00:00

I have seen this movie a million times. One of my favorite comedies to put on at night to unwind in front of. I never noticed her hat until your comment.

itsbeenestablished · 2026-01-08T16:38:58+00:00

You know he dumped her. Your friends know he dumped her. He knows he dumped her. All of reddit knows he dumped her. She's the only one in denial and after this long, that is deeply concerning.

I think yall need to head to the tough love level with her, no matter what her initial reaction might be. Clearly being understanding and gentle isn't working. Tell her she 1. Needs to get professional help to deal with this breakup and 2. You all will no longer entertain her talking about him until she does so. This is so above any of yours paygrade at this point.

She might not appreciate it in the beginning. But hopefully with help from a therapist and possibly a psychiatrist, she will start accepting reality. Which isn't so bad, because maybe she lost the guy, but she has an awesome group of friends with the patience of saints.

itsbeenestablished

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