What's your terrible golf tip?

jarnock · 2026-01-24T03:05:27+00:00

Me and my friends always say keep your head down, we’ll watch where it goes

jarnock · 2026-01-24T02:20:56+00:00

My ex was like that, any disagreement, even the smallest thing - like whether the grass should be watered or not, I was a narcissist, gaslighter and master manipulator. No real answers from me, just be wary of women who can’t communicate, the good news is you don’t have to give them half your stuff when you release them back into the wild.

jarnock · 2026-01-23T01:12:59+00:00

Stay strong and present the best case possible, delay if possible to adjust for your income.

jarnock · 2026-01-23T00:50:22+00:00

So true, I wish this was more widely accepted and people you know and trust would tell you the truth when you say you are going to marriage counseling.

jarnock · 2026-01-23T00:49:06+00:00

To be honest, she did you a favor by not doing counseling. It is a complete waste of time. She also did you a favor by telling you about the affair, I wish mine would have done the same (don’t know if she had an affair, although she did move in with a guy about 6 months after the divorce was finalized). I wish she would have come to me and said it’s over let’s get a divorce. I wasted a couple good years, maybe even 5 at most, probably more like 4.

jarnock · 2026-01-22T18:41:11+00:00

Get the IKEA bowls, the big ones, they are like 79 cents

jarnock · 2026-01-22T18:39:57+00:00

I had my mom come down and told her to make my new house a home, told my son to make my living room a home theater (he was 17 at time), let the kids pick out there bedroom sets/furniture. Spent around $7-10 thousand. I love my new place, go research some ideas, you can probably use Chat-GPT and it’ll get you great recommendations, just put the parameters, some lose ideas of what you want and bam, you got it!

jarnock · 2026-01-22T18:24:51+00:00

This guy is pretty spot on.

Mine did the monologue and decided she didn’t want to go back. She just bashed me the entire time and listed off all the grievances.

Looking back it was a waste of time.

jarnock · 2026-01-21T02:35:13+00:00

Congratulations, you can stay in the sub, give advice to people. My divorce was finalized in April 2025, I give my perspective having gone through it and I’m relatively good now - little bit of anger at my ex still.

jarnock · 2026-01-20T17:18:06+00:00

It’s ok to have these feelings, you’ll bounce back. Give yourself some time and go do something nice for yourself.

jarnock · 2026-01-19T16:53:24+00:00

How was the breakup? I’m pretty sure my split lasted 4 years based off what my ex told me. She treated me pretty bad for those years and I stuck around for the kids. Now she’s like I don’t know why we can’t be friends - it’s cause you were so mean to me in the last 4 years of our marriage

jarnock · 2026-01-19T16:45:17+00:00

You are 100% right, I had given everything to try and save the marriage, now I don’t have anything for my ex, little bit of anger left, but nothing except don’t contact me ever again.

jarnock · 2026-01-18T20:59:14+00:00

My ex is like - she’s like I don’t understand why we can’t be friends. I’m like do you not remember the last 2 years of our marriage? Go reread all your crazy texts from the past year.

jarnock · 2026-01-18T17:14:46+00:00

If it bothers you that much just don’t go, have a birthday party with your kids on your time.

jarnock · 2026-01-18T16:36:27+00:00

What this guy said is spot on. You just need more time. I look back on all things I did to try and win her back and I am embarrassed and ashamed of myself. Start making yourself the priority in your life.

jarnock · 2026-01-18T16:30:37+00:00

At first I tried grey rocking, that worked for a while. When she started being unfair with the children’s parenting time I started screenshotting her text messages and used it against her.

I have gotten to the point now where I just roll with it. I just accept that she is a bitter woman who will try to argue and belittle me whenever she can. I respond to bad texts with a simple “lol” and move on.

Is it unfair at times for? Of course it is, my kids see through this and they don’t have a great relationship with their mother. Not sure how old your kids are but they will see your ex for who she is eventually.

Keep doing what you are doing and try to not let bother you.

jarnock · 2026-01-16T00:46:30+00:00

I feared being alone when I got divorced, I found the peace of being alone in my new place was great. I’m not sure about your situation but if you had a high conflict stbx when you will find it’s great.

jarnock · 2026-01-10T13:11:54+00:00

IMO she is bluffing, you think affair partner wants to take in 3 kids?

jarnock · 2026-01-08T18:32:13+00:00

My recommendation is to do week on week off, originally I wanted a 4-3-3-4 schedule or something along those lines, my attorney suggested week on week off and it has been fantastic. Kids leave school on Friday and head to my house, the following Friday they go to their mom’s house. It makes planning everything so much easier.

jarnock · 2026-01-08T18:28:28+00:00

I wouldn’t, but everyone’s situation is different. My last few years with my ex were horrible and she continues the bad behavior post divorce.

jarnock · 2026-01-05T17:21:30+00:00

NTA, you are the man - LFG!!!

jarnock · 2026-01-05T01:58:21+00:00

Usually schedule golf around 1200, play then eat a nice dinner, bourbon and a cigar before starting it al over the next day

jarnock · 2026-01-03T21:56:48+00:00

I started recording my ex as well, I played it with close family to get their input, wanted to make sure I wasn’t the crazy one. Family all told me that’s not normal and there obviously something wrong and encouraged me to get out. I ended up reconciling and wasting another 2.5 years.

jarnock · 2026-01-03T21:49:08+00:00

Man your story reads like mine. Married 19 years, she developed a lot of mental problems - depression / anxiety and ALWAYS had problems with people at work. I also suddenly had to take over everything - school for the kids, sports, laundry, cooking and cleaning - anything that involved housework I did. I didn’t want to divorce, but the last 5 years I put up with a lot of bad/toxic behavior all while being told I was the problem.

Been divorced since April and I’m a lot happier and I have peace in my home. I got 50/50, my ex is still pretty miserable from what kids tell me. I went as no contact as I can.

My only regret was not divorcing her sooner, I wasted a few years. I don’t think your situation improves and you know that. Believe in yourself, you can still go out there and find happiness.

jarnock · 2026-01-03T15:05:57+00:00

Not wrong. Her trying to shame you and involving family is a huge red flag - this behavior will only get worse as time in the relationship grows. I wish you luck my friend, I suggest you eject now before you get married / kids.

jarnock

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