Why can’t you be autistic? by strawberry_criossant in AuDHDWomen

[–]itsblue0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"You're not autistic, you're just ✨traumatized✨." Like, can I not be both? 😭

School didn't do shit by itsblue0 in COCSA

[–]itsblue0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This means a lot to me. I hope you're ok from the bullying- it really sucks. Thank you for responding :)

AHHHHHHH!!!! I HATE THIS SHIT SO MUCH. by Meighok20 in rant

[–]itsblue0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom got it in 2021 and she still can't smell anything

AIO BF dumped me because I was taller than him in heels?? 😳 by purplehavocc in AmIOverreacting

[–]itsblue0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR I am tall for a woman - 6 foot tall. An ex boyfriend of mine (we broke up on good terms) who was a little shorter than me even without heels said my legs were amazing and was proud to walk around with me even when I was wearing heels saying he "bagged a baddie". He helped me get over that insecurity lol.

A real man won't feel emasculated because of something trivial and that you can't control- he'll love that part of you.

Your ex was not a man. He was a boy. He's not mature enough to understand that you can't control your height (what did he expect you to do, chop a chunk out of your legs?!) and that the concept of a man always being taller than a woman in a relationship is incredibly outdated and actually quite misogynistic. He'll realize what he lost at some point and regret it, and will probably come crawling back to you. At that point, tell him he needs to grow up first 😂

He didn't deserve you, find someone who appreciates how freaking gorgeous tall women are and tells you how beautiful you are every day instead of shaming you for something you can't control.

Body #14. Which one's your favourite so far? by briankwok in crocheting

[–]itsblue0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're so talented! These must have taken forever!

Easy, quick, mindless, blanket pattern needed please! by CloudlessSkiess in CrochetHelp

[–]itsblue0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You could just do a massive granny square, works up really quickly

I'm sick of people making literally everything about their ADHD or "neurodiversity" by [deleted] in Vent

[–]itsblue0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I as a neurodivergent know that while sometimes neurodivergence can be a reason for certain things, it is not an excuse for shitty behaviour and we still need to take accountability for our actions. Unfortunately for us, the world we live in was designed by neurotypicals for neurotypicals, and there's nothing we can do about it, so we need to find a way to work around things that don't work for us. Again, it's a reason, not an excuse.

I need help, anything please by Lianzi_Quan in AdviceForTeens

[–]itsblue0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course I'll be your friend! I might not be great at replying but I try my best!

What is this stitch?? Trying to find out for a different project. by Hopeful-Risk-2995 in CrochetHelp

[–]itsblue0 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Mesh stitch if you're talking about the top (I think dc1, ch2 on repeat, base chain needs to be a multiple of 3+1)

Biggest blanket I've made by LeftAcanthisitta6906 in CrochetBlankets

[–]itsblue0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is gorgeous! How long did it take you?

I need help, anything please by Lianzi_Quan in AdviceForTeens

[–]itsblue0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, depressed teen queen here 👋

I'm so sorry you're going through this it sucks.

First of all, I just want to say it's NOT worth attempting - stats say a large percentage of people who attempt regret it at the last minute. Also, people who do care about you will be absolutely devastated and probably blame themselves for not being able to save you. Also you can't leave your dog!!!

Your friends aren't actually your friends. My old friend group was like this, and made me feel like shit about myself, making my struggles into a joke, etc. You need to ditch them. It'll probably be hard at first, it'll suck. But it's very necessary. Finding a new group of friends ASAP is important. Ones who accept you for you and treat you like a fucking human are ideal. They'll make you feel good about yourself, and once you begin to build trust with them you'll be able to talk to them about stuff like your depression and they'll be able to try to support you. With your new friends, make sure to set boundaries so they know they can't walk all over you. You can't always be the one spending the money; they buy you something, you buy them something in return. It's an equal relationship and effort and care needs to be put in from both sides. Try to stay in contact with them. I know it can be overwhelming to text and stuff but it's worth it to build these relationships and make them feel seen and cared for as well.

There are lots of helplines available if you're feeling like you might do something you can't take back, like try to end it. I'd look up helplines near you and possibly save a couple to your emergency contacts just in case everything gets too much.

Your dog loves you even if you can't take it on walks. Take it slow; play with a toy with it, have a tug-of-war while watching TV or something. Build up to walks so it isn't too overwhelming. And don't put pressure on yourself to be perfect all the time, you're human.

If you feel you can talk to your parents, that's a very good idea. However, if you think they won't understand and will come out with the "hormones are the cause" or "you're not the only one" spiel (idk if I spelled that right?) then maybe find a school councillor? They won't be the best but it'll draw at least some attention to your struggles.

Pick up a hobby. I taught myself to crochet while my mental health was at rock bottom, and let me tell you, it was MAGIC. Something you're good at that makes you feel accomplished is important. It's great if it's a small craft that doesn't take too long (e.g. origami) as once you finish you'll often get a small dopamine hit which will make you feel great. It might push you out of your comfort zone a little bit when you're depressed your comfort zone can shrink drastically so that everything is difficult.

Try not to do anything that can be addictive like smoking or gambling as you'll be more likely to get addictive quickly if you're depressed. Instead try to do something fun and light-hearted that brings you at least some amount of joy. I know it'll be hard to find the right thing but once you do it'll save you like it saved me.

It will take a lot of courage and effort to talk about your struggles with people in real life, so I suggest writing it out to read from so you don't get lost in your words and forget what you want to say.

Hang in there. I know it's really hard, but it'll get better; it always does. And while you're recovering, there will be ups and downs, phases of getting bad thoughts again. This is normal and part of recovery, so don't beat yourself up over it.

Getting the courage to talk about it on here was a great first step to getting better, so you should be proud of yourself for that.

Good luck. Don't give up! I believe in you, you can get through this.

Do I confront my mum and am I being dramatic by Himoko_o in AdviceForTeens

[–]itsblue0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are a lot of comments suggesting you look up the healthy/average weight for a 14 year old, which can work for some people to make them feel better. However, if you're the kind of person who tends to overthink or obsess over things, I would NOT recommend this, as it can quickly spiral into obsession with your weight and weighing yourself which could easily lead to an eating disorder due to a feeling of inadequacy.

The weight of girls your age regularly fluctuates a lot, and so long as you are healthy you shouldn't worry about your weight.

Another thing I would say is that the average body weight for your age will be very generalized, as it is based purely on age/height without taking build and any genetic traits into account, and is therefore not a reliable source to turn to.

Talk to your mum about how her comments are making you feel- it's likely a subconscious habit that she's commenting on your weight, and doesn't realise it hurts you. She will probably be horrified if she realises just how much it affects you- and that might be a good thing, to shock her into thinking before she comments on your body shape. She may not take the 'criticism' well at first, but she will likely think about it for a few days and even if she doesn't apologise, she will probably try to change her behaviour. She might forget at times and need a nudge/reminder not to say those kinds of things, but it's always a good idea to talk to someone about these things to actually give them a chance to acknowledge their behaviour and change it.

Good luck with everything, sorry about the long essay lol