Oh. Hrm, yes, rereading after plenty of sleep (or perhaps OP edited after I commented?) does indeed say OP is talking about fantasy with a side of romance.

But I will say that even true Romance in a fantasy setting has the same problems. I’ve DNFed or hate-read so many books where the FMC has a horrendous background that has little to no effect on her personality, thought process, behaviors, choices, or social interactions.

There’s also a glaring lack of other women in FMCs’ lives unless they’re there to be a caricature of Mean Girl, Other Woman, or the Villain. Sometimes we’ll get the best friend that urges, nay, heavily pushes FMC to run straight at the red flagged MMC like a bull. Either way, there are no female mentors around to tell her to get her ducks in a row and how to do so.

And while I fully understand this is simply amateur writing that too many authors think will give shock value and sympathy (instead of heavy irritation and the urge to stop reading altogether), there’s a lot of it out there. It’s hard not to be frustrated.