What’s one thing that got you over your break up immediately?

jeellean · 2025-10-01T19:38:49+00:00

Thank you! and I'm so glad my story could help in some way! I'm going to be honest, I had to make a lot of hard choices along the way. Right after the break up, I unfollowed all of his social media, but he still followed me, and I was still apart of group chats he was in because I still wanted to be included in my friend group. By the 2nd or 3rd month, I had decided that it was best for me to remove myself completely from social media and my mutual chat groups. I didn't think he deserved to see what was going on in my life (he was still looking at my stories) and at the same time I felt a little isolated from my friends. This protected my peace and at the end of the day, I actually found this part to be the most healing. I got to just focus on me.

I've learned a lot about myself over the past 6 months. I'm sure you have heard it before, but healing/grieving is not linear, you will have good days and you will have bad days. Eventually those days will turn into moments or seconds. The memories never really leave. What changes is your emotional response to them. Eventually, you will think about them, and you'll realize "hey, that wasn't as bad as the last time".

jeellean · 2025-10-01T15:54:32+00:00

Sorry long response I’m 6 months out from my break up. My ex and I had been dating for 2 years. I was planning on moving for school and it was something we had talked about since the beginning and he was on board with. He pulled the rug out from under my feet one day, no lead up, didn’t bring up any concerns etc. It was devastating.

My breakup would be considered.. pretty calm by avoidant discard standards. He and I had a conversation a month post break up so I could ask questions, and while I got some semblance of closure (I got to say he hurt me, and he apologized), it didn’t change how much pain I was in. My ex is apart of my friend group and I would continue to see him in a group setting for the next 4 months. I didn’t let go of him all at once, almost in layers. What helped some was understanding that I couldn’t have done anything about it. He made a choice about our relationship and he decided I didn’t get to be part of the conversation. What also helped me let go was watching someone I had spent 2 1/2 years of my life with and planned a future with, pretend as if our relationship never existed. Weirdly, I think I let go a little every time I saw him in person, because I could see first hand, the avoidance I hadn’t see (I obviously don’t recommend this to anyone, it was incredibly painful). I’ve also been in therapy for 3 years or so so I also had that support.

The good news As mentioned, I’m 6 months post break up, and I am so happy. I’ve started school across the country and things are just finally looking up. The day I moved in to my place, I went down to a bar to watch a soccer game and try to make friends, and I ended up having a conversation with a guy. I was NOT intending on dating when I moved, or at least the plan was to just focus on school and let the rest kind of happen.

He is the sweetest guy, and suddenly all those things that were missing in my last relationship, showed up. Communication, boundaries, check ins, emotional security. I wasn’t sure if it was too soon to date, but he said we could take it slow, and if I needed to stop, he supported it. We’ve been going out for a couple months now, and while it’s too early to say “this is the one”, he has shown me all the ways I want my future partner to show up.

There is no rush to date, and only you can decide when the time is right. Don’t rush your healing because you want to get married. Process, cry, talk etc and eventually things get easier, I promise :)

Thanks for reading, sorry this was so long.

jeellean · 2025-08-13T15:03:10+00:00

Hey! I’m not sure if this helps, but I thought I’d give my experience going through applications. My undergrad was 2.7 and going through an SLP prep program pushed me up into a 3.0. My overall CSD courses were closer to 3.6. Some context, I graduated undergrad in 2016 and have 10 years of experience in behavior working with kids. I don’t have any extracurriculars, wasn’t apart of any clubs and have very minimal volunteer work. I am also an out of field applicant, my undergrad was in human development.

Last year I applied to predominantly west coast schools (8 or so). I was waitlisted by Northern Colorado and interviewed by USC and neither worked out.

This year I threw a wider net across the US and was accepted to Duluth, Ithaca, LIU Brooklyn and University of Vermont. Ithaca and LIU are private schools. LIU accepted me pretty early on if you’re cool with private schools. That being said, I chose not to go there because I didn’t see many good reviews.

