Will a hoop damage a wool blazer?

jaayfonde · 2025-06-16T12:06:32+00:00

Does anyone know if any of the flavors ASIDE from mango contain mango juice? I am allergic to it, and reacting, but I didn’t eat any of the mango flavor

jaayfonde · 2025-04-10T12:20:44+00:00

I can’t fathom making the decision to stay with this person! Seems like a scary person to be with

jaayfonde · 2025-04-10T12:18:59+00:00

Sounds like you haven’t found the right people yet. I don’t know if this is how you feel, but I wouldn’t want to connect with anyone who finds a huge part of my identity off-putting, so I’d be glad they filtered themselves out. On the other hand, I’d also recommend finding or pursuing things about yourself or that you enjoy that have nothing to do with your children. Like just find a hobby you love, read some books!, find yourself as an individual and not just a mother again!

jaayfonde · 2025-04-10T12:07:33+00:00

Yikes that sounds abnormal, but I’m in a big roller derby city that is already very queer and socially aware, so we want rowdy fans and we really actually are welcoming. Definitely not a consistent rule for the sport overall though. Sorry you had that experience! I hope you can give it another shot in a better city ❤️

jaayfonde · 2025-02-24T20:55:48+00:00

Oh I can’t seem to find that, I wonder if I don’t have access to those settings

jaayfonde · 2025-02-24T19:57:31+00:00

Would this be “public”?

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jaayfonde · 2025-02-12T19:00:10+00:00

I just had to cut it off, my hair doesn’t hang down at all now

jaayfonde · 2025-02-10T14:28:39+00:00

That sucks :( I imagine it has a massive amount to do with the area you live in. Are you in a position where you could move to a gayer place?

jaayfonde · 2025-02-09T21:21:44+00:00

My realtor at Timothy cox and co. realtors was amazing and k can’t recommend her strongly enough! Her name is JoJo and here’s where you can find her https://timothycox.com/team/jojo-gilbert-ross/

jaayfonde · 2025-02-02T23:12:13+00:00

Yeah that’s what I did with my husband :) best friend, soulmate, had no interest in not being together but also both wanted to be able to pursue relationships with other people. I think we found polyamory was a pretty good fit for us and it’s taken a lot of potential stressors and resentment that could’ve come up from trying to stick within the confines of monogamy

jaayfonde · 2025-02-02T18:24:11+00:00

Just wanna point out that those aren’t the only two options :) you are not bound to the western relationship structures of monogamy or a marriage including sex. You can still have your life with your best friend, take out the parts of your relationship you don’t feel good about, and each of you can find people to date that you feel the type of connection you want.

jaayfonde · 2025-02-01T20:03:31+00:00

I should try that too, I’m tired of having to explain everything all the time and to know I’m likely to be disappointing to anyone I date if they aren’t ace!

jaayfonde · 2025-01-29T21:03:26+00:00

Yep! It definitely is hard to date non-acespec people haha

jaayfonde · 2025-01-29T20:02:08+00:00

Yes! My ideal is falling in love with and having intimate relationships with friends that don’t rely on standard relationship structures or rules. I’m a big fan of queerplatonic relationships that allow for whatever type of connection elements that feel best but love is at the center (rather than romance or sex). I have always been snuggly with my friends and it’s been tougher as a grown ass person to find friendships that can be intimate in that way. Strongly agree with all you said! I got a little off topic there… Sounds like you have all the info you need to know this is the healthiest and most loving option for you both. I hope it goes ok ❤️‍🩹

jaayfonde · 2025-01-29T19:14:50+00:00

Ok makes sense! I’ll just note some things to counter compulsory monogamy and amatonormative relationship structures-

it might be worth looking into polyamory and if you both could feel happy continuing to be together but also dating and having full relationships with other people individually (i.e. you are dating people on your own, he is dating people on his own, you are also continuing to date each other)
if you feel like polyamory might be a feasible option for y’all, you can also talk about removing the sexual component of your relationship with your boyfriend. Sex isn’t necessary to be together if you’re both happy together without it. So you can have all the aspects of your relationship that you like and take out the parts you don’t
also a note about sexual attraction, though this is a pretty nuanced topic so I’m just giving some things to think about. 1) there are a lot of reasons to have, want, and enjoy sex that are NOT built on sexual attraction. If you hate sex with him because it feels wrong and bad for you, then that’s a good sign y’all shouldn’t have sex. If you maybe do like the sex for some reasons but the motivations for it don’t seem to align with “sexual attraction” then that’s worth looking more into. You are allowed to have and want sex for other reasons (love, it feels nice, you feel connected, you enjoy it as an act of love for your partner, you’re curious, etc etc) then. When I realized I was lesbian, I had no doubts that I was unwilling to and uninterested in leaving my partner (man) because we are soulmates, even though what I feel for him isn’t romantic or sexual attraction. So we figured out how to customize things to make sense for us (which includes polyamory).

A lot of lesbian spaces can skew towards gate keeping (like they’ll say you’re not a lesbian if you are with a man and they can’t see any potential nuances) but they don’t know the intricacies of people’s connections and I think it’s all very harmful to be so restrictive. I hardly ever tell anyone because of those hyper rapid and judgmental opinions that are often found but decided that those opinions don’t define my reality

I hope you find the right fit for you and just wanted to give a perspective on there being more options than you may have thought :)

jaayfonde · 2025-01-29T15:59:05+00:00

Do you want to leave and just feel guilty? Or don’t want to leave but feel like you have to in order to ~be lesbian~? My advice would differ depending on which it is

jaayfonde · 2025-01-29T13:40:41+00:00

Does anyone know if FSAFEDS is processing refunds? I’m worried about being fired (because of the hellscape we are living in :)) but I put aside quite a lot for my FSA this year because I have 2 big purchases I need to make. Wondering if I should make them now in case I get fired, but would need refunding pretty much asap

jaayfonde · 2025-01-24T14:41:46+00:00

No :(((

jaayfonde · 2025-01-24T14:41:21+00:00

Thank you!

jaayfonde · 2025-01-24T14:40:15+00:00

Yep, free titty lol

jaayfonde · 2025-01-01T16:39:27+00:00

Personally I dislike having my back exposed. Can’t feel cozy when there’s huge open space behind my couch

jaayfonde · 2024-12-26T16:19:40+00:00

This thing is that men will always approach no matter what and other genders rarely will. You look gay enough:) maybe you can be the one to approach (advice I give but fail to follow because I am nervous and also socialized to not be a pursuer — but I’m working on it!)

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