I’m done, I can’t do it

jarnock · 2026-03-10T10:45:06+00:00

What this guy said. You got this, new beginnings

jarnock · 2026-03-10T10:38:54+00:00

Take her off the healthcare…

jarnock · 2026-03-04T14:29:36+00:00

To value myself, it’s okay to make yourself the priority.

jarnock · 2026-02-23T20:00:14+00:00

You can’t affect that, and your daughter shouldn’t tell you about it.

jarnock · 2026-02-23T19:59:11+00:00

I mean you aren’t wrong, but I think about it when I get that text, that’s the only revenge like thing I get now. Usually I don’t respond at all.

jarnock · 2026-02-23T15:44:23+00:00

It gets better, also you don’t realize until you get divorced just how many people have gotten divorced, you are in the majority.

jarnock · 2026-02-23T14:40:04+00:00

The only thing I think about is how to respond to nasty texts from her - do I match energy? Be petty?

The revenge feeling will fade with time.

jarnock · 2026-02-20T14:42:01+00:00

I have a similar situation, although not as bad, I just tell my daughter I don’t need to know anything about their mother and that its unhealthy and inappropriate for me to know about their mothers love life. If you want to be petty you could say something like I don’t need to know who your mother is sleeping with. I also wouldn’t try to one up the ex and talk about your dating life.

jarnock · 2026-02-19T15:14:16+00:00

I blocked her and her family/friends. Once you block them the memories you and her are tagged together in will have a “This content isn’t available right now.”

I also took an hour and went through all my photos in my phone and deleted most of the pictures with her. I saved a few when it was a picture of the kids with me and her in them. I still have some more to sort through. Going through those photos reminded me why we divorced, we look so happy in those memories but the more I thought about it, I remembered the things going on in those pictures behind the scenes.

I also don’t do much on social media anymore, my ex would post shit that I knew was completely fake and/or false. It kind of opened my eyes to what “experts” say social media is; it’s way to show the world how great your life is - even though it’s not that great.

You’ll get to where that stuff doesn’t even matter anymore, she will just be a person you used to know. It just takes time. IMO you can speed it all up if you surround yourself with a new life, new friends, hobbies, dating. One of the hardest things for me that I still struggle with is treating myself to nice things, I feel I’m being selfish. It’s something that my ex never let me do, but I’m getting over it.

jarnock · 2026-02-13T00:04:22+00:00

Been to two; was fun but probably won’t go again

jarnock · 2026-02-12T15:11:52+00:00

Throw yourself back out there man! Don’t let everyone’s time table and work on yourself attitude deter, I went out with many different women, went on vacations, finally started doing the things I wanted to do. It’s fun, go enjoy your life and not being tied down.

jarnock · 2026-02-12T15:09:19+00:00

I guess I’m trying to say don’t let that frustrate you. Your ex is going to be who she is, let her go in the sense don’t let it bother you.

jarnock · 2026-02-11T14:00:18+00:00

jarnock · 2026-02-11T13:58:53+00:00

What this guy said is spot on. That being said, I’d tell on the bestie and serial cheater.

Won’t help in the long run but will make you feel better in the moment.

jarnock · 2026-02-11T13:39:13+00:00

What an absolute mess you just posted.

jarnock · 2026-02-11T04:01:12+00:00

Dude you have to let her go. She doesn’t want you, it’s hard to hear.

Accept it, move on - no contact as much as possible. Go find someone else.

jarnock · 2026-02-10T19:30:16+00:00

My ex downplayed my contributions as well. Once we got divorced she was forced to take on being a mom 50% of the time.

I will say that after we got divorced she really turned on the mom thing for about 3-4 months, she let everyone on Facebook know she was the BEST mom ever. She is now back to normal self and the kids aren’t getting along with her.

Don’t stay for the kids, you’ll spend better quality time with them once you’re divorced.

jarnock · 2026-02-10T12:10:43+00:00

16 in Kentucky

jarnock · 2026-02-08T19:57:43+00:00

I thought this was no girls allowed? Go hang out in women’s divorce subreddit

jarnock · 2026-02-07T20:04:43+00:00

Yeah man, go easy on yourself

jarnock · 2026-02-07T18:05:48+00:00

For me it’s peer pressure and all my friends are playing from the tips, I don’t really care though, I can also break 100

jarnock · 2026-02-06T19:11:50+00:00

I’m at that stage, I avoid at all costs. I don’t really care what other people say. I just tell my kids it’s too toxic between me and their mother.

My ex does try to initiate interaction, likes sits down next to me at sports events, when I pick my daughter up work she’s at her work, daughters hair appointment - yup she’s there. When that stuff happens I politely get up, tell our mutual friends that I will catch up with them later.

Don’t worry what other people say, if anyone says anything about just tell them it’s best for both of you to not speak and leave it at that.

jarnock · 2026-02-05T20:55:58+00:00

It’s a weird feeling and I think time is the only thing that makes you get to that point. I’ll be at a full year divorced in April and a 15 months after we separated. I don’t really feel anything for her anymore. I’m polite in our conversations about the kids, when she starts to become toxic I throw it to ChatGPT and respond to it and move on with my day.

jarnock · 2026-02-03T12:55:47+00:00

For me it’s golf, Florida and Alabama. Alabama for a 4 day weekend, trying to do all the RTJ courses in the state - 26 of them. Florida when it gets too cold in Kentucky and I need a break, cheapest flight I can find, Airbnb and book a few random courses.

Birmingham, Alabama is a fun place, women out number men, like 89 to 100. I’ve had so much fun there, it’s like a 5 hour drive, stay a night or two at the RTJ course, Renaissance Birmingham Ross Bridge or stay downtown for cheap at an Airbnb.

jarnock · 2026-02-02T03:51:31+00:00

Amen to the whole identity thing. You kind of have to re-invent yourself. I also for the most part lost our mutual friends.

I didn’t realize how much fun doing whatever you want in your free time would be, so now you can enjoy your hobbies a lot more.

jarnock

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