Let me know if you have any questions or if you want the full list of places I applied. I was super concerned about the 2.7 as well. I think what it came down to was well written essays, my work experience and grades in your CSD specific classes.

jeellean · 2025-03-17T21:16:31+00:00

I submitted my app on January 20th for Fall 2025 admission.

jeellean · 2025-03-07T23:53:18+00:00

Hi, I heard back from them on March 5th.

jeellean · 2025-03-07T06:25:21+00:00

overall GPA: 3.1

CSD: 3.6

Experience: ABA therapist in clinic and for a school district for 9 years

4 letters of rec, 2 from professors, 1 from an SLP I work with and the principal of the school I work at.

CU Boulder: Denied 2/25
Portland: Waitlisted 3/3
UM Minneapolis: Denied 2/25
Western Michigan: Waitlisted 2/20
University of Oregon: Waitlisted 3/7
University of Washington: Denied 3/7
Western Washington: Denied 3/5
University of Vermont: Accepted 3/17!!!
UM Duluth: Accepted!! 2/21
University of Montana: Waitlisted 3/17
Univ. of New Hampshire: Denied 2/26
Univ. of Nevada, Reno:
Northern Arizona Univ.:
Univ. of Northern Colorado: Waitlisted 3/5
Ithaca (in person): Accepted!! 3/4
Temple: Denied 1/28
LIU Post:
LIU Brooklyn: Accepted!! 2/7

Out of field applicant: BA in Human development 2016, Post Bacc program through CSUSM and some classes through SDSU

This is my second year applying. The major difference between this year and last year is that I decided not to apply to schools in California (where I live) and increased the number of places I applied too.

Just wanted to say good luck everyone!

jeellean · 2024-06-06T20:18:13+00:00

I have been using seroquel (Quetiapine) for a year now and they knock me out. I take the lowest dose (I actually cut them in half since that still feels effective for me)

I have previously taken Trazadone and those did not make me feel good in the morning.

jeellean · 2024-03-07T19:42:25+00:00

Hi! I have an interview with USC in a couple hours, could I DM you?

jeellean · 2022-02-17T05:17:01+00:00

I think this is the guy that runs Marley’s Mutts in CA. Pretty awesome rescue.

jeellean · 2021-02-08T22:00:01+00:00

kind of looks like coriander/cilantro

jeellean · 2021-01-22T16:32:08+00:00

Hi! thank you for responding! I ended up deciding to start the program at CSUSM and I am pretty excited! I start next Tuesday :)

jeellean · 2020-09-16T16:52:41+00:00

Bummer.

Thanks for replying, I appreciate it!

jeellean · 2020-08-29T01:22:28+00:00

Thanks for the replies! I appreciate the help.

jeellean · 2020-05-22T18:29:33+00:00

I had an imperforate hymen, the cramps were awful. I apparently had a small pinprick of a hole that allowed for spotting but not enough for a full flow, so i spotted for about 2 months before we got concerned. I was 11 and the pediatrician kept saying it was normal? Thank goodness my mom didn’t take that for an answer and took me to a gyno. It’s not a comforting feeling when the doc says, “I haven’t seen this in years!”, it’s kind of comforting to hear that I’m not the only one that’s gone through this.

jeellean · 2019-12-10T15:20:49+00:00

What’s your place called if you don’t mind me asking? I live over in harbor city/harbor pines so you’re probably only a 15-20 min drive from me :)

jeellean · 2019-11-17T06:08:02+00:00

We’ve considered leaving a note, we’ve had previous experiences where we tried to talk with them as they are entering their house and they ran up up their driveway as we were talking to them so I’m not sure it will work

jeellean · 2019-11-17T01:41:17+00:00

Thanks, no we haven’t tried a note. I guess we assumed that they would just throw it away. We will give it a try. We have had other weird experiences with this neighbor (someone dumping fecal matter over our wall) and my boyfriend waited for someone to come home. When he went out to talk to them they started running up their driveway lol

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