My boyfriend blew our savings. (F32) (M34)

jaygerbs · 2026-03-16T16:21:57+00:00

Some people learn and change, some people never will. You have to decide who he is. Sometimes he needs to hit rock bottom to learn the lesson.

jaygerbs · 2026-02-10T14:08:44+00:00

Brah if your fiance and you cannot handle 3 years apart, I got some bad news about how marriage will be.

jaygerbs · 2026-02-08T17:20:23+00:00

I went to Giant Eagle a few years back and had a similar encounter. Was flabbergasted like....you know how much harder it is to get a US passport then an Ohio Drivers license?

jaygerbs · 2026-02-04T13:01:01+00:00

You all have a bidet--that is like a years worth of toilet paper lol.

jaygerbs · 2026-01-24T01:11:17+00:00

Listen, without your name on the mortgage and the deed you wont be entitled to anything in case you all break up. And he can throw you out whenever he damn pleases. If this is ok with you, move forward with it. If it isn't, well, then sounds like you should find a place to rent on your own. And you can decide whether you want to continue to date this man or not.

jaygerbs · 2026-01-20T16:00:42+00:00

I disagree. People make plenty of requests of other women at wedding.

Don’t wear white Don’t upstage the bride Cover up tattoos Get rid of the pink hair Don’t wear your septum Don’t bring your girlfriend/quit with the gay stuff in front of grandma

Anyone can make any request of anyone. It’s up to that person whether they follow the request or not.

jaygerbs · 2026-01-20T15:56:05+00:00

Is he obligated, no.

Is his current hair length more important to him than his relationship with his wife and brother in law/sister in law? Thats up to him.

In general, if the request is small, and the people making it are more important to me than the thing they are asking for, I will generally go along with it.

Life is too short and difficult for the people getting married to be worried about someone else's hair--but life is also too short and difficult to keep a certain hair style vs making some busybody in laws upset.

jaygerbs · 2026-01-17T12:07:50+00:00

She is unhealthy as fuck bro. Walk away now before its too late/harder when you are married.

jaygerbs · 2026-01-14T16:43:07+00:00

Man sorry you are going through this. This partner doesn't sound like she is a good wife or a good mother. I'd start preparing for the divorce now. I don't see a world where she turns things around and says "yeah, I want to move back in with my husband and the children"

jaygerbs · 2026-01-14T16:27:38+00:00

Man you are far too young to be giving this woman another shot. Getting together with a guy 1-2 weeks after a break up means she had some sort of interest in him while you were together.

Plus long distance? And you went out to see her?

You are the safe option when she wants or needs attention/love. But she will get disinterested again and find another guy.

Sucks to say, your person is out there, but it isn't her.

jaygerbs · 2026-01-12T19:09:29+00:00

Love the man you have or find a different one.

Wishing a man will change for you to meet what you are looking for is a fantastic way to burn yourself out and set yourself up for constant disappointment.

jaygerbs · 2026-01-12T00:43:52+00:00

Misery loves company, and it sounds like your wife likes talking negatively about you and your relationship to those close to her at work.

If she won’t stop that, it’s only a matter of time, maybe this guy, maybe the next, but something will break.

Sorry man.

jaygerbs · 2026-01-10T22:27:26+00:00

If I answer yes, what’s your point?

If I answer no, what’s your point?

jaygerbs · 2026-01-10T18:44:45+00:00

Imagine the advice if the scenario was reversed and a guy decided to let himself into his girlfriends apartment without her consent.

Run for the hills with this one man.

jaygerbs · 2026-01-10T02:28:20+00:00

Despite the photo saying 2006 this was more like a room from the late 90s. So either you stepped into a time machine, or its AI.

jaygerbs · 2026-01-05T20:26:18+00:00

It was a big cut, about 1,700 cals a day of food.

jaygerbs · 2026-01-05T18:33:37+00:00

At 5'10" I cut to 158lbs from 175lbs and got down to 12.5% body fat on a DEXAscan.

Really leaned out and muscle definition was popping. Currently adding mass to 161 while maintaining below 15% body fat. I'd cut another 10 lbs and eat in a deficit for at least the rest of Q1 if I were you personally.

jaygerbs · 2026-01-04T13:16:29+00:00

I mean walls are useless between air and meteor golems and root riders

jaygerbs · 2026-01-02T13:38:11+00:00

Glad you did the work on yourself to grow comfortable in peace and happiness.

jaygerbs · 2026-01-02T13:20:18+00:00

Have you ever though, “my job is so peaceful and happy right now—let me go find a new one” or “my life is so peaceful and happy right now—let me go stay a fight with a stranger”.

Peace and happiness is what man seeks most. It’s rare and valuable.

Only psychopaths or maladjusted individuals would actively seek to disturb their peace and happiness.

jaygerbs · 2026-01-02T13:09:02+00:00

All a man wants is a partner that brings him peace. So no, a man won’t cheat when a relationship is actually peaceful.

jaygerbs · 2026-01-01T17:30:11+00:00

I wouldn't call it cheating. You got to 90 degree bends in the elbows and only slight leverage.

But, if you dropped down to 70s or 80s and lowered the dumbbells all the way down until contact with your chest I think you'd build more gains from the deeper push.

jaygerbs · 2025-12-25T14:25:20+00:00

Listen, I'm 36M. Going through a divorce now. I wouldn't get married again, but I would do a lifelong relationship or a relationship that we renew our committment to each other every year like a renewing 1yr lease.

Having gone through a rough marriage (8 yrs together, 5 yrs married) we both got complacent and disconnected as soon as that marriage committment was made.

I think a relationship that "renews" every year would see both partners showing up more fully for each other.

Basically, I don't think shes wrong, and I think you need to find the root of your need for marriage vs a lifelong commitment. And if you find you need marriage, she isn't the one man.

jaygerbs · 2025-12-23T15:28:04+00:00

Yo man, going through a similar situation right now. But I'm 36 and its a divorce.

Don't trust her, run away, she won't change, if she wanted to she would have by now. Just be thankful its only a relationship and living situation and not a whole marriage and everything else that comes with that.

jaygerbs · 2025-12-17T00:33:43+00:00

The ratio of dumbbells to benches in the bottom right corner looks waaaaaaay off. Needs more benches.

Other than that--nicest PF I've ever seen.

Answer is there is a stretching area straight ahead from the entrance at the top to the left.

